Engineers aren’t Rational w/ Michael Porcelli

The leap from complicated to complex is where most technical leadership breaks.

In code, you can debug.

You can rewind, edit, and restart.

But in a room full of brilliant people who can’t stand each other, those rules don’t apply.

I recently sat down with Michael Porcelli, founder of Meta Relating, to discuss why "systems thinking" usually fails when it meets "human feeling."

The Big Shifts:

• The "I Don’t Know" Power Move: Why admitting ignorance is actually the fastest way to build technical trust.
• The Third Body: Treating a relationship not as two people, but as a living system with its own history and logic.
• The "Opposite" Heuristic: Why solving a relational knot often requires doing the exact opposite of your first intuition.