You and We

A Relational Rethinking of Work, Life, and Leadership

By: Jim Ferrell

Narrated by: Jim Ferrell

A page-turning story that helps readers to rethink work, life, and leadership from a relational rather than individualistic perspective, and shows how to open up never-before-seen opportunities in our companies and communities to heal the rifts threatening societies around the world.

True leadership is rooted in the ability to deeply connect with others. Understanding the dynamics of human relationships is not just a nice-to-have for effective leadership; it is essential in order to thrive, and even survive, in today’s world of work. As machines grow ever smarter, your brain won’t be your differentiator in the workplace of tomorrow, your heart—that is, your ability to authentically relate with others—will be.

In the style of his previous bestselling books, Leadership and Self-Deception and The Anatomy of Peace, Jim Ferrell brings readers another story—this time illustrating how lasting success, more than ever before, will depend on maximizing our uniquely human ability to connect with one another. The characters in the book may be fictional, but their challenges are not, and You and We offers readers a culmination of all Ferrell has learned over his years of researching, training, and mentoring leaders to transform organization ecosystems. Readers will learn to:

• Think relationally rather than individualistically
• Identify and measure their relational levels with people inside and outside of work
• Map and score the relational field of their organizations
• Assess the relational strength of their organizations across the four dimensions of behavior, attitude, structure, and community
• Break through surface-level interaction and foster deep connection
• Eliminate silos and overcome division in their communities

For executives seeking to strengthen the relational fabric of their organizations, as well as all those interested in overcoming the countless conflicts our society faces today, You and We is an essential guide to mastering the art of connection that will empower you to unite, lead, and drive meaningful, lasting change.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2025 by James Ferrell (P)2025 Brilliance Publishing, Inc., all rights reserved.

This is a compelling book

I love all his books; this one dives in and expounds on the Anatomy of Peace. I dig deeper into relationships and how reflective they are of us. It is a book that will expand your boundaries and give you confidence in the role you are in.

This book could change the world!

I have been a fan of Arbinger for a long time but this book definitely takes those principles to another level. I am sharing it with everyone I can!

Incredible parallels to dancing with others.

What stood out to me about this concept of what we see is the in between, which is how similar it is to how two dancers move together when improvising. You have to be present, you have to be observant, and you have to continuously calibrate your next steps in order to remain connected and in sync. The moments are co-created.
This book makes an excellent explanation of how that works in all aspects of our personal, professional, and political lives. It's definitely a worthy follow-up to the previous books in the Arbinger Institute series, including "Leadership and Self-Deception" and "The Anatomy of Peace."