Episodes

  • Episode 1 - The Secret Sexual Basement

    Episode 1 - The Secret Sexual Basement
    Jun 28 2025
    In this first episode, therapist Chris Jones introduces the core concepts of the Deceptive Sexuality Trauma (DST) model, breaking down the idea of a "deceptive, compartmentalized, sexual-relational reality" (DCSR) and explains the foundational metaphor of the "secret sexual basement."
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    15 mins
  • Episode 2 - Compulsive Entitled Sexuality

    Episode 2 - Compulsive Entitled Sexuality
    Jun 30 2025
    In this episode, Chris explores the first part of the DST model’s two-part problem: the sexual or relational behaviours that take place inside the secret sexual basement. Chris introduces the concept of Compulsive-Entitled Sexuality (CES), a hybrid framework that broadens the traditional focus on sex addiction by including both compulsive behaviours and underlying entitlement.
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    15 mins
  • Episode 3 - Integrity Abuse Disorder

    Episode 3 - Integrity Abuse Disorder
    Jul 1 2025
    In this episode, Chris introduces the concept of "Integrity-Abuse Disorder" (IAD) — the second behavioural system identified in the DST model. Whilst "Compulsive Entitled Sexuality" (CES) explains the actions inside the secret sexual basement, IAD explores the deceptive behaviours used to keep it hidden.
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    12 mins
  • Episode 4 - The "A" Word

    Episode 4 - The "A" Word
    Jul 13 2025
    In this episode, Chris explores why the DST model identifies deceptive sexuality as an abusive system, by unpacking how patterns of deception and manipulation—used to hide a secret sexual reality—create covert control and a power imbalance in the relationship.
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    14 mins
  • Episode 5 - Deceptive Sexuality Trauma

    Episode 5 - Deceptive Sexuality Trauma
    Jul 20 2025
    In this episode, Chris starts to explore the "T" in DST – the trauma caused by deceptive sexuality. In particular, he considers the importance of understanding both the acute impact of discovery and the long-term effects of deception and manipulation.
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    16 mins
  • Episode 6 - Trauma Responses

    Episode 6 - Trauma Responses
    Jul 27 2025
    In this episode, Chris explores how the discovery of a secret sexual reality within a relationship can lead to acute trauma. Using the clinical framework of PTSD, he begins unpacking the psychological and physiological responses partners often experience—including triggers, re-experiencing, avoidance, mood changes, and nervous system arousal.
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    16 mins
  • Episode 7 - Safety Seeking and Victim Blaming

    Episode 7 - Safety Seeking and Victim Blaming
    Aug 3 2025
    In this episode, Chris explores how partners impacted by deceptive sexuality often engage in safety-seeking behaviours and how these behaviours are often misunderstood, leading to pathologizing or the partners and victim blaming.
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    14 mins
  • Episode 8 - Complex Trauma Shaping

    Episode 8 - Complex Trauma Shaping
    Aug 10 2025
    In this episode, Chris explores how subtle, repeated patterns of harm might gradually shape a betrayed partner’s emotional and psychological world. Using the “drops of water on a rock” metaphor, he explains how complex trauma impacts areas like trust, self-worth, and meaning — often without clear signs of abuse.
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    17 mins