Supporting the Guardians (Part 2): Why Parents’ Healing Changes the Whole Family

If we want to help Gen Z thrive, we can’t only focus on kids—we have to support the parents raising them.

In Part 2 of our Supporting the Guardians conversation, Andy and Kelly sit down with Eagle Ranch counselor Phillip Costa to talk about what parents themselves are experiencing right now—and why their own healing and growth matter so much.

Drawing from nearly two decades of counseling experience, Phillip shares how anxiety, stress, and depression among parents have steadily increased, especially in the digital age. From constant information overload to the pressure of “getting parenting right,” many caregivers today feel overwhelmed and exhausted.

But there is hope.

Phillip explains that lasting change in a family often begins when parents slow down and begin exploring their own story—how they were parented, what triggers them, and how unresolved pain can shape the way they respond to their children.

When parents begin doing that work, something powerful happens: the entire family system begins to shift.

This conversation offers a hopeful reminder that parenting isn’t about perfection. It’s about faithfulness in the process, growing in compassion for ourselves, and building a foundation strong enough to weather the storms that inevitably come.

Episode Highlights

[03:40] The current state of parenting: why anxiety and stress are increasing for caregivers

[05:30] How constant information and “Dr. Google” can fuel parental anxiety

[08:40] Signs a parent may be running on empty and losing margin

[10:30] Why exploring your personal story is essential for growth

[13:30] What keeps parents from slowing down and doing their own work

[14:30] The ripple effect: how parents changing begins to transform families

[16:10] Understanding authoritative parenting: balancing nurture and structure

[18:20] Why tools and parenting tips don’t work without a strong foundation

[20:00] The importance of community when processing your story

[25:30] Encouragement for parents who feel like they’re doing the work but still struggling

Resources Mentioned

📊 Gen Z Mental Health & Well-Being Report (Barna Group)

https://www.barna.com/mental-health/

🎙 Previous Episode with Phillip Costa

Family Dynamics: What Doesn’t Get Healed Gets Transferred (Part 1) — Season 1, Episode 4

📖 You on Purpose — Dr. Stephanie Shackelford

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You don’t have to navigate modern parenting alone.

Let’s move from desperation to hope — together.