How to Not Know You’re Trans

A Memoir of the Unknown Trans Person and How a Marriage Survived and Thrives Through It

By: Bethany A. Beeler

Narrated by: Bethany A. Beeler

In 2018, I didn’t merely come out MtF transgender, I discovered I was trans in the first place - as much news to me as it became to the world. On December 31, 2017, to quote the movie, Hot Fuzz, I had "a great big bushy beard". A year later, I was growing breasts! Yes, real breasts, as I hit my true puberty.

What's it like to be a trans woman? Even crazier, what's it like to not know you're trans for your first 50+ years? It's a roller-coaster of joy, heartbreaking sadness, difficult trials and transformations, and tons of comic relief - like any life...but with the twist of coming of age in a world that still seems not ready for trans folk to hit prime time. Bethany's memoir of how she and her marriage have survived and thrive is what it means to be human.

©2020 Bethany A. Beeler (P)2020 Bethany A. Beeler

Real, Authentic, Personal

Often the social narrative and dialogue regarding things like LGBTQIA+ issues can become focused on matters of belief or ideological differences. "How to NOT Know You're TRANS" provides, as much as possible in written form, what is frequently missing--an authentic encounter with a real person. There is nothing sensationalized or tawdry about this book; it presents nothing more or less than the honest, lived out experience of one trans person to give the reader perspective and understanding they might not otherwise have. An easy and enjoyable read, I completed the book in a single evening and found myself variously laughing at humorous moments, empathizing with the author's occasional pain, and contemplating my own experiences in view of hers. A valuable read for anybody who is interested in the human experience!