Abuse rarely shows up as one clear event. More often, it’s a pattern of power and control that changes shape over time and can hide behind family roles, church culture, or a perfect public image. I’m Ingrid, and in this conversation Tom shares how that pattern followed him from childhood into adulthood, and what it took to finally name it, survive it, and start rebuilding a life that feels safe.

Tom takes us back to being a teenager desperate to please a distant father, experimenting with asbestos, and then carrying unbearable guilt after his mother dies of cancer. From there, the story turns darker: a medical letter burned in a fireplace, a shocking life insurance policy, and a spiral into anger, addiction, and suicidal planning. He also describes a faith-centered breakthrough that brought peace and a dramatic physical change that reshaped how he saw his future.

We then unpack years of intimate partner violence against a man: public charm versus private cruelty, constant accusations, therapy used as a weapon, and the danger that spikes when someone decides to leave. We talk about the ripple effects on kids, the confusion that keeps families stuck, and how spiritual abuse and leadership control can retraumatize someone who’s already been through too much. If you’re looking for stories and language around domestic violence, coercive control, male victims of abuse, trauma recovery, and spiritual manipulation, this one goes there with honesty and hard-earned clarity.

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Tom’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/tom-snow/

https://just2beclear.com/

https://just2beclear1.substack.com/t/podcasts

https://www.instagram.com/just2beclear1

https://www.facebook.com/just2beclear

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DX2GZ9ZZ

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FCJ2Z2LN

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe

Reporting an abuser is already difficult. For many survivors, the next terrifying question is: What happens if the abuser posts bail?

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with David Stuckman, President of the Professional Bail Agents of the United States, who brings more than 35 years of experience in the bail industry—from bounty hunting to leading a national network of bail professionals.

Together we break down how the bail system actually works in domestic violence cases and what protections may be available for survivors.

You’ll learn:

• What happens after someone is arrested and posts bail
• The step-by-step bail bond process, including premiums and collateral
• How bail agents evaluate risk, family input, and criminal history
• Why many bail agents require no-contact orders, treatment, and employment conditions
• When a bail bondsman may refuse to write a bond
• The difference between algorithmic pretrial release and human judgment
• How GPS ankle monitors can alert survivors instantly if an offender gets too close
• Why prior strangulation dramatically increases homicide risk

David also shares real-world stories about refusing dangerous bonds, working with judges to place defendants into rehab, and enforcing strict bail conditions to protect communities.

For survivors and advocates, we discuss practical steps including:

• Victim notification systems
• Requesting stronger protective conditions
• Documenting violations
• Understanding your options when someone is released pretrial

This conversation sheds light on a system many people fear—but few understand.

If you’re a survivor, advocate, or simply want to understand how bail and victim safety intersect, this episode will give you clarity.

David’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/david-stuckman-2/

https://www.pbus.com/

https://www.youtube.com/@BailInTheMidwest

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

Contact 1 in 3:

• Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com
• Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
• Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/

Thank you for listening!

Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe

What if your body has been guiding you all along?

In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Tara, a domestic violence survivor and intuitive healer, to explore how rebuilding self-trust after abuse begins in the body. We talk about nervous system regulation, energetic boundaries, and how to tell the difference between intuition and trauma-driven fear.

Tara shares her personal journey of carrying guilt and shame while helping others heal—and how the loss of her sister became a turning point in reclaiming her voice. Together, we unpack how early conditioning teaches many women to override their instincts, silence discomfort, and keep the peace at any cost.

You’ll learn:

• How to rebuild intuition after domestic violence
• The difference between ego urgency and calm inner knowing
• A simple body-lean practice to test your intuition
• Tara’s daily GCP method (ground, clear, protect) to reduce overwhelm
• Signs your energy is being drained in relationships
• How nervous system healing supports trauma recovery

Whether you’re navigating an abusive relationship, healing from long-term stress, or learning to trust yourself again, this conversation offers practical tools you can use immediately.

You are worthy of love, safety, and a life that feels like yours.

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Tara’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/tara-wiskow/

https://tara-wiskow.com/

https://www.facebook.com/BeTheChangeYouNeedToday

https://www.instagram.com/tara.wiskow/

https://www.tiktok.com/@tara_wiskow?_t=ZP-8tpbnaXsGkR&_r=1

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

Contact 1 in 3:

• Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com
• Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
• Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/

Thank you for listening!

Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe