S1:E17 – LISA LISSER "The BeH2O™ Method: How to Co-Parent Like Teammates, Not Enemies"

Holidays can be one of the hardest times to co-parent—because old traditions, big emotions, and “alternate schedules” can trigger conflict fast. That’s why this episode matters.

In this special day-before-Thanksgiving episode of Divorcing Strong, Becky Sampson (Bulldog Becky Brochovich) sits down with Lisa Lisser, founder of LZL Coaching and creator of the BEH2O Co-Parenting Program—a structured, values-driven method designed to turn reactive co-parenting into a calmer, more collaborative partnership that protects the kids.

Lisa is a former attorney turned educator, mediator, spiritual counselor, and divorce coach. As a divorced mom of three (now grown), she shares what she wishes she’d known when her own children were 11, 14, and 16—and how “Disney parenting,” inconsistent rules, and unresolved conflict can quietly destabilize kids even when parents mean well. Her approach is clear: divorce isn’t what hurts children most—conflict is. And the good news? It often only takes one parent to shift the entire family dynamic.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why holidays can amplify triggers—and how to stay grounded through them
• What BEH2O means (flexible strength + adaptable calm) and how the program works
• How co-parents can build shared values across two homes (without controlling the other house)
• Why you don’t need veto power—you need agreements and a system
• The core tool that changes everything: The Power of the Pause
• How triggers work biologically (fight/flight/freeze/fawn) and how to interrupt the cycle
• How to use Nonviolent Communication and “I feel…” statements without blame
• Why anger is often a “cover emotion” and what’s underneath it
• A simple communication framework Lisa teaches: CLEAR > Concise - Listener-ready - Essential - Appropriate - Relevant
• Why kids sometimes tell you what they think you want to hear—and how to keep your side of the road clean so they feel safe
• How co-parenting can become transformational—when you align behavior with your values (peace, safety, reliability, consistency)

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