This week, Megan and Michelle take a little detour from The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids because they landed on a topic that felt way too important to save for later. They start digging into sensory processing disorder, or SPD, and almost immediately the conversation turns into one of those Spicy Brain moments where a whole bunch of old experiences suddenly start making a different kind of sense. Not in a neat, wrapped-up, “we solved it” kind of way. More like, oh. Ohhh. This might explain some things.

What makes this episode so good is that they are not talking about sensory processing in some dry, textbook way. They are talking about what it feels like to actually live inside it. The aquarium shifts that are just too much. The clothes that never sit right. The lights that feel offensive. The sounds that do not just annoy you, but physically hurt. The perfect chip. The weirdness of loving certain sensations and being absolutely wrecked by others. And underneath all of it is this bigger realization that maybe “too sensitive” was never the right label in the first place.

There is also a really tender thread running through this one about language. Because once you have language, you can stop treating every struggle like a character flaw. Megan talks about chronic pain, body awareness, and how hard it can be to interpret what your body is even trying to say. Michelle keeps connecting dots between SPD, ADHD, anxiety, and the way people can get mislabeled when the real issue is that the world is just coming in way too loud, bright, itchy, crunchy, and much. That is the thing this episode keeps circling. It is not about collecting labels for fun. It is about understanding how your brain works well enough to stop shaming yourself for it.

And honestly, that is what makes this one feel so personal. It is not just a conversation about diagnoses. It is a conversation about accommodations, relationships, and what it means to be believed. Because if something really does hurt, overwhelm, or derail you, that matters whether or not somebody else would react the same way. This episode feels like the beginning of a new rabbit hole for Spicy Brain, and a really meaningful one.

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Favorite line from the episode: “Maybe I have a little bit of a 'tism' in me.”

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00:00 welcome back and why this is a detour episode

01:30 Michelle introduces sensory processing disorder

03:00 why ADHD did not feel like the whole picture

05:00 the sensory checklist begins

14:00 visual overload, stencils, puzzles, and the joy of sorting

24:00 auditory overwhelm and why background noise can be brutal

32:30 the checklist results and what they might mean

43:00 how sensory issues can affect daily life

51:00 why language and accommodations matter

55:00 should Spicy Brain keep going down this rabbit hole?

If this one hit something in you, especially if ADHD or anxiety has explained part of your experience but not all of it, you are probably not the only one. Sometimes just hearing your own life reflected back in a different way can take a little weight off your shoulders. We are really glad you are here while we figure this stuff out in real time. Stay curious, joyful, radically accepting. High kick.

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This week, Megan and Michelle take a little detour from the parenting book because they stumbled into something that immediately felt too important not to talk about. The conversation starts with sensory processing disorder, or SPD, and pretty quickly turns into one of those Spicy Brain moments where a whole bunch of old experiences suddenly start making a different kind of sense. Not in a neat little “we solved it” way. More in a “wait a second, this might explain a lot” kind of way.

Michelle brings in what she has been reading about sensory processing disorders and the way the brain can struggle to receive, organize, and respond to sensory information like sound, light, texture, smell, and movement. And as they start talking through the examples, Megan just keeps having one of those "oh no, that’s me" moments. The long shifts at the aquarium. The way certain sounds physically hurt. The perfect chip. The manga scrolling at night. The food textures. The blinking lights. The chewing. The box paper. The moving chaos. Suddenly this old label of “too sensitive” starts looking a lot less like a personality flaw and a lot more like an actual pattern.

What makes this episode really interesting is that they are not talking about SPD in some detached, clinical way. They are talking about what it feels like to live inside it. What it feels like when a sensation does not just annoy you, but completely hijacks your ability to focus, connect, or stay regulated. Megan talks about pain, body awareness, and how years of chronic pain may have taught her to interpret every body signal like an emergency. Michelle starts connecting dots too, especially around auditory overwhelm and the way some people get mislabeled with anxiety when the real issue might be that the world is just coming in way too loud.

There is also a really tender thread running underneath all of it about language, accommodations, and what it means to be believed. Because if you do not know what is happening, you end up thinking you are dramatic, difficult, lazy, rude, or broken. And if the people around you do not understand it, then every request can feel like you are asking for too much. This episode does not wrap it all up in a bow, but it does open a really important door. Sometimes the diagnosis you already have is not the whole picture. Sometimes there is another piece of the puzzle, and finally seeing it can change everything.

Favorite line from the episode: “How does that help me right now?”

00:00 welcome back and why this is a detour episode

01:30 Michelle introduces sensory processing disorder

02:30 aquarium shifts, overwhelm, and Megan realizing this sounds familiar

04:30 the perfect chip and food texture rules

06:30 pain tolerance, bruises, and body awareness

09:00 chronic pain, PT, and learning the difference between pain and sensation

10:30 why SPD often gets mislabeled as anxiety

14:00 the manga scrolling at night and visual overwhelm

17:30 why ADHD alone may not explain the full picture

20:00 moving boxes, paper, smell, and sensory overload

24:30 auditory overwhelm, chewing, and needing quiet to think

27:00 acting school, sense memory, and “the body of your nature”

32:30 the sensory checklist and where they want to go next

If this episode hit something for you, especially if you have ever felt like ADHD or autism explained part of the picture but not all of it, you are probably not alone. Sometimes just having language for what is happening takes a little weight off your shoulders. We are really glad you are here while we keep following this rabbit hole in real time. Stay curious, joyful, radically accepting. High kick.

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This week is a follow-up from the moving trenches, and honestly, it feels like the exact episode that had to happen after 104. Megan and Michelle circle back now that the boxes are inside, the furniture is technically here, and the nervous systems are finally starting to come down off the ledge. If you have ever moved with an ADHD brain, or loved someone through a move with an ADHD brain, this one will probably feel a little too familiar in the best possible way.

They talk about the weird truth that both progress and total despair can exist at the same time. Megan can feel how much has changed. Her anxiety going into this move was lower. Her body held up better. She did not spiral the way she would have in past moves. And still, once the adrenaline dropped, the swirly brain, the exhaustion, the irritation, the broken stuff, the dog peeing on the couch, the flickering lights, the broken dishwasher, and the maintenance chaos all came crashing in at once. Which is funny because sometimes you think you are done with the hard part, and that is exactly when the real overwhelm taps you on the shoulder.

There is also a really good thread here about body sensations and how Megan is starting to separate pain from other signals her body gives her. That turns into a bigger conversation about discomfort, neurodivergence, and the way complex brains can interpret every sensation like an emergency. Michelle connects that to learning, stress, and the fact that we are all maybe a little too trained now to expect instant fixes and tiny bite-sized answers instead of real trial and error.

And underneath all of it is this bigger question of what it means to live with another spicy brain while both of you are maxed out. Megan and Brian are not reacting to the move in the same way, and that means the real work is not just unpacking boxes. It is compromise. It is pacing. It is figuring out whose version of “just get it done” is running the room at any given moment. It is also radical acceptance at a truly unreasonable level.

Favorite line from the episode:

“The radical acceptance we are needing right now is very great.”

00:00 welcome back and a moving follow-up

02:30 ten days of total executive function overload

06:30 the “you’re highly sensitive” moment

09:00 progress, anxiety, and how this move felt different

11:00 physical stamina, PT, and not throwing out her back

13:00 learning the difference between pain and sensation

15:00 when the adrenaline wore off and everything hit at once

17:30 moving with two different kinds of neurospicy

19:00 the drill sergeant voice and not feeling allowed to rest

21:00 dog pee, broken appliances, and the maintenance spiral

27:00 old games, problem solving, and why discomfort matters

31:00 extreme radical acceptance, boxes, and the aftershock of moving

If you are in a season where every single executive function demand is showing up at once, this episode is a good reminder that doing better does not always look graceful. Sometimes it looks like making real progress and still feeling like you are one broken dishwasher away from losing it. That does not erase the growth. It just means you are human and probably very, very tired. We are glad you are here with us in the messy middle of it. Stay curious, joyful, radically accepting. High kick.

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