The Gaslight Effect

How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life

In this groundbreaking guide, the prominent therapist Dr. Robin Stern shows how the Gaslight Effect works, how you can decide which relationships can be saved and which you have to walk away from—and how to gasproof your life so you'll avoid gaslighting relationship.

Your husband crosses the line in his flirtations with another woman at a dinner party. When you confront him, he asks you to stop being insecure and controlling. After a long argument, you apologize for giving him a hard time.

Your mother belittles your clothes, your job, and your boyfriend. But instead of fighting back, you wonder if your mother is right and figure that a mature person should be able to take a little criticism.

If you think things like this can’t happen to you, think again. Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from.

Are you being gaslighted? Check for these telltale signs:

1) Does your opinion of yourself change according to approval or disapproval from your spouse?

2) When your boss praises you, do you feel as if you could conquer the world?

3) Do you dread having small things go wrong at home—buying the wrong brand of toothpaste, not having dinner ready on time, a mistaken appointment written on the calendar?

4) Do you have trouble making simple decisions and constantly second guess yourself?

5) Do you frequently make excuses for your partner's behavior to your family and friends?

6) Do you feel hopeless and joyless?


Includes a bonus PDF of appendices from the book.

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Compassionate and honest in equal parts, the Gaslight Effect is like a sturdy, truth-telling friend in difficult times. Robin Stern will show you you’re not alone in your toxic relationship, and she’ll also help you identify your role and how to change–and be a stronger, wiser person as a result.”
—Rachel Simmons, bestselling author of Odd Girl Out

An essential survival tool. In a clear, comforting, and sophisticated voice, therapist Robin Stern takes her psychologically abused readers on a step-by-step journey that will help them take control of their lives and their destinies.”
—Phyllis Chesler, PhD, author of Woman’s Inhumanity To Woman

THE ORIGINAL: STILL A GREAT PLACE TO START

'GASLIGHTING' is a common term these days. Few know what it means. This author coined the term. bIf your curious about this concept, start here.

Life changing

So helpful for me, and really great narrator. So often the narrator is a huge distraction, but the book and the narrator go well together.

Gender examples need updating

Great information. However, the book reinforces the stereotype that the male is predominantly the gaslighter and the female is the victim. This concern is briefly addressed in the beginning of the book. However, men also fall prey to this type of emotional abuse and this should be illustrated in the provided example throughout the book.

Excellent book audio

You need a lot of courage to read this book if you are a man. Give yourself room to change and grace to relearn and undo. Great book!

Amazing!

It’s the most amazing book I’ve read.
Easy to understand. Easy to listen.
Keep your eyes open!
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