Love Styles

why you love the way you do (and how to change it)

By: Kevin A. Thompson

Narrated by: Virtual Voice

Why do you love the way you do—and why does love sometimes go wrong?

Every relationship is shaped by something we rarely see: attachment. It’s the invisible wiring that forms in childhood and quietly shapes how we connect, fight, pull away, and come back. In Love Styles, pastor and author Kevin A. Thompson shows how this hidden pattern explains so much of what we experience in life, love, and faith, and how it traces all the way back to Genesis 3.

When sin entered the world, fear and shame replaced safety and connection. We’ve been struggling to love securely ever since. But the good news is that what went wrong in Genesis 3 can be made right again through grace, growth, and God’s love.

Drawing from both psychology and Scripture, Thompson introduces Attachment Theory as a simple framework to help you:

• Identify your attachment pathway—secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized

• See how those patterns shape marriage, parenting, work, and faith

• Understand how sin disrupted love—and how Jesus models secure attachment

• Learn to live from a sense of safety, trust, and connection

Full of charts, stories, and biblical insight, Love Styles is the most accessible Christian introduction to Attachment Theory ever written. You’ll discover how to name your patterns, heal your past, and learn to love with the freedom and steadiness God designed from the beginning.

Enjoyed this book about attachment

I really enjoyed this book. The topic of attachment styles is so interesting, and Kevin A. Thompson explains it in a way that feels both insightful and practical. It helped me better understand why people love the way they do—and how attachment patterns shape relationships in ways we don’t always notice.

What I appreciated most is that the book doesn’t just describe different attachment styles; it also offers hope and tools for growth. It feels encouraging rather than critical, which makes self-reflection easier.

If you enjoy learning about relationship dynamics and personal growth, this is a thoughtful and helpful read.