What if true self-care isn’t just what you do internally, but how you choose to show up in the world?

In this powerful and deeply personal conversation, Kathy Love sits down with Jessica Papineau to explore confidence, visibility, and the emotional connection between how we see ourselves and how we present ourselves.

Jessica Papineau is the founder of CSJ Styling, a leading personal styling company dedicated to empowering female entrepreneurs on a mission to change the world. With over 25 years in the fashion industry, she has helped thousands of women harness the power of style to serve their purpose, boost their confidence, and elevate their image. From seven-figure entrepreneurs and executives of billion-dollar global brands to influential creators and leaders in entertainment, sports, and music, Jessica’s expertise transforms wardrobes into a strategic tool for success.

She understands that style is more than clothing—it’s a catalyst for confidence, visibility, and impact. By curating wardrobes that align with each client’s vision, Jessica helps high-achieving women step fully into their power, show up with clarity, and make a lasting impression in every aspect of their lives.

A recognized thought leader in personal styling, Jessica has been featured on ABC News, She Means Business Magazine July 2025 Cover, Voice of Changes - Top 40 Speakers, spotlighted in top podcasts, and listed among MSN’s Top 10 Self-Made Women to Follow in 2025 and in top entrepreneurial publications such as LA Wire, Women's Journal, She Means Business, and NY Weekly. Jessica was featured in the book "Slaying Sarasota," and was a nominee for Sarasota Magazine’s ‘Women Who Roar’ Leadership Award. She continues to drive conversations about the intersection of style, confidence, and personal growth. Through CSJ Styling, she is redefining what it means to cultivate a wardrobe that not only looks extraordinary but serves as a tool for personal and professional transformation.

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When women align how they feel internally with how they present externally, they naturally become more confident, visible, and open to new opportunities.

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Kathy Love is a self-care coach, speaker, author, and host of the Self-Care Sht* podcast. She helps people reconnect to themselves, build self-trust, and create lives rooted in purpose, boundaries, and emotional well-being.

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In this uplifting episode of the Self-Care Sht* podcast, host Kathy Love sits down with her friend Clayton, a leadership trainer and mindfulness teacher, to explore how a 20-year finance career evolved into a life devoted to presence, service, and practical self-care.

Clayton shares the inflection point that changed everything: a values-based approach to money (inspired by George Kinder) that unexpectedly led him out of finance and into not-for-profit work, meditation, and eventually corporate leadership training grounded in mindfulness and neuroscience. From the “brain’s negativity bias” to why gratitude works on a biological level, this conversation is equal parts science, storytelling, and totally usable tools.

You’ll hear how meditation can live far beyond the cushion—on the pickleball court, in the shower, or in a tough conversation in your kitchen—and why the real magic is noticing (without judgment) and then choosing your next best action. Also: the funniest unexpected benefit of meditation? Becoming “a little less of a jerk.” 😂

🔑 Key Takeaways

• Mind–Heart Alignment: A successful career can still feel misaligned. Mindfulness helped Clayton move from “head only” to a purpose rooted in service.
• Meditation Is a Tool, Not a Trophy: It’s not about bliss; it’s about practicing awareness so you can choose your response when life gets real.
• Negativity Bias Is Normal: Our brains are “Velcro for threat and Teflon for reward.” Gratitude—specific and embodied—helps rebalance the system.
• Everyday Mindfulness Works: Showers, walks, eating, golf, pickleball—if you intentionally engage your senses, you’re training presence.
• Humor Heals: Laughter can downshift tension and create space for wiser choices (and kinder relationships).

👤 About the Guest

Clayton is a leadership trainer and mindfulness teacher who blends neuroscience, soft-skills coaching, and practical meditation for real-world impact. After two decades in finance and a decade in nonprofit fundraising, he now helps teams and leaders build clarity, calm, and courage through mindful presence. He hosts a free Friday Morning Online Meditation featuring centering practice, a short talk, and guided meditation, with open community sharing afterward. (Details and contact in the links below.)

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Executive coach and fractional CHRO Lauren Lefkowitz gets real about how “fine” keeps high-achievers stuck—and what it actually takes to build a sustainable career and life. Lauren shares the jaw-dropping moment that forced her to stop people-pleasing (yes, it involved a Roomba and two broken shoulders), and how she rebuilt with boundaries, therapy, guided meditation, accountability, and celebration. We unpack codependency at work, the fear of being labeled “lazy,” and why saying no isn’t mean—it’s mature. You’ll learn Lauren’s simple Notice → Decide → Do framework, how to use the pause/breath before you act, and why the feelings wheel belongs in every leader’s toolkit. If you’ve ever said “it’s fine” while your body screams otherwise, this conversation is your loving wake-up call. (Grab Lauren’s free Fine Is A Trap inventory and connect with her—links in the show notes.)

3 Key Takeaways:

1. Notice → Decide → Do (with a Pause).
   Slow down first. Notice what you’re saying yes to, decide what truly serves you, then do—after a breath.
2. Boundaries aren’t lazy—they’re leadership.
   Redefine “selfish” as self-honoring. A clear no protects your health, work, and relationships—and you’re still worthy even if others don’t like it.
3. Support and celebration are self-care.
   Therapy, accountability partners, sleep, guided meditation, the feelings wheel—and yes, celebrating wins (even small ones) rewires “fine” into thriving.

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