Role Mate to Soul Mate

The Seven Secrets to Lifelong Love

By: Warren Farrell PhD

Narrated by: Warren Farrell

New York Times bestselling author Dr. Warren Farrell reveals solutions to the seven most important barriers to sustaining love—practices that have helped thousands of real couples rediscover their soul mate spark.

When Dr. Farrell began teaching couples communication thirty years ago, he taught the wisdom of not being defensive in response to criticism. However, when a couple returned home and criticism inevitably appeared, that wisdom disappeared. Couples needed to not just be taught this, but to practice both in the workshop and at home.

With the help of decades of post-workshop feedback from real couples, Farrell perfected six mindsets that the couples found most effective to embrace criticism as an opportunity to feel more deeply loved—even while they are being criticized. Role Mate to Soul Mate guides couples on how to do this for two hours per week as a Caring and Sharing Practice. For the remaining hours, couples create a Conflict-Free Zone which requires preventing criticisms from becoming conflicts.

To do this, you'll learn how to:

• Appreciate your loved one with five levels of specificity, both creatively and consistently
• Transform the Four Depleters of Love (criticisms, complaining, complacency, and controlling) into ways to deepen love
• Master the eleven Soulmate Wisdoms
• Play together, because couples that play together stay together
• Create win-win solutions to your stickiest problems
• Apply your new skills to family, friends, colleagues—and even political opponents

Since falling in love is natural but sustaining love is unnatural, making these skills come naturally requires an evolutionary shift that is both an art and a discipline. The Role Mate to Soul Mate reward? A deeper, dynamic, and lifelong love.

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Excellent couples communication book

This is probably the most practical book on couples communication that I have read. I read this after attending the author's couples retreat in Big Sur, CA. He has been doing workshops like these for over 30 years. The Achilles heel in most relationships is the ability to give and receive feedback, and (among other tools in the book) Warren provides a simple but effective way for couples to overcome this and deepen their relationship. Highly recommend.