#239. We've been handed every framework imaginable for navigating love — the checklists, the red flags, the attachment style deep dives. And somehow we're still confused. Because the problem was never information. It was nerve. This week on Ask P, we're getting into the questions you actually sent — two crushes in the same friend group, holding your standards after a great relationship ends, rebuilding trust after a breakup, the name change debate, and how to show up for a friend who keeps choosing someone wrong for her. This one is for every woman who already knows the answer and just needs permission to trust it.

SHOP THE EPISODE:

https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/4429102

FOLLOW PAYTON:

https://instagram.com/paytonsartain

https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain

https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh

SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:

→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8

Sponsors:

Free People Movement: Visit www.freepeople.com/notetoself to shop their full line of activewear and workout gear

Wayfair: Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#238. My spring favorites are here — beauty, fashion, tech, rituals, TV, people worth following, and a few random things I can't stop talking about. This one's a proper list episode: personal, specific, and full of things that have actually been making my life better lately. Consider this your permission to add to cart.

SHOP THE EPISODE:

https://shopmy.us/shop/collections/4429102

FOLLOW PAYTON:

https://instagram.com/paytonsartain

https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain

https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh

SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:

→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8

Sponsors:

Free People Movement: Visit fpmovement.com to shop their full line of activewear and workout gear

Nuuly: That’s nuuly.com and code NOTETOSELF for $28 off your first month

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#237. YOU’RE INVITED. Because I’ve documented my love life on NTS since my now-husband and I met– from our early dating days, to moving in together & baseball craziness, to breaking up and not speaking for a year (lol), to getting back together and now tying the knot– it feels right to walk you through our wedding weekend in vivid detail. As usual, I’m getting extremely candid about my experience planning, pre-wedding prep, what went right (& what went wrong) on our wedding day, and the early days of marriage. Thank you for being here to witness our little love story! We love you. xx

FOLLOW PAYTON:

https://instagram.com/paytonsartain

https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain

https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh

SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:

→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8

Sponsors:

Peloton: Let yourself run, lift, sculpt, push, and go.Explore the new Peloton Cross Training Tread+at onepeloton.com

Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.