You Are Not Your Mother

Releasing Generational Trauma and Shame

By: Karen C. L. Anderson

Narrated by: Alex Picard

What is your relationship to shame? How can you overcome it and live an intentional life of vulnerability? You Are Not Your Mother guides listeners on how to see shame, and live separately from it.

Explore your personal roots to shame with an expert. As a top authority on recovering from growing up in toxic families, Karen C. L. Anderson walks you through her shame story, her relationship with her narcissistic mother, and the simple practices she has developed to alleviate guilt from unhealthy relationships. Author of bestselling Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters with over 150,000 copies sold, Karen offers tools to process, understand, and move beyond childhood trauma so you can not only survive, but thrive.

You'll find: Karen's story on dealing with a narcissistic mother and how she overcame her shame; journal prompts, mind-body practices, and simple exercises to release shame and toxic habits; and a guide on how to finally identify shame, and how to embrace living free from it.

If you enjoy therapy books and content on emotion management, then this book is for you! If you liked I'm Glad My Mom Died, Mother Hunger, or Uprooting Shame And Guilt, you'll love You Are Not Your Mother.

©2023 Karen C. L. Anderson (P)2023 Tantor

She writes Meaningful Things

"A good book is one in which you both lose yourself and find yourself." For me, this was a very good book. In the first section I lost myself as I listened to Karen describe events in her childhood, many featuring her mother, that shaped her "unintentional identity" and created trauma and shame. Listening to the second section, I was able to become curious about my own shame, gaining for probably the first time a clear understanding of its origins and impact. Karen then introduces a methodology for reaching into examples in your life where you felt truly you - authentic, powerful, honest - to build what she calls "intentional identity pillars." These pillars are what Karen believes (through doing the work herself and having great success) will enable anyone to approach their life intentionally and without shame holding them back. I am just beginning to do this work, and this book has provided me with both an understanding of shame and an approach to heal it. One of Karen's core beliefs is that she writes beautiful things. I agree, but I want to add that based on this book she also writes meaningful things.

Very helpful and easy to listen

I found this very useful for my strained relation with my mother. It gave me things to think about or ways to think of that I hadn’t thought of. Thank you for a wonderful book.