Connections Over Compliance

Rewiring Our Perceptions of Discipline

By: Lori L. Desautels PhD, Michael McKnight - foreword

Narrated by: Jennifer Aquino

The developing brains of our children need to "feel" safe.

Children who carry chronic behavioral challenges are often met with reactive and punitive practices that can potentially reactivate the developing stress response systems.

This book deeply addresses the need for coregulatory and relational touch point practices, shifting student-focused behavior management protocols to adult regulated brain and body states which are brain aligned, preventive, and relational discipline protocols. This new lens for discipline benefits all students by reaching for sustainable behavioral changes through brain state awareness rather than compliance and obedience.

©2021 Lori L. Desautels, PhD (P)2023 Tantor

Excellent But Left Me Wanting More

The first ten chapters were great, and very much informational, and I definitely stopped to take a lot of notes, but I was surprised at the second half of the book because it was mostly example based with exercises for the user to choose from as she did in the past with her students while teaching about how to regulation of your own emotions being just as much work before you work with someone that is disregulated. However, I wish she would have gone further into her use of an amygdala reset corner, as I know that can look so different for so many different reasons. I made a lot of notes and enjoyed that she used specific data points, however, I was less enthusiastic as the book went on because it seemed as if there were no real life scenarios as to how to set up certain strategies and stations and said classroom, but then again I have worked with children in a trauma based setting for over 15 years so a lot of this already made sense, I was just hoping for her to delve a little bit deeper into it.