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  • 253. "I’m 53, exhausted, and still living paycheck to paycheck"

    253. "I’m 53, exhausted, and still living paycheck to paycheck"
    Mar 24 2026
    Ramit Sethi of I Will Teach You To Be Rich talks to Tania and Mike who are in their 50s, married 21 years, and earning over $225,000 a year. By most measures, they should be fine. But they’ve been trapped in the same debt cycle for two decades. Cashing out 401(k)s, borrowing from family, and digging themselves out only to fall right back in. Again and again. When Ramit opens their Conscious Spending Plan, the numbers are genuinely shocking. Fixed costs at 155%. Savings at 0%. Guilt-free spending at -73%. They are spending more than they make every single month and they have barely one month of savings to show for it. But the money isn’t even the most revealing part of this episode. Ramit works through the psychology behind the cycle, the “dreamer” pattern that keeps pulling them back in, and what it’s actually going to take for them to change together. In this episode we uncover: A $228K income with 155% fixed costs… How does that even happen? The parent-child dynamic Ramit identifies and why both of them are miserable because of it Mike’s $23,000 tractor purchase and the pattern behind it Why Tania has been a “money transcriptionist” instead of a money manager The “dreamer” trap: Believing the next thing will finally fix everything How Mike’s upbringing shaped his complete shutdown around money What real money conversations between couples actually look like The follow-up update from Tania and Mike Chapters: (00:00:00) Introduction (00:07:04) Looking at the numbers: $228K income, 155% fixed costs (00:11:41) "I've never talked about feelings, we've been married 21 years" (00:30:35) The tractor: how every big purchase actually happens (00:43:26) Cashing out retirement AGAIN! (00:47:14) The dreamer pattern: why the next thing never fixes anything (00:53:46) Michael's moment: "I don't know how to talk about money. It scares me." (01:07:56) Ramit walks through their house: where did all the money go?(01:16:07) The alter ego exercise: imagining a different life (01:31:27) Tanya's moment: "I'm the hero. I always say yes." (01:34:05) Ramit draws the caricature (02:01:48) Follow-ups This episode is brought to you by: Gusto | Try Gusto at http://gusto.com/ramit and get 3 months free when you run your first payroll Facet | As of the date of this recording, Facet is waiving the enrollment fee for new annual members, and for my audience, Facet is offering $300 into your brokerage account if you invest and maintain $5,000 within your first 90 days. Head to facet.com/ramit to learn more about which membership option is best for you. Offer expires March 31, 2026. #FacetAd Gelt | Book a tax consultation with Gelt at https://joingelt.com/ramit. As a member of my community, you can skip the waitlist Shopify | Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at https://shopify.com/ramit Fabric by Gerber Life | Join the thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply today in just minutes at https://meetfabric.com/ramit Connect with Ramit • Get my new book, Money For Couples • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube Has your partner recently been obsessed with investing? Maybe not telling you what they're doing with your shared money? If so, I'd like to talk. Apply to be coached for free on this podcast at iwt.com/apply
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    2 hrs and 2 mins
  • 252. "I’m 35, in debt, and spend everything I make"

    252. "I’m 35, in debt, and spend everything I make"
    Mar 17 2026
    Ramit Sethi of I Will Teach You To Be Rich talks to Lina, 35, and Mike, 28, a married couple living in South Florida with their 8-month-old son. Despite earning almost $200,000 annually, they've been entangled in debt since their wedding three years ago. They consistently make plans to conquer their financial woes but never follow through. Their debt has soared to over $750,000, and their fixed costs devour 98% of their take-home pay, leaving them with zero savings. Lina attributes their financial struggles to unexpected events, like her pregnancy, which led to her cutting back on work and an increased focus on comfort and convenience, regardless of the cost. Mike, an accountant, has largely deferred to Lina, resulting in a fractured approach to their shared finances. They both use "comfort" as a justification for their spending, avoiding "sacrifice," yet this mindset is driving them toward a financial cliff. Can Ramit help them confront their real numbers, bridge their communication gap, and finally unite as a financial team to build a rich life? In this episode we uncover: • Why Lina's comfort-first approach to spending is unsustainable • Mike’s "happy wife, happy life" approach to finances • The shocking reality of their $750,000 debt despite a high income • How Mike's "accountant" background has not helped their personal finances • The startling hidden costs of their lifestyle choices • Lina's upbringing with generational wealth and its impact on her money mindset • Mike's immigrant experience and its influence on his spending habits • The unspoken divide in their financial expectations and responsibilities • Ramit's direct challenge to their "comfort over sacrifice" mentality • A dramatic suggestion to overhaul their financial situation • Their raw and vulnerable discussion about making tough decisions • The moment Mike and Lina finally confront their financial reality Chapters: (00:00:00) Introduction (00:04:01) "We make plans and we never follow through" (00:09:00) Understanding their "comfort vs. sacrifice" mentality (00:18:40) Mike's "happy wife, happy life" approach (00:34:50) Unpacking their debt (00:40:11) "If we're a plane, we're about to crash" (00:46:00) Lina's privileged upbringing & generational wealth (01:00:21) Mike's immigrant story and mom's sacrifices (01:26:02) Confronting their high fixed costs and potential solutions (01:17:01) Mike and Lina's dramatic confrontation about spending habits (01:21:00) The power of a shared vision for their future (01:32:14) Follow-ups This episode is brought to you by: Leesa | Go to https://leesa.com for 20% off mattresses PLUS get an extra $50 off with promo code RAMIT, exclusive for my listeners LMNT | Get a free 8-count Sample Pack with any LMNT order at https://drinklmnt.com/RAMIT DeleteMe | Get 20% off all consumer plans when you go to https://joindeleteme.com/ramit and use promo code RAMIT at checkout Factor | Go to https://factormeals.com/ramit50OFF and use code RAMIT50OFF to get 50% off your first box, plus free breakfast for 1 year ZocDoc | Go to https://zocdoc.com/ramit to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today #sponsored Connect with Ramit • Get my new book, Money For Couples • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube If you or your partner get stressed spending $150 on dinner, or are covering up spending, I’d like to help. Apply to be coached for free on this podcast at iwt.com/apply
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    1 hr and 32 mins
  • 251. "We own a $1M house but can’t pay for groceries"

    251. "We own a $1M house but can’t pay for groceries"
    Mar 10 2026
    Ramit Sethi of I Will Teach You To Be Rich talks to John and Victoria in a follow-up episode. This couple, in their thirties with three children and a home in suburban New York, is facing severe financial challenges with 97% fixed costs and over $100K in non-mortgage debt. In their last session, Ramit highlighted the urgency of their situation, presenting them with two stark choices: sell their house and clear debt, or double down on income and aggressive cuts. They chose to keep their house, which required Victoria to return to work, both of them to significantly increase their earnings, and drastically cut spending. Ramit challenged them to implement these changes within two months. This episode reveals how John and Victoria fared in those crucial eight weeks. Did they truly embrace change, or did old habits resurface? In this episode we uncover: • Their initial feelings after the first money coaching session • The surprising reason for Victoria's job loss • How they managed to cut $500 from their grocery bill • Why John thinks dry cleaning is a necessity • Ramit's radical advice on debt repayment versus savings • The true meaning of "rich life" for John and Victoria • How their childhood money beliefs impact their present • The hidden challenge of Victoria's student loans • Their struggle with an external vs. internal locus of control • The danger of a financial plan that requires 100% perfection Chapters: (00:00:00) The desperation that led to an application to Ramit (00:03:00) How a hotel bill leads to a missed mortgage payment (00:05:25) The once-a-year money conversation (00:10:47) The devastating results of Victoria’s annual money spreadsheet (00:19:18) Justifying thousands in Amazon purchases with high debt (00:28:15) Understanding their $600K net worth and zero liquidity (00:35:10) The crushing reality of 97% fixed costs (01:10:46) Victoria’s inherited money trauma fuels her avoidance (01:19:40) The importance of taking decisive action (01:21:05) The couple’s future plans This episode is brought to you by: Facet | As of the date of this recording, Facet is waiving the enrollment fee for new annual members, and for my audience, Facet is offering $300 into your brokerage account if you invest and maintain $5,000 within your first 90 days. Head to facet.com/ramit to learn more about which membership option is best for you. Offer expires March 31, 2026. #FacetAd MasterClass | For unlimited access to every class and an additional 15% off any annual membership, go to https://masterclass.com/ramit Fabric by Gerber Life | Join the thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply today in just minutes at https://meetfabric.com/ramit Netsuite | Get the free guide “Demystifying AI” at https://netsuite.com/ramit Connect with Ramit • Get my new book, Money For Couples • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube If you or your partner get stressed spending $150 on dinner, or are covering up spending, I’d like to help. Apply to be coached for free on this podcast at iwt.com/apply
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    1 hr and 34 mins
  • 250. "We spend 97% of what we make—and can’t stop"

    250. "We spend 97% of what we make—and can’t stop"
    Mar 3 2026
    Ramit Sethi of I Will Teach You To Be Rich talks to John and Victoria, a couple in their thirties with three children who own a home they adore in the suburbs of New York. Despite a beautiful house and growing family, their financial reality is grim. They are facing a structural financial problem, with 97% of their take-home pay consumed by fixed costs and less than a week's worth of savings. Ramit helps them confront the deep-seated issues that are keeping them in a constant state of financial precarity, from their avoidance of tough money conversations to inherited money scripts from childhood. Can John and Victoria break free from their cycle of justification and short-term thinking to secure their family's future, or will their dream home remain their biggest financial burden? In this episode we uncover: • How 97% fixed costs lead to a desperate financial situation • The role of a vacation in triggering their mortgage payment crisis • Their alarming "once a year" approach to discussing money • The mental gymnastics behind their Amazon purchases • A revealing peek at their "money wishlist" revealing crazy renovation plans • The shocking truth about their combined total net worth • The impact of a significant annual financial gift on their spending habits • Victoria's avoidance of medical bills and connection to her mother's money habits • Ramit's candid warning about their path to losing their home • The critical choice they face: the house or their financial stability Chapters: (00:00:00) Introduction (00:02:37) The Mortgage Crisis and Vacation Spending (00:07:45) Their "Once a Year" Money Talks (00:16:14) The Amazon Justification and Money Wishlist (00:25:10) A High Net Worth, Zero Liquidity (00:30:15) The Emotional Cost of Financial Struggle (00:41:50) The True Cost of Their Grocery Spending (00:48:10) Understanding Their Credit Card Debt (01:09:31) Ramit's Dire Warning: The Threat to Their Home (01:13:07) A Fork in the Road: House vs. Financial Stability This episode is brought to you by: DeleteMe | Get 20% off all consumer plans when you go to https://joindeleteme.com/ramit and use promo code RAMIT at checkout Superhuman Mail | Turn your inbox into momentum. Sign up at https://superhuman.com/ramit3. Gusto | Try Gusto at http://gusto.com/ramit and get 3 months free when you run your first payroll Trust & Will | Protect what matters most in minutes at https://trustandwill.com/ramit and get 10% off plus free shipping ZocDoc | Go to https://zocdoc.com/ramit to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today #sponsored Connect with Ramit • Get my new book, Money For Couples • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube Do you want to retire in the next 5 years but wonder if you have enough? If so, I'd like to help. Apply to be coached for free on this podcast at iwt.com/apply
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    1 hr and 23 mins
  • 249. "We have $2M. Why can’t we enjoy life now?"

    249. "We have $2M. Why can’t we enjoy life now?"
    Feb 24 2026
    Ramit Sethi of I Will Teach You To Be Rich talks to Chris and Heather, a couple aged 41 and 39 respectively, who, despite earning over $450,000 annually and boasting a $2.18 million net worth, feel like they're living paycheck to paycheck. Heather, an accomplished healthcare professional, worries that despite their income, they aren't organizing their finances effectively, leading to a feeling of scarcity. Chris, who works for the State of California, focuses on long-term retirement planning but avoids making crucial decisions, leading to "analysis paralysis." Their differing views on spending - Heather’s desire for "rich life now" versus Chris's cautious, debt-averse approach, create underlying tension. Ramit challenges their underlying money psychology, uncovering how childhood experiences influence their current financial anxieties. In this episode we uncover: • Their contrasting interpretations of their "paycheck-to-paycheck" life • Heather's aversion to finance, despite an impressive debt payoff history • Why Chris is hesitant to talk about money • The car purchase that highlighted their financial differences • Why Heather feels conflicted about her luxury spending • Chris's childhood with parents who constantly claimed to be "poor" • Why Chris hates taxes as much as he hates debt • Vacation Chris vs. Everyday Chris's spending habits • The real cost of their financial indecision Chapters: (00:00:00) My income feels like "paycheck to paycheck" (00:04:10) Their differing applications reveal fundamental money beliefs (00:07:22) An argument over income reveals deeper trust issues (00:13:25) "We have enough money, but still feel like we live paycheck to paycheck" (00:19:45) Why people systematically discount money psychology (00:23:28) Their first major money disagreement: financing a car (00:44:48) Their struggle to define "enough" for retirement (00:54:10) Why their "too many unknowns" approach is holding them back (01:05:51) The surprising "Vacation Chris" versus everyday Chris (01:11:11) Heather: “I feel conflicted” about luxury spending (01:24:09) Ramit’s frustration with the couple (01:38:35) Progress updates This episode is brought to you by: Wildgrain | Get $30 off the first box — PLUS free Croissants in every box — at https://wildgrain.com/ramit Facet | As of the date of this recording, Facet is waiving the enrollment fee for new annual members, and for my audience, Facet is offering $300 into your brokerage account if you invest and maintain $5,000 within your first 90 days. Head to facet.com/ramit to learn more about which membership option is best for you. Offer expires March 31, 2026. #FacetAd Shopify | Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at https://shopify.com/ramit Fabric by Gerber Life | Join the thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply today in just minutes at https://meetfabric.com/ramit Connect with Ramit • Get my new book, Money For Couples • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube Have you or your partner fallen for a scam? If so, I’d like to help. Apply to be coached for free on this podcast at iwt.com/apply
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    1 hr and 45 mins
  • 248. "Her spending scares me. Should we get married?"

    248. "Her spending scares me. Should we get married?"
    Feb 17 2026
    Ramit Sethi of I Will Teach You To Be Rich talks to Cre and April, a couple of five years, aged 46 and 48. Cre lives a debt-averse life and has been methodically building her wealth. April, on the other hand, earns more than twice Cre's income but struggles with significant debt and zero savings. They are at a crossroads, contemplating moving in together, but their conflicting approaches to money present a major hurdle. Cre fears that April’s spending habits will lead to constant arguments and financial strain, especially with the prospect of marriage and inheriting April's substantial debt. April, however, doesn't see her spending as a problem, insisting she lives a good life and can always work more to cover expenses. Ramit helps them uncover the generational patterns influencing their financial behaviors and challenges them to reconsider their current dynamic. In this episode we uncover: • How Cre and April act as "granny and child" during money conversations • Why April feels micromanaged and hides purchases • The emotional pressure April uses to get what she wants • The significant disparity in their net worth despite April's higher income • Why April initially doesn't see a problem with her spending habits • The uncomfortable truth about April treating money like she's still poor • How April's family history of money management influences her • The shocking revelation about generational money patterns • Why April's daughter is following a similar financial dynamic • Ramit's direct challenge to April's “innocent doe” persona • Cre's struggle to set clear financial boundaries • How April reacts to Cre's direct financial expectations • Ramit's step-by-step plan for April to tackle debt and build savings Chapters: (00:00:00) Introduction (00:04:14) April's persistent questions about Cree's spending (00:07:49) The "granny and child" roles in their money talks (00:12:47) Why April fears marrying into debt (00:13:46) The core of their financial disagreement (00:23:05) A stark comparison of their financial numbers (00:26:08) April's disconnect from her serious financial situation (00:36:00) Cree’s secret side income and resourcefulness (00:40:00) April’s luxury basement renovation with zero savings (00:44:40) Unpacking April's extensive debt and spending habits (00:48:28) Generational money patterns in April's family (01:05:32) Cree's struggle to set clear financial boundaries (01:10:09) The pitfalls of "walking on eggshells" in a relationship This episode is brought to you by: LMNT | Get a free 8-count Sample Pack with any LMNT order at https://drinklmnt.com/RAMIT Factor | Go to https://factormeals.com/ramit50OFF and use code RAMIT50OFF to get 50% off your first box, plus free breakfast for 1 year ZocDoc | Go to https://zocdoc.com/ramit to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today #sponsored Leesa | Go to https://leesa.com for 30% off mattresses PLUS get an extra $50 off with promo code RAMIT, exclusive for my listeners DeleteMe | Get 20% off all consumer plans when you go to https://joindeleteme.com/ramit and use promo code RAMIT at checkout Connect with Ramit • Get my new book, Money For Couples • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube Are you looking to retire in the next 5 years but wondering if you have enough saved? Apply to be coached for free on this podcast at iwt.com/apply
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    1 hr and 42 mins
  • 247. "We’re in our 40s — with nothing saved"

    247. "We’re in our 40s — with nothing saved"
    Feb 10 2026
    Ramit Sethi of I Will Teach You To Be Rich talks to Stephanie and Chris, an early-40s couple with three young children, two of whom have special needs. Chris is a professor, and Stephanie, an RN, has recently cut back her hours due to burnout. Despite Chris’s confidence that “it’ll all work out,” their current financial situation is dire: 92% fixed costs, $544K in debt, and virtually no savings. Stephanie handles the books but feels dismissed when she raises concerns, while Chris struggles to listen and often interrupts. Ramit helps them uncover hidden money scripts, gender dynamics, and a profound lack of communication that has kept them stuck in an "avalanche of inaction" for years. Can they finally align on a concrete plan and connect meaningfully about money? In this episode we uncover: • The stark reality of 92% fixed costs and zero investments • How Chris’s “it’ll all work out” dismisses Stephanie’s worries • How their money conversations always end in gridlock • Why a wobbly kitchen sink reveals their deeper financial issues • The surprising cost of their kids’ swim lessons • How their combined salary still leaves them broke • The emotional toll of their financial situation on Stephanie • Chris's self-awareness about his "ignorant reassurer" role • How their money "inaction" has cost them hundreds of thousands • Why Stephanie feels unheard and Chris struggles to listen • The plan to drastically cut fixed costs and tackle debt • Why it’s time to stop making excuses and start taking action Chapters: (00:00:00) Introduction (00:04:47) Their repetitive money conversation (00:08:24) Chris's "natural reaction is to shut down" (00:10:40) "He's a buzzkill" (00:16:35) Breaking down their assets, debt, and net worth (00:22:04) Stephanie's emotional confession (00:24:00) Chris's desire to comfort without listening (00:48:47) The cost of their inaction on investments (00:56:56) How Chris can better support Stephanie (01:11:00) What true financial partnership looks like (01:12:00) Transforming their conscious spending plan (01:21:00) A path to a 60% fixed cost future This episode is brought to you by: Fabric by Gerber Life | Join the thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply today in just minutes at https://meetfabric.com/ramit Netsuite | Get the free guide “Demystifying AI” at https://netsuite.com/ramit Facet | As of the date of this recording, Facet is waiving the enrollment fee for new annual members, and for my audience, Facet is offering $300 into your brokerage account if you invest and maintain $5,000 within your first 90 days. Head to facet.com/ramit to learn more about which membership option is best for you. Offer expires March 31, 2026. #FacetAd MasterClass | For unlimited access to every class and up to 50% off an annual membership, go to https://masterclass.com/ramit Connect with Ramit • Get my new book, Money For Couples • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTubeIf you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here: https://iwt.com/apply
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    1 hr and 37 mins
  • 246. "We’re drowning in debt, but bought another house"

    246. "We’re drowning in debt, but bought another house"
    Feb 3 2026
    Ramit Sethi of I Will Teach You To Be Rich talks to Melissa and Tony, a couple who immigrated from Mexico with big dreams and an even bigger work ethic. In less than a decade, they've built a net worth of nearly $900,000. But beneath the surface of their impressive paper wealth, they’re carrying almost $1 million in debt and are completely misaligned on their financial goals. With their second child due any day, Ramit helps them uncover the root of their money woes, from differing money styles to the profound impact of their upbringing. Can they finally get on the same page, create a financial system that works, and build a sustainable rich life? In this episode we uncover: • How Melissa and Tony built a nearly $900K net worth in 8 years • The "rollercoaster" of their financial decision-making • Why their credit card debt is actually due to real estate • Tony’s “paycheck to paycheck” feeling with a $189k household income • Melissa’s childhood money lessons from her dad, Mr. No • How they navigate financial planning with a baby due this month • Why they avoid combining their high incomes • The cultural influences shaping their financial narratives • What happens when Tony is “comfortable” and avoids change • The deeper reasons behind their ongoing money disagreements • Ramit’s advice on how to communicate about money effectively • A surprising agreement that might change their future Chapters: (00:00:00) Introduction (00:02:28) Their chaotic financial situation (00:07:07) Melissa and Tony’s real estate struggles (00:13:07) Melissa's real estate ambitions vs. Tony’s pessimism (00:20:58) The cycles of making and losing money (00:26:59) The ineffective communication about debt (00:33:57) The danger of making emotional money decisions (00:37:35) Diving deep into their income and debt (00:46:01) Their unspoken rules about money and spending (00:51:56) The painful truth behind being "house poor" (01:00:43) Impact of childhood money lessons on their current finances (01:10:29) The parent-child dynamic in their financial relationship This episode is brought to you by: Superhuman | Turn your inbox into momentum. Sign up at https://superhuman.com/ramit. ZocDoc | Go to https://zocdoc.com/ramit to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today #sponsored DeleteMe | Get 20% off all consumer plans when you go to https://joindeleteme.com/ramit and use promo code RAMIT at checkout Trust & Will | Protect what matters most in minutes at https://trustandwill.com/ramit and get 10% off plus free shipping Gelt | Book a tax consultation with Gelt at https://joingelt.com/ramit. As a member of my community, you can skip the waitlist Connect with Ramit • Get my new book, Money For Couples • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here: https://iwt.com/apply
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    1 hr and 50 mins