The Art of Disagreeing

How to Keep Calm and Stay Friends in Hard Conversations

By: Gavin Ortlund

Narrated by: Nelson Graham

Learn from Jesus how to disagree with courage and kindness, avoiding divisive arguments.

In this positive and practical book, Gavin Ortlund looks to the Scriptures to discover a way in which to disagree with others that leads to greater understanding, peace, and love—and that shows a watching world something of Jesus.

This is a much-needed book in a society that is losing the ability to disagree well. Whether over politics, religion, or culture, or the more everyday issues of normal life, points of view tend to be held with a polarizing intensity. Often we enter disagreements feeling that we have to win or we avoid them altogether.

Looking to Jesus’ example of courage and kindness, listeners will be given a framework for engaging in intense disagreements with a love that furthers instead of hinders relationships.

So, whether you tend to fight or flee, learn how to keep calm and stay friends—even when you don't agree.

©2025 Gavin Ortlund (P)2025 The Good Book Company

Graciousness and love in interactions with people with whom we may disagree. Biblically based.

Very helpful to learn how to lovingly disagree with others. Biblically based and very practical— highly recommend

Helpful reminder in a tense social reality

This points us back to the ideal we are aiming for as Christians. A helpful “North Star”.

Wonderful and timely book

Such a great book in these trying times. The principles are timeless, and presented in a fresh way. Very much recommend!

Concise and practical.

A good lesson that I wish could be made mandatory for not just our churches, but our whole country.

Concise, Christ-centered Advice

The author acknowledges the difficulties of modern interacts but suggests concrete ways to engage reasonably, calmly, lovingly and how to avoid belittling ego-centric words.