Defy

The Power of No in a World That Demands Yes

By: Sunita Sah

Narrated by: Sunita Sah

NATIONAL BESTSELLER • Imagine living the life you want to lead, not the one you’re willing to accept. This profound but practical book offers clear steps to stop people pleasing and start living your truth.

“A powerful book. If you’ve ever compromised your principles to please others, Defy will give you the will—and skill—to stand up for yourself.”—Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Think Again

In a moment when many of us are anxious and unsure what to do—whether we’re confronting injustice on a social scale or facing something closer to home—award-winning researcher Dr. Sunita Sah offers simple strategies to activate your values.

How many times have you wanted to object, disagree, or opt out of something but ended up swallowing your words, shaking your head, and just going along? Featuring groundbreaking research, gripping stories, and easy everyday strategies, Defy reveals how to show up for yourself and others personally, professionally, and beyond. Dr. Sah’s data-driven approach shows why everyone needs the power of defiance and how to build this essential skill.

Learn how to:
• Take simple steps to practice defying in low-stakes situations
• Decode your body’s signals that it’s time to defy
• Activate the superpower of taking responsibility for yourself and others
• Rehearse for challenging situations; get comfortable being uncomfortable
• Teach kids the difference between being “good” or obedient and doing the right thing, even when it’s unpopular
• Spark a domino effect: defiance can be contagious.

Compliance is a constant, corrosive force in our society. But while it’s pervasive, it’s also preventable.

* This audiobook includes a downloadable PDF of visuals from the book.

Defiance as a learned skill

Being someone brave enough to defy is a series of small choices and decisions that we can all make to live in accordance with our values and create a more equitable society. Through dedicated practice, I can…I will become that brave person.

Impactful

As a (recovering) pathological people pleaser I really resonated with this book. I laughed, I cried, I took A LOT of notes Chapters are well written, easily accessible, and thought provoking. I will be listening to this book again, that is for sure.

Powerful! Helpful!

I’m so glad this book was written and it reaches me at just the right time. I am very grateful for it.