The Origins of You

How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love

By: Vienna Pharaon

Narrated by: Vienna Pharaon

NATIONAL BESTSELLER

From licensed therapist and popular Instagram relationship expert Vienna Pharaon (@mindfulmft, +683K followers) comes a profound guide to understanding and overcoming wounds from your Family of Origin—the foundation of how we relate to others, ourselves, and the world around us.

None of us had a perfect childhood; we are all carrying around behaviors that don’t serve us—and may in fact be hurting us. But it doesn’t have to be that way, says licensed marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon. Our past might create our patterns, but we can change those patterns for the better...with the right tools.

In The Origins of You, Pharaon has unlocked a healing process to help us understand our Family of Origin—the family and framework we grew up within—and examine what worked (and didn’t) in that system. Unhealed pain (or “wounds”) in that Family of Origin will manifest in our adult behaviors in surprising ways, from work challenges to interpersonal struggles. But the good news: armed with the knowledge about our past, we can actually rewire our programming to meaningfully improve our relationships and our lives, right now and in the future.

It doesn’t matter whether you’ve been in therapy for decades, or whether therapy isn’t for you. It doesn’t matter if you had a great childhood, or a terrible one. You can create change and resolve things from the past that need your attention. Complete with guided introspection, personal experiences, client stories, and frameworks for having difficult conversations to complement each chapter, The Origins of You will teach you how to break family patterns and help you liberate the way you live and love.

Wow, that was good

This is one of the best self reflective books. I learned so much and came out with a broad understanding of my relationships with family and friends. Thank you I’m forever changed.

So good for those of us on a healing journey!

This is a must for anyone who is trying to grow and heal. I think I’m going to buy the paper copy to go back and highlight things I want to remember!

Powerful

This book definitely was unique in the space of psychotherapy and psychology. I gained a lot from it and hope more people will take the deep dive even though it may feel uncomfortable or hard , it’s work that’s worthwhile ! Great read

The best self discovery book ever written

Wow, just wow. I have consumed a fair amount of self help books but this is hands down the best one. Pharaon’s ability to make this approachable is remarkable. Standing ovation.

10/10 recommend for every human

This book provides a blueprint to get to the deep dark places within us and how to heal them