Before You Split

Find What You Really Want for the Future of Your Marriage

By: Toni Nieuwhof

Narrated by: Toni Nieuwhof

A former divorce attorney lays out the hidden benefits of staying together, whether you’re frustrated with your marriage, on the brink of giving up completely, or simply want to strengthen your relationship to withstand the inevitable hard times.

“Toni Nieuwhof is the guide you’ve been waiting for. Deeply wise, genuinely empathetic, and uncommonly insightful, Toni is a fresh voice with tried and true experience that offers a proven roadmap.”—Ann Voskamp, New York Times bestselling author of The Broken Way and One Thousand Gifts

If you’ve ever wanted to say, “I can’t do this anymore!” out of frustration with your marriage, you’re definitely not alone.

In this practical and insightful guide, former divorce attorney Toni Nieuwhof shows that even if you feel disconnected or stuck in your troubled marriage—and worry about its impact on your kids—there is a way forward.

Before You Split helps you find what you really want from your marriage and how to move forward to a better future by:
• seeing yourself and your spouse more clearly
• dealing with unrealistic expectations
• empowering you with constructive ways to respond to difficult emotions
• engaging the power of forgiveness
• increasing your peacemaking skills
• advancing your journey of personal growth

Even if it feels like it’s over, it’s not too late. Change takes place one step at a time. Before You Split will help you make choices with your eyes wide open.

Great Listen

well done, hits home to so many different feelings you have when you are struggling.

Opens your eyes to things you probably never thought about

Explains Scenarios almost a tea but it happened in my relationship gave suggestions and how to resolve or mitigate the issues. Explains how to deal with some of the emotions that sometimes seam overwhelming. The book will explain way to handle situation gives examples on what to do moving forward of followed without a doubt if both parties in the relationship follow and put in the same effort should save any marriage. I like that it does mention religion but does not push it onto and does not make you feel uncomfortable or feel like she is is putting you down because your not a religious person.

Excellent and insightful

I would recommend to anyone contemplating divorce, separation or desperate for a change in your marriage.

Invaluable reacource

Tonie does a masterful job of explaining in an honest and detailed way how devastating a divorce can be. Using research from the Gottman Institute as well as her own anecdotal stories, Tonie explains the three options one has as the subject of divorce is brought up. Her faith based approach has merit as well as wisdom. I’m so glad I have chosen to save my marriage and implement the tools Tonie gives to help
My marriage endure the rest of time.

Vulnerable, authentic, with practical advice

I loved this book! Toni speaks openly and honestly about the turbulent years in her marriage to a well known pastor. I found her telling of the ugly parts of their marriage and taking ownership of the parts she played, was nothing less than courageous. Anyone who's married can relate to some part of the struggle, and it shows us that pastors and their wives are not exempt from the promise of 1 Corinthians 7:28b [NIV]. It says "But those who marry will face many troubles in life" I admire her for sharing and shedding the light on a topic most people want to hide from friends and family. I'm sure Toni has changed the trajectory of some marriages through her vulnerability. I will recommend this to anyone I know who is experiencing an "unhappy" marriage. Thank you for writing this book. it will benefit many.