We're back. Season 2 is here and we are straight into it. Well, not straight...

This week we're tackling one of the most requested topics in the history of this show: how do you stay connected to your bi+ identity when you're in a monogamous relationship? And what does your partner actually need to know?

Whether you've ever thought maybe I'm not bi enough because I'm in a relationship, or you're a partner trying to figure out how to show up, this one's for both of you.

In this episode:

• Attraction, identity and relationship agreement are three completely different things. We use Robin Och's definition of bisexuality to unpack why the "scorecard" question is the wrong question entirely — and who keeps asking for it.
• Mixed orientation relationships. What happens when one person in a relationship is bi+ and the other isn't, and why the unspoken agreement is almost always the most dangerous one.
• For the partner listening. Your bi+ person isn't afraid of you. They're afraid of everything the world has told you about them. There's a difference and it matters.
• The research is clear. Partner acceptance doesn't just make bi+ people feel better. It makes relationships better. We get into why.
• Chad's personal story. Coming out to his late partner Heidi mid-relationship — the rupture it created, the conversations that followed, and how it became one of the greatest joys of his life.
• And more!

Monogamy does not cancel bisexuality. Non-monogamy does not prove it.

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We’re busting more bi+ myths with clear, practical answers: identity vs politics, the “prove it” trap, couples seeking women on apps, ageing and labels, and why health gaps are about stigma—not sexuality. Plus Rainbow Election Forum takeaways, Qtopia’s Sydney Pride Fest news, and a moving tribute to Heidi.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

- You don’t owe anyone a dating résumé. Your identity isn’t up for audit.

- “Queer” can feel political; “bisexual” can be a simple description—both are valid.

- App dynamics are shaped by culture and numbers—don’t scapegoat bi+ people.

- Bisexuality doesn’t disappear with age; safety, language, and context shift.

- Bi mental-health gaps are driven by stigma and minority stress, not by being bi.

CHAPTERS

- Opening Thanks & Community Care

- Rainbow Election Forum: Wins and Gaps

- Qtopia Sydney Pride Fest: What’s Coming

- Star Observer: Why We Show Up

- Myth: “Bi Needs to Be Political”

- Myth: “You Must Prove Your Bi-ness”

- Myth: “Couples Only Seek Women on Apps”

- Ageing and Labels: What Actually Changes

- Bi Health: Stigma vs Sexuality

- Closing Notes + Tribute

RESOURCES MENTIONED

- Rainbow Election Forum — Community Q&A with political leaders — https://equalityaustralia.org.au/our-work/rainbow-votes/

- Health Equity Matters — https://www.healthequitymatters.org.au/

- Qtopia Sydney Pride Fest — Festival mentioned — https://qtopiasydney.com.au/pride-fest-2025/

- Star Observer — Monthly column — https://www.starobserver.com.au/category/give-it-to-me-bi

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MEMORABLE QUOTES

“You don’t have to prove anything to anyone.” — Host

“There’s no one correct way to be bi.” — Host

“It’s stigma—not sexuality—that harms our health.” — Host

CREDITS

Hosted by Steve Spencer and Chad Barnier.

Audio Production and Editing by Chad Barnier.

Podcast artwork by Chad Barnier.

CONTENT NOTE

This podcast often discusses themes of mental and physical health, suicide, minority stress, and politics.

TRANSCRIPT NOTE

Transcripts are auto-generated—apologies for any inaccuracies.

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ACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF COUNTRY

Give It To Me Bi acknowledge that we live and work on Gadigal Land. We acknowledge the Traditional Custodians of this land and pay our respects to Elders past and present. Sovereignty was never ceded.

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In this episode of Give It To Me Bi, Chad and Steve tackle the intersections of bisexuality and physical health, unpacking the unique disparities Bi+ folks face in health systems, studies, and lived experience. From breaking down minority stress and the AIB (Attraction, Identity, Behaviour) model to candid chats about disability, health journeys, and everything in between—this episode is a blend of research-backed insight and heartfelt personal stories. PLUS, a major announcement: the very first Give It To Me Bi Live Show is happening this June for Pride Month at Qtopia Sydney—and you're invited.

• Bisexuals & Health Gaps: Why bisexual individuals face unique physical health risks—including earlier onset disability and chronic illness.
• The AIB Model: Breaking down why attraction, identity, and behaviour all matter—and how research often fails us.
• Internalised Ableism & Productivity Guilt: Chad and Steve get real about disability, chronic illness, and the societal shame around “doing less.”
• What Actually Helps: From electrolyte trauma to walking with purpose—realistic, body-positive tips for health without shame.
• Live Show Reveal! We’re kicking off Pride Month at Qtopia Sydney with our first-ever live podcast taping AND a bonus community panel night.

🗓️ Mon 2 June 2025 | Get Tickets

Join us for Give It To Me Bi: LIVE!, our first-ever live show and a powerful all-star Bi+ panel.

👉 How to Support Someone Who Has Recently Come Out as Bisexual

Studies:

• Dyar et al. (2019). Physical Health Disparities Across Dimensions of Sexual Orientation, Race/Ethnicity, and Sex: Evidence for Increased Risk Among Bisexual Adults. Archives of sexual behavior, 48(1), 225–242. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-018-1169-8
• Fredriksen-Goldsen et al. (2012). Disability among lesbian, gay, and bisexual adults: disparities in prevalence and risk. American journal of public health, 102(1), e16–e21. https://doi.org/10.2105/AJPH.2011.300379
• Taylor et al. (2019). Bisexual mental health: Findings from the 'Who I Am' study. Australian journal of general practice, 48(3), 138–144. https://doi.org/10.31128/AJGP-06-18-4615

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