Once Upon a Stranger

The Science of How “Small” Talk Can Add Up to a Big Life

"If you’ve ever avoided talking to strangers, this book might change your mind about giving them their space. And that, as Gillian so perfectly explains, might change everything." —Angela Duckworth, NEW YORK TIMES bestselling author of GRIT

Discover how making connections with strangers leads to positive shifts in our everyday lives, from preeminent researcher and professor of the psychology of kindness Dr. Gillian Sandstrom.

Do you ever feel lonely, even in a crowd? Do you feel anxious or worried about what others think of you, or struggle to make friends? You are not alone. But the truth is, opportunities for positive connection and community are all around you.

In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Gillian Sandstrom reveals that by talking to strangers, we can unlock more joy, curiosity, and goodwill every day. In an age when loneliness is a social health crisis and harmful behaviors like groupthink increase our perception of distance and polarization, this transformational guide explains the benefits of stretching our perceived limits and connecting with our fellow humans, including:

• Increased happiness and wellbeing
• Improved social skills and self-esteem
• Reduced anxiety and social biases
• Expanded connections and social circles

Combining powerful scientific findings with stories from her own life, Dr. Sandstrom offers us a new vision of a life well lived, when we have the courage to reach out and simply say, “hello.”

Supplemental enhancement PDF accompanies the audiobook.

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As shy person looking for advice on how to approach and talk to strangers I found this book unhelpful. The author's gist seems to be "learn to talk to strangers" but fails to deliver the message about how that is to be accomplished.