Dads Dating After Divorce Podcast By Jude Sandvall / Dallas Bluth cover art

Dads Dating After Divorce

Dads Dating After Divorce

By: Jude Sandvall / Dallas Bluth
Listen for free

Dating after divorce isn’t what it used to be—especially when you’re a dad. The rules have changed, the world has changed, and now you’ve got kids in the mix. Join Dallas and Jude as they share real-world strategies and insights from their work with dads and men at BlackBoxDating.com and TheDivorcedDadvocate.com.

© 2026 Dads Dating After Divorce
Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success
Episodes
  • 41 - Stop Chasing a Six Pack and Start Building Real Confidence
    Mar 31 2026

    If you’re a dad dating after divorce, the loudest advice online usually points to vanity: get shredded, flex harder, post the perfect Hinge photo. We’re not buying it. Real confidence is built when you can rely on your body, your routines, and your leadership at home, especially when life feels chaotic and your mind won’t shut off.

    We talk about why physical fitness is the easiest “first domino” for divorced dads: it’s concrete, measurable, and it pulls you out of overthinking. We break down the difference between confidence and arrogance, why chasing a six pack is a trap for most men over 30, and how women often read extreme gym bro energy as self-absorption instead of strength. The goal isn’t perfection. The goal is capability, calm, and the kind of grounded masculinity your kids can copy and your dates can feel.

    From there, we get practical about fitness routines that actually fit real life: micro workouts, calisthenics at home, sports with friends, outdoor work, and getting active with your kids. Then we shift to nutrition and fat loss without gimmicks using a calorie budget, a moderate calorie deficit, and the staples-versus-feasting mindset so your results last. We also call out alcohol for what it is: fast calories that can wreck progress when it becomes habitual.

    If you want more energy for parenting, better confidence for dating apps, and a healthier family culture you can sustain, hit play. Subscribe, share this with a dad who needs a reset, and leave us a rating and review so more men can find the show.

    Show more Show less
    1 hr and 11 mins
  • 40 - The Tom Brady Trap: Why "Too Busy" is Actually a Choice
    Mar 24 2026

    Tom Brady says he’s too busy for a personal life, and that excuse hits different when you’re a divorced dad trying to coordinate dating around custody exchanges, work, and real-world exhaustion. We dig into what “no time” usually means, how priorities actually work, and why a lot of single fathers quietly use their kids as a shield from fear and rejection. If you’ve been telling yourself you’ll date again when life calms down, this conversation challenges that story without shaming you for it.

    We get practical fast. We talk micro dates that fit into a packed schedule, the mindset shift from “I can’t” to “How can I make this happen?”, and how to use dating apps without letting them hijack your attention. We also explain why clarity and direct communication matter more when you’re a parent, and how being open about your availability can actually make dating simpler instead of more stressful.

    Then we go deeper into what your kids learn by watching you. We break down why modeling resilience, emotional honesty, and healthy effort matters after divorce, plus the difference between guilt (a useful signal to realign your behavior) and shame (the thing that keeps you hidden). If you want a healthy romantic relationship again, you don’t need a perfect plan, you need a next step. Subscribe, share this with a dad who needs it, and leave a review. What’s the one action you’ll take this week?

    Show more Show less
    1 hr
  • 39 - What If Confidence Is Just Stability In Disguise
    Mar 17 2026

    Dating after divorce can turn even confident dads into performers. You start chasing the perfect opener, the perfect outfit, the perfect “game,” and somehow you feel worse after every date. We go the other direction with therapist and coach Rick Taylor: confidence is what stability looks like on the outside, and stability is something you build, not something you pretend to have.

    We talk about the performance trap and why scripts usually backfire. Yes, learning better communication helps, but the real win is understanding the principle underneath the words so you can speak in your own voice. We also get specific about timing after divorce: giving yourself and your kids time to settle, grieve, and rebuild rhythm before you jump into something serious. If you’ve felt the emotional highs and lows of early post-divorce dating, this is the roadmap back to calm.

    Rick shares his framework for masculine purpose as movement toward an outcome, and why so many men feel like they’re “moving in circles” after a marriage ends. Then we bring it down to earth with three pillars that create structure fast: showing up for your kids with predictable routines, rebuilding your body with consistent exercise and simple nutrition, and rebuilding finances with a budget and a monthly surplus even after a financial wipeout. We also cover how to be honest on dates without trauma dumping, and we close with a simple stability audit you can use this week.

    If this helped, subscribe, share it with a dad who needs steadier footing, and leave a review so more divorced dads can find the show. What’s the one pillar you’re rebuilding first?

    Show more Show less
    1 hr and 1 min
No reviews yet