Welcome to Episode 483 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to have Courtney Boyer on the show. In this episode, Courtney talks to me about how she transitioned from living in a strict purity culture to living in a polyamorous lifestyle.

Courtney discusses her childhood in a strict religious setting where her worth and safety were closely linked to her ability to control her sexual urges. We talk about the "myth of the perfect Christian wife" and how many women in these communities feel pressured to keep up the act of sacrifice.

Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S., is a therapist-turned-relationship coach, writer, and speaker whose work centers on love, desire, and authenticity. She has been featured in The New York Post, Cosmopolitan, The Huffington Post, and BBC Radio Live. Drawing on her background in mental health and sex therapy, she brings a unique blend of professional expertise and lived experience to conversations around relationships and identity. When she isn’t writing or coaching, Courtney can be found chasing joy—traveling, reading, or savoring delicious coffee and deep conversation. She is passionate about helping women break free from shame, reclaim their bodies and voices, and create relationships rooted in honesty and autonomy.

In this episode, you will hear:

· How Purity Culture Affects How You Feel About Yourself

· Disputing The Myth Of The Ideal Christian Wife

· Going From Being Monogamous To Being Polyamorous

· How To Handle The Dynamics Of A Mono-poly Relationship

· Setting Limits In Parallel Polyamory

· The Significance Of Representation In Non-monogamy

· Reclaiming Joy Through Bodily Embodiment

· Building Self-trust After Being Controlled By Religion

· Why Women Should Date Men Who Are Older Than Them

· Finding Your Own Reason To Open Up

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Welcome to Episode 482 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Jessica Idoine who speaks to me about the role of the nervous system in erotic connection and how couples can move from the stress of daily life into a state that supports intimacy and foreplay.

Jessica and I talk about why a lot of people find it difficult to shift from the hectic nature of daily obligations to erotic connection. We examine how the nervous system is crucial to sexual responsiveness and why arousal and pleasure depend on a transition from a fight-or-flight response to a more relaxed, present-moment state.

Jessica is a licensed and certified relationship and sex therapist, retreat facilitator, and founder of Expansive Connections Retreats. She helps couples and individuals cultivate deeper intimacy, emotional safety, and honest communication through a trauma-informed, somatic, and evidence-based approach. With specialized experience supporting LGBTQIA+ clients, neurodivergent couples, and non-traditional relationships, Jessica is known for reframing relationship myths, normalizing complex dynamics, and offering practical, accessible tools for navigating intimacy, conflict, and long-term connection.

In this episode, you will hear:

· The Nervous System’s Role In Sexual Arousal

· Why Stress Blocks Erotic Connection

· Moving From Fight Or Flight To Rest And Digest

· Practical Co-Regulation Rituals For Couples

· The Power Of Non-Demand Touch And Connection

· Navigating Desire Mismatch In Relationships

· How To Communicate A Loving “No” To Sex

· Recognizing Signs Of Nervous System Shutdown

· Using Rituals To Transition Into Intimacy

· Small Shifts That Help Couples Feel Safer And More Connected

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Welcome to Episode 481 of the Sexology Podcast! I'm thrilled to have Gigi Engle join me today as she talks about kink, how it's frequently misinterpreted, and how people can explore their desires with open communication, curiosity, and safety.

Gigi and I discuss what kink actually entails and why it is much more expansive than the preconceived notions that many people have about it. She describes how the term "kink" serves as a catch-all for a variety of relational and sensory experiences, ranging from more symbolic forms of erotic expression to power dynamics and sensation play.

Gigi Engle is a COSRT-registered, MNCIP, ACS, CSE, CSC, GSRD-accredited, award-winning author, certified sex & relationships psychotherapist, and sex educator. She works clinically as an associate clinician at The Therapy Yard, where she specializes in supporting GSRD (Gender, Sexuality, and Relationship Diverse) clients, including members of the LGBTQIA+ community, kinky folx, and people in polyamorous and open relationships.

Gigi is the author of two books: Kink Curious and All The F*cking Mistakes. Kink Curious is available for pre-order and comes out January 21st.

In this episode, you will hear:

· The True Meaning of Kink

· Distinctions Between Fetish and Kink

· Reasons Behind Many People's Unrealized Kinkiness

· The Evolution of Kinks

· Psychology of Symbolic and Sensory Play

· Kink Exploration's Emotional Safety

· The Significance of Safe Words and Consent

· Comprehending the Concept of an Enthusiastic Maybe

· Managing Shame Regarding Sexual Desires

· How Couples Can Respectfully Discuss Kinks

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