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  • When Taboo Becomes Art: Exploring Erotica, Horror and Creative Freedom with Author Dixon Ahl-Knight

    When Taboo Becomes Art: Exploring Erotica, Horror and Creative Freedom with Author Dixon Ahl-Knight
    Apr 10 2026
    Season 6, Episode 734: Erotica fiction excerpts from books written by author Dixon Ahl-Knight, and narrated by podcast host Ruan Willow, plus an Author Interview touching on the following topics, When Taboo Becomes Art: Exploring Erotica, Horror, and Creative Freedom and Algorithmic Censorship forcing Coded Language: Inside Erotica writing and publishing. A conversation about erotica can lead naturally into a discussion about horror writing, because they are similar in some ways. Dixon Ahl-Knight, a small-town Iowa author who has been happily married for over twenty years...more about the author: Dixon Ahl-Knight is a small-town, Iowa-born author who loves the idea of passion and excitement in fiction and reality! Well-versed in the music/audio production industry, D.A-K decided to enter the book industry and bring the stories and fantasies of his imagination to print. When not working in the media industries, D.A-K can be found devouring the books of others, running, listening to underground music, and embarrassing his wife and kids with his silly antics and juvenile sense of humor! Find Dixon online at: @DixonAhlKnight on X Dixon_ahlknight on Instagram Dixon Ahl-Knight on Facebook dixonahlknight on TikTok Feel free to email Dixon at dixonahlknight@gmail.com FInd Dixon Ahl-Knight's books at: https://4horsemenpublications.com/product/homecoming-small-town-swingers-club-1/ https://4horsemenpublications.com/our-authors/dixon-ahl-knight/ More about the discussion: What does it actually mean to write authentically when every platform is working against you? Frankly, the conversation goes places you might not expect. Dixon explains that erotica and horror share more than you'd think (both build tension toward a climax, and the writer simply chooses where to direct the payoff). He also makes a surprisingly compelling case that writing explicit fiction is not so different from writing about being a ninja. You do not have to live something to write it. The episode digs into real tensions: AI narration disrupting the audiobook industry, Amazon's tightening content classifications, and why indie authors may be the last line of defense for creative freedom. The discussion around female empowerment in fiction, coded language on TikTok, and the Golden Pigtails award (that Ruan's book won) adds even more texture to an already layered conversation. Listen to this episode to hear a genuinely thoughtful conversation about storytelling, stigma, and staying true to your creative vision. PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠ ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ https://offers.feeliate.com/to92wTJh Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠⁠ Ruan's book in preorder: directly from Ruan https://payhip.com/b/pMxn3 At The Well Read Damsel indie bookstore: https://www.thewellreddamsel.com/product/-pre-order-beach-house-views-signed-copy-paperback-/3XR24LNPX7ARKBAQTWC2UXRF Key Takeaways: • **Algorithmic censorship forces coded language**: Social media platforms suppress sexual content through algorithms, pushing creators to use euphemisms like "spicy" instead of explicit terminology—a form of censorship that doesn't apply equally to violent content. • **Erotica enables value-neutral exploration**: Writing sexually explicit fiction allows authors to explore scenarios divorced from their personal beliefs and values, similar to how horror writers explore violence without endorsing it. • **Double standard in content judgment**: Literature faces stricter scrutiny and editorial pressure around sexual content than violent content, despite both being fictional explorations separated from authors' real-world positions. ⁠⁠⁠Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing. All Rights Reserved.
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    1 h y 33 m
  • March 2026 Podcast Interview Episodes Video Clips Recap

    March 2026 Podcast Interview Episodes Video Clips Recap
    Apr 9 2026

    Want the highlights to help you decide which full episode to watch? Here's the hottest, funniest, most poignant podcast video clips from each interview episode that aired on the Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow Podcast in March of 2026. Didn't know I have video episodes? You can find them at Ruan Willow Podcaster on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@ruanwillowpodcaster

    Substack: https://substack.com/@ruanwillow

    Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6Wjp5smXjRQy6Tl1TB6Rsy?si=ShCGJj2kTi-eXYgCGXnObQ

    You can also find videos of the podcast episodes on the PodNation Media channel on Roku TV/Fire TV devices. Most current videos can be found there.

    Full Swap Radio Internet Radio Station also airs my show in audio on Tuesdays at 6 pm CST and 8 am Wednesdays CST. The times flucuate slightly depending on lengths of other shows. They also have an app!

    To find the specific episode, enter the guest name in the search at https://directory.libsyn.com/shows/view/id/f08823e0-0d4f-49e9-89ba-59fa2d305d3a Get all the juiciest parts of each interview and taste a flavor of what each guest has to say in this collection of video clips! Enjoy these podcast video clips!

    #sexuality #sexualitypower #interviews #podcasters #podcastclips

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    John Gives His Wife Hot Adventures: Award-Winning! This novel won first place in its category on the 2025 Golden Pigtails Awards! https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/johngiveshiswifehotadventures

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    19 m
  • Oral, Doggy, Female Pleasure Focused

    Oral, Doggy, Female Pleasure Focused
    Apr 7 2026

    Season 6, Episode 732: Enjoy this replay from the previous exclusive level of the podcast! A spicy romance story with intimacy focusing on oral, doggy, and female pleasure!

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    22 m
  • Romance with Spice, Adventure, & Fireballs: The Stories We Deserve to Read with Author Melissa Lam

    Romance with Spice, Adventure, & Fireballs: The Stories We Deserve to Read with Author Melissa Lam
    Apr 3 2026
    Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow, Season 6, Episode 731: Romance, Fireballs, and the Stories We Deserve to Read with Indie Author Melissa Lam! Official Bio: Melissa Lam loves reading and writing romance books that take the reader on an emotional roller coaster full of mystery, suspense, and heartache. As an extroverted introvert who doesn't like to leave the house (because it requires wearing pants), Melissa enjoys playing strategic board games and taking long showers. When she does find the will to put pants on, she can be found traveling, enjoying bubble tea, or experiencing the world through food. TL;DR I like to eat and write about heartbreaking shit. Summary: Rarely does a guest arrive with both a fireball-throwing biker and a passionate defense of honest storytelling, but Melissa Lam brings exactly that energy to this conversation. Melissa's contemporary fantasy romance series, set in modern-day Los Angeles, centers on a powerful biker who can throw fireballs trying to understand a woman immune to all powers Her trilogy, including "Ordinary Secrets", "Captured Immune", and "Scrubbed Mind", grew out of a first draft that ballooned to 225,000 words before becoming three separate books. On writing: What does it actually mean to write romance that feels real and complete? Melissa argues that including explicit scenes reflects genuine relationships rather than being gratuitous, and she pushes back hard against the "clean versus dirty" labels that unfairly judge authors who write open-door content. Relationships in the real world often have sex, so should fiction. It's authentic! She also opens up about publishing four books within ten months, managing every aspect of indie publishing while navigating postpartum exhaustion, and why she rejects AI shortcuts in favor of real human editors, cover artists, and beta readers. Find Melissa at http://authormelissalam.com/ and on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/authormelissalam/ where she is most active. Topic timeline: From Reader to Romance Author The Versatility and Power of Profanity Understanding Romance Book Spice Levels Cutting Scenes and Managing Word Count Writing Dual POV with Male Perspective Focus Male Perspective Storytelling in Romance Books Reading Habits and Book Preferences Debate Books That Tear Your Heart Apart Motherhood and Writing: The Postpartum Challenge Balancing Social Media Pressure and Creative Writing Building a Loyal Fanbase Through Consistent Writing Why Human Editors Beat AI Tools Why Human Feedback Beats AI for Creative Work The Value of Human-Made Creative Work Authenticity in Writing vs AI-Generated Books Key Takeaways: • "Open door" spice levels aren't about purity—Melissa's first drafts contained five intimate scenes per book, but were edited down to one to meet publishing standards. • Melissa chooses a male perspective during action sequences as a deliberate narrative choice, rather than defaulting to female POV as many contemporary romance series do, creating a distinct storytelling approach in her supernatural biker romance. • A 225,000-word manuscript becoming a trilogy required cutting plot, not just romance scenes, revealing that contemporary fantasy romance often demands aggressive editing beyond just adjusting spice levels to meet market expectations. Melissa's Book Ordinary Secrets: (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/41a0LvB Ruan's Book Beach House Views: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/beachhouseviewsbook https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/243902433-beach-house-views Ruan's Links, Newsletter Signup, Affiliate links and Deals: PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow⁠ Get 10% OFF ENTIRE ORDER (min. purchase $69, no usage limits) with code RUANWILLOW10 on pleasure sex toys at https://www.kiiroo.com/ "I especially love my pearl toys from Kiiroo!"says RUAN. Toys with responsive touch are best! See them here: https://www.kiiroo.com/products/pearl3-for-performers All Ruan's links and books: ⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow⁠⁠ Affiliate link, collect your body's health and sexual health info with a wearable device for men from Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 ⁠⁠https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow⁠
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    1 h y 15 m
  • Removing Shame and Roadblocks to Women's Sexual Pleasure with Sexologist Lucy Rowett

    Removing Shame and Roadblocks to Women's Sexual Pleasure with Sexologist Lucy Rowett
    Mar 31 2026

    Season 6, Episode 730: This is a replay of an episode that aired on 4/25/25, but being reposted to provide the video version for the podcast audience.

    Removing Shame and Roadblocks to Women's Sexual Pleasure with Sexologist Lucy Rowett.

    Guest Bio:

    Lucy Rowett, CSC, is a certified sexologist and sex coach who is passionate about helping women and people with vulvas let go of sexual shame and hangups and embrace pleasure to create the passionate relationships they've always desired. She is the host of the Naked and Unashamed Life podcast, and the resident sex coach at UK contraception platform, The Lowdown.

    She is regularly quoted in the media for her expertise in sexual health and wellness, pleasure, and sexual shame- including iNews, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, GQ, The Sun, Insider, and Glamour.

    In 2023, she was nominated for somatic sexologist of the year at the sexual freedom awards. She uses a combination of mind body tools with evidence-based sexuality education to create a fun and open space for women and vulva havers to explore their full erotic potential.

    Her speciality is working with women and people with vulvas who come from Faith backgrounds who are struggling to let go of sexual shame and enjoy pleasurable and intimate relationships again.

    Summary: Breaking Free from Sexual Shame: A Revolutionary Conversation

    Dive into a transformative discussion between Ruan Willow and sexologist Lucy Rowett as they tackle the often-silenced topic of women's sexual pleasure. This eye-opening episode challenges the deeply rooted shame surrounding female sexuality and offers a fresh perspective on embracing our natural desires.

    Lucy, a specialist in supporting women and non-binary individuals, shares powerful insights about:
    - The universal impact of sexual shame across all backgrounds
    - Dismantling harmful cultural narratives that suppress pleasure
    - The importance of comprehensive sexual education
    - Understanding female arousal and the physiology of pleasure
    - Creating safe spaces for sexual exploration and expression

    The conversation navigates through the evolution of female sexuality in modern culture, from the mainstreaming of erotic literature to the vital role of sex-positive communities in fostering acceptance and growth.

    Ready to transform your relationship with pleasure and embrace a shame-free approach to sexuality? This episode is your gateway to understanding and celebrating your sexual wellbeing. Tune in now for an empowering journey towards sexual liberation. Sexual health is mental health, and your sexual wellness matters!

    Links: Learn more: https://lucyrowett.com/

    Free guide to confident sexual communication: https://bit.ly/askforwhatyoureallywant

    Free meditation to connect to your vulva: https://bit.ly/handheartv
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucylurowett

    Podcast: The Naked and Unashamed Life

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    52 m
  • On the Cusp of the Third Sexual Revolution Plus Adult Sex Ed with Educator Sabrina Baldini

    On the Cusp of the Third Sexual Revolution Plus Adult Sex Ed with Educator Sabrina Baldini
    Mar 28 2026

    Video version. The Audio version originally aired on August 1st of 2025. Season 6, Episode 729.

    The Third Sexual Revolution, & Sex Ed for Adults with Sabrina Baldini.

    Did you know we might be on the cusp of a third sexual revolution? Sex educator Sabrina Baldini shares fascinating insights from her journey transitioning from teaching sex education to kids to launching After Sex Ed, a company focused on adult sexual wellness.

    Through candid discussion, Sabrina explores:
    - The challenges of promoting sex positivity in today's censorship climate
    - How inadequate early sex education impacts adult relationships
    - The pandemic's role in catalyzing sexual awakening, self discovery, personal growth, and exploration
    - The growing demand for authentic, relatable content in adult spaces
    - Historical parallels with previous sexual revolutions (1920s and 1960s)

    Despite social media bans and societal stigma, Sabrina remains committed to fostering open conversations about sexuality, consent, and pleasure. Her work bridges the gap between traditional sex education and the real-world challenges adults face in their intimate lives.

    Ready to challenge your perspectives on sexual wellness and education? Tune in to this thought-provoking episode that's reshaping how we think and talk about sexuality.

    Estimated Timeline:

    00:00:00 - Sex Education for Adults
    00:01:43 - Challenges of Discussing Sex Education
    00:04:20 - Challenges of Sex Positivity
    00:08:04 - Talking to Kids About Consent
    00:10:00 - Understanding Healthy Sexual Feelings
    00:16:16 - The Rise of the Third Sexual Revolution
    00:22:30 - Impact of Taboo on Sexual Behavior
    00:23:41 - Trends in Authenticity and Romance
    00:26:23 - Exploring Age and Sexuality
    00:30:29 - Impact of Technology on Sexuality
    00:34:18 - Trends in Modern Relationships
    00:37:19 - Online Safety and Dating Apps
    00:38:40 - Concerns About AI in Art
    00:48:54 - Addressing Sexuality and Porn Education
    00:54:47 - Exploring Cultural Perspectives on Sexuality
    00:59:46 - Understanding Fantasy and Sexuality
    01:01:51 - Understanding Emotional Connections in Sex

    Key Takeaways:

    • Adult sexual education is often overlooked, despite the urgent need for discussions on pleasure and consent.
    • The pandemic highlighted and intensified the challenges of censorship in sexual education, affecting adult learners.
    • There is a growing movement, referred to as a third sexual revolution, that emphasizes open dialogue and authenticity in exploring sexuality.

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    1 h y 6 m
  • Oral On Vacation, Around Her World

    Oral On Vacation, Around Her World
    Mar 27 2026

    Season 6, Episode 728: This is a replay story. A delectable heterosexual spicy short romance story with teasing oral fun! Perfect for his and for her pleasure! It's another erotica fiction episode for your saucy entertainment pleasure! Listen for indulging in your well-deserved, and much needed self care time! It's your sexuality and it matters! Sexual health is a part of your mental health!
    The story: Around Her World: Marlayna and Jason are headed to their favorite hidden away resort for a long weekend of hotel intimacy and reconnection in their relationship. The teasing fun begins when Jason drops hints about a new oral technique he plans to pleasure Marlayna with once they are in the hotel room. Her anticipation runs wild as their flirting reaches inferno levels on the road trip up north. The culmination of their saucy conversation leaves both members of the couple panting heavy with satiated smiles. The resort holds repeat magic for them! It's sexual magic!

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    42 m
  • From Crime Scenes to Supernatural Worlds: Alexandria Swanson on Dark Romance and Character-Driven Writing

    From Crime Scenes to Supernatural Worlds: Alexandria Swanson on Dark Romance and Character-Driven Writing
    Mar 20 2026
    Season 6, Episode 727: The episode starts off with Ruan narrating excerpts from Alexandria Swanson's Dark Romance books, Defiance (affiliate link book link ) and Balance (affiliate link book link, then we chat about writing, crazy sex related stories Alexandria has dealt with in her job, and the lovely parts of publishing as an indie author, but dealing with the crap in a world full of censorship. Ruan's book mentioned, Beach House Views: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/beachhouseviewsbook Dark Romance Fantasy Author Alexandria Swanson bio: https://linktr.ee/alexandriaswansonauthor Alexandria has been writing short stories and poems her entire life in journals and had a great idea for a novel. Defiance was the first book she finished, with more to come! Alexandria has her B.A.s in criminology, sociology, and criminal justice with a minor in forensic science. She works as a 911 dispatcher and lives in the Minnesota metro area with her dog and cat, who keep her busy. In her free time, she enjoys rock climbing, hiking, travel and of course, writing. Alexandria is passionate about herbalism and is really bad at surfing, but she considers herself a masochist. Episode Summary: Author Alexandria Swanson shared she draws inspiration from real experiences when writing (though her writing is fantasy, not memoir), including working as a 911 dispatcher, plus with her background in her studies impacting her characters, her supernatural tales feature werewolves, witches, and vampires who have real psychological disorders, and this plays out as fully fleshed out and named in the storyline. We also discussed the crazy stuff...like the bizarre emergency calls Alexandria has handled: sex toys left in ovens, swallowed handcuff keys, and patients making dangerous decisions with household appliances. These real-life incidents are both interesting and intriguing, and a bit comical and shocking! Alexandria's books *Defiance* and *Balance* explore something rarely addressed in fantasy: how centuries-old supernatural beings experience PTSD and mental health challenges. Her pack therapist character Naya treats werewolves dealing with multi-lifetime trauma, while her protagonist Chloe struggles with night terrors based on Alexandria's own experiences. Listen to hear about the cover designer who hand-draws everything, why Alexandria loves editing (yes, really), and the book fair she will attend that podcast host Ruan Willow is hosting in Minnesota, The Honey and Jalapeno Book Fair, My 17, 2026. Topic timeline: Ruan narrates excerpts from Alexandria Swanson's books Meeting an Author at a Book Fair From Journals to Published Author Fiction vs. Reality: Blurring Personal Stories Emergency Room Stories: Handcuffs and Bad Decisions Mental Health in Fantasy and Paranormal Romance The Value of In-Person Book Fairs Censorship, Leaving TikTok Over Algorithm and Ownership Social Media Double Standards and MORE Censorship Finding a Sustainable Writing Routine Pet-Friendly Work Schedule and Writing Rituals Finding Creative Space Away From Home Loving Editing vs. Hating First Drafts Authors Must Review Every Editorial Change Designing Dual Book Covers with Human Artistry AI in Book Covers: Avoiding Hidden Technology Amazon Lost My Book and Pre-Orders! Book Printing Struggles and Independent Solutions Wrapping Up with Alexandria: Books and Social Media Instagram alexandria_swanson_author Affiliate links and Ruan's links: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow PodNation Podcast Affiliate link, Get 15% OFF with code podna15 on Ryze Coffee at ⁠https://www.ryzesuperfoods.com/⁠ ⁠Support the show and get exclusive content⁠ Sign up for Ruan's Newsletters ⁠https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow Copyright 2026 Pink Infinity Publishing. All Rights Reserved.
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    1 h y 26 m