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  • Second Helpings: Removing Shoes on Airplanes, Exiting Weddings Early, Welcoming Guests In, and More

    Second Helpings: Removing Shoes on Airplanes, Exiting Weddings Early, Welcoming Guests In, and More
    Apr 6 2026

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about removing shoes on airplanes, exiting weddings early, welcoming guests in, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

    • What are your thoughts on removing one's shoes on an airplane?
    • How do you handle a friend who wants a friendship more than you do and also always suggests meeting up closer to where they live?
    • Should a bride and groom leave their wedding reception before the last song?
    • How do you feel about the phrase "Welcome In"?
    • What do you do about a friend who's always a downer at parties?
    • PSA: You're on camera when you sit front row at an opera or musical.


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    • Sound Baths


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    CREDITS

    Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

    Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

    Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


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    TRANSCRIPT

    Episode 225

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    23 mins
  • Second Helpings: Eating Baguettes in France, Spitting Wine at Tastings, Returning Gifts to Guests, and More

    Second Helpings: Eating Baguettes in France, Spitting Wine at Tastings, Returning Gifts to Guests, and More
    Mar 30 2026
    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle eating baguettes in France, spitting at winery tasting rooms, returning gifts to guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.comEPISODE CONTENTSAMUSE-BOUCHE: Baguettes in FranceA QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Tasting Rooms at WineriesQUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What can be said to in-laws who are expecting a baby at the same time as my wedding? Is it OK to give dinner party guests the wine back that they brought?VENT OR REPENT: Forgetting gluten, Rude coyotesCORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to the librarian, A nice reviewTHINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOWBaguettes on Wikipedia$2 Bill on WikipediaYOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO...Support our show through PatreonSubscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple PodcastsCall, text, or email us your questionsFollow us on Instagram, Facebook, and TwitterVisit our official websiteSign up for our newsletterBuy some fabulous official merchandiseCREDITSHosts: Nick Leighton & Leah BonnemaProducer & Editor: Nick LeightonTheme Music: Rob ParavonianADVERTISE ON OUR SHOWClick here for detailsTRANSCRIPTEpisode 220See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    40 mins
  • Leaking Phone Numbers, Venting About Registries, Requesting the 'Man of the House,' and More

    Leaking Phone Numbers, Venting About Registries, Requesting the 'Man of the House,' and More
    Mar 23 2026
    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about leaking phone numbers to strangers, venting about baby registries, requesting the "Man of the House," and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:What do you do when someone shares your phone number without your permission?Am I right to expect at least a coffee for helping a friend pick a wedding outfit?Can I ask someone to silence their phone in a shared eating space?How do you respond to a friend who is unhappy people aren't buying gifts off her baby registry?How do you respond when someone asks if the "man of the house" is available?THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOWThe Theatre MetaphorYOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, Threads, TikTok, and YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CREDITSHosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TRANSCRIPT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 301See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    30 mins
  • Very Special 300th Episode Extravaganza

    Very Special 300th Episode Extravaganza
    Mar 16 2026
    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this very special 300th episode extravaganza, Nick and Leah count down their top ten favorite etiquette questions and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TOP 10 QUESTIONS:What’s the best way to handle being surprised by four extra houseguests? (Episode 281)What do you do if you're asked to chaperone a children's birthday party but your own child isn't invited? (Episode 22)Sending birthday cards with fake return addresses (Episodes 264 and 266)Is it tacky to sell soap at your wedding? (Episode 285)Is it rude to ask for birthday cake before the guest of honor blows out the candles? (Episode 191)What do I do about a parent who asked me to sign a pre-written recommendation letter for her daughter? (Episode 125)I offered to "bring something" to a dinner party and then was given the entire shopping list...what do I do? (Episode 115)Asking for a necklace back (Episode 249)Asking wedding guests to bring appetizers, ice, and liquor (Episode 231)Is it OK for my neighbor to take flowers from my yard without my permission? (Episode 194)YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, Threads, TikTok, and YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CREDITSHosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TRANSCRIPT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 300See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    1 hr and 27 mins
  • Getting Married on Fridays, Putting In-Laws to Work, Singing Foreign National Anthems, and More

    Getting Married on Fridays, Putting In-Laws to Work, Singing Foreign National Anthems, and More
    Mar 9 2026
    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about getting married on Fridays, putting in-laws to work, singing foreign national anthems, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:Is it rude to get married on a Friday?Should I wear shoes when giving a piano lesson in my home?How do we get our in-laws to help out with daily chores when they visit?Can Americans sing along to another country's national anthem?Can you clarify how to insert a card into an envelope?THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOWKimigayo (Japan's National Anthem)YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, Threads, TikTok, and YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CREDITSHosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TRANSCRIPT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 299See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    26 mins
  • Closing Letters Properly, Feeding Finicky Visitors, Blinding Fellow Drivers, and More

    Closing Letters Properly, Feeding Finicky Visitors, Blinding Fellow Drivers, and More
    Mar 2 2026
    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle closing letters and cards properly, feeding finicky out-of-town visitors, blinding fellow drivers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EPISODE CONTENTSAMUSE-BOUCHE: Signing letters and cardsA QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Cruise shipsQUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do about out of town guests with very narrow food preferences? Should I tell my sister that the gift card she just gave me isn't usable because the store just went bankrupt?VENT OR REPENT: Car headlights, Blowing bubblesCORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the cruise, Thanks for the photosTHINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOWCunard's Queen Mary 2YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CREDITSHosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TRANSCRIPT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 298See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    45 mins
  • Dropping State Names, Double-Thanking for Gifts, Arriving at Funerals Early, and More

    Dropping State Names, Double-Thanking for Gifts, Arriving at Funerals Early, and More
    Feb 23 2026
    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dropping state names, double-thanking for gifts, arriving early for funerals, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:When is a city sufficiently well known not to need the state name with it?Is it bad form to text a photo of yourself enjoying a gift after you've already sent a thank-you note?Is it true that you should arrive at weddings and funerals half an hour early?What should I do about a holiday postcard that was misaddressed and includes a lot of personal information?What should I do about store employees who address me as "dear," "hun," or "sweetheart"?Bonkers: Grabbing produce bags at the supermarketTHINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOWClip from "Hoosiers"Janet Evanovich's "One for the Money"YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, Threads, TikTok, and YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CREDITSHosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TRANSCRIPT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 297See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    26 mins
  • Second Helpings: Faking Wedding Start Times, Asking for Gifts Back, Clipping Nails in Church, and More

    Second Helpings: Faking Wedding Start Times, Asking for Gifts Back, Clipping Nails in Church, and More
    Feb 16 2026

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about faking wedding start times, asking for gifts back, clipping nails in church, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

    Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com


    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

    • Is it rude to put a fake start time on a wedding invitation?
    • What's the polite way to tell someone "when" to stop pouring wine?
    • How do I politely decline someone's offer to share a hotel room?
    • Is it OK to ask for a gift back after someone dies?
    • What do you do if you only remember a dog's name but not the owner's?
    • Etiquette Crime Report: Clipping nails in church


    THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

    • A "Standard Pour" of wine


    YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO...

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    • Buy some fabulous official merchandise


    CREDITS

    Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

    Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

    Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


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    TRANSCRIPT

    Episode 227

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    24 mins