Why Other People Trigger You—and What It Reveals About Your Own Healing

Learn how to JournalSpeak ➡️ ⁠LEARN HOW:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/2ph33u2s Today’s conversation grew out of a powerful question from our Heal with Nicole community about victim mindset, self-compassion, and the internal conflict so many of us carry without even realizing it. I use this post as a doorway into a much bigger discussion about the stories we tell ourselves, the shame we attach to certain parts of who we are, and the hidden reasons we judge other people so harshly. I also share a formative college exercise that has stayed with me for decades, one that reveals something profound: the qualities that most trigger us in others often point to disowned parts of ourselves. When we begin to understand that, rather than judge it, we open the door to real compassion. This episode is ultimately about the conflict that lives inside us and how that conflict fuels TMS, anxiety, pain, and chronic nervous system dysregulation. I talk about why it is the conflict that creates so much suffering, how self-judgment quietly fills the emotional reservoir, and why self-compassion is not optional in this work. I also walk you through a simple but powerful self-compassion practice you can begin using right away, and I invite you into a JournalSpeak exercise that can help you uncover what is really being activated beneath your resentment, rigidity, or shame. If you’ve ever wondered why certain people get under your skin, why you are so hard on yourself, or why your symptoms flare when you feel emotionally torn, this episode will give you a completely new way to understand yourself. Join us! XOOX n. ⁠⁠SUBSCRIBE TO MY NEW SUBSTACK⁠⁠! So excited about this one :)) Want your questions answered directly by me? 💛 Receive support, guidance, connection, and direct access to me with MEMBERSHIP: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/y7wadt8d⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠1:1 COACHING WITH TRAINED COACHES SUPERVISED DIRECTLY BY NICOLE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠PLEASE RATE AND REVIEW THE PODCAST HERE TO HELP OTHERS FIND IT!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Producer: Lisa Eisenpresser ~~~~~ SUPPORT: 🟠 Struggling with chronic pain? Check out my Freedom From Chronic Pain course GET THE FIRST LESSON FREE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/yuxczyba⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🟠 Anxiety disrupting your life? Try my Freedom From an Anxious Life course GET THE FIRST LESSON FREE: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/yc3vsy32⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🧠 Learn more about the brain science and clinical experiences in my book MIND YOUR BODY: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/4fd6bvdc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💛 Receive support, guidance, connection, and direct access to Nicole with MEMBERSHIP: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/y7wadt8d⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ~~~~ JOIN THE CONVERSATION ON INSTAGRAM 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/93pwbp8v ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/56vvbdcx ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ LEARN ABOUT OUR ANNUAL OMEGA RETREAT👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/3vr5j3ux⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Podcast music by the beautiful and talented Danielle Furst: on insta ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@musicfurst⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices