Big Dating Energy

How to Create Lasting Love by Tapping Into Your Authentic Self

By: Jeff Guenther, Kate Happ

Narrated by: Jeff Guenther

Eight Rules of Loveby Jay Shetty meets Tinx's The Shift for making modern relationships work for you, from a licensed professional therapist with two decades of experience and nearly 4 million followers on social media as @therapyjeff

Dating these days is hard, and no one understands that more than licensed therapist Jeff Guenther. Whether you’re looking for marriage or just a fling, exploring your sexuality or discovering your attachment style, or just trying to figure out which app is most worth your time, Jeff meets you exactly where you are; it’s no surprise that millions of viewers have found comfort in his posts. With humor, empathy, and an acknowledgment of the obstacles to finding healthy relationships, he has become the dating whisperer for the social media age.

Dating in the super-online, post-covid world is not for the weak, and people are confused and looking for guidance. In the vein of Unf*ck Yourself, The Love Prescription and How to Not Die Alone, Big Dating Energy is a funny, modern self-help title that tackles the opaque world of dating, empowering the reader with straight talk and an emphasis on authenticity.

Covering everything from first dates to red flags, ideal partner checklists to knowing when and how to end things, and even an exploration of the people and things you can blame for why your dating life hasn’t worked out so far, Big Dating Energy harnesses the charm and easy-to-use advice that nearly 4 million followers come to the @therapyjeff platform for daily. It will set you up to not only succeed at dating, but maybe even enjoy it along the way.

Critic reviews

"Raw, empowering, and refreshingly honest, Big Dating Energy will teach you to embrace you full self and date with confidence. With his signature no-nonsense, deeply compassionate style, Jeff offers practical tips and unwavering support to help you navigate the dating scene - and have fun while doing it."—Logan Ury, author of How to Not Die Alone

honesty and vulnerability

I loved the way it was read, it made it very easy to stay engulfed in the story, be entertained while being brutally honest. I will forever obtain this learned skill to hold space for eachother without judge and judgement of each other...

Excellent listen

Such a funny and enjoyable listen. Filled with admirable perspectives and a great tool for reframing.

Insightful for any relationship even long term ones.

Even though I’m not ready to date just yet I wanted to listen and I absolutely adore everything Jeff does his brand of humor resonates with me always. I will come back to this I found it helpful at the end of my 15 year marriage and I will do the work before starting to date again.

Wise, practical, funny, and irreverent

Therapy Jeff’s content has been a priceless support through my decision to end a 2-decade marriage, my venture into the dating world, and my journey with my new partner. Therapy Jeff made me take stock and honestly reflect on my own faults and red flags in relationship. This book feels like a curated best hits, but much more. I really enjoyed the structure and the prompts for self-reflection. I finished the book with more confidence that I can form a lasting partnership in my current relationship, but also more confident that if it ends, I’ll still thrive. If you already follow Therapt Jeff, you will find tons of new insights and will appreciate the sequence and thematic organization. If you don’t follow Therapy Jeff, you will find a funny, supportive, judgement-free zone to discover more about yourself and what you need and want in your closest connections.

Just Keep Listening!

It’s clear to me that the one star reviewer didn’t get past the intro. This book is DEFINITELY about dating! Not just getting dates but getting in touch with what you really want and value in a partnership. Also buckle up because you’re gonna have to do the work! Looking at you Mr lazy one star reviewer!

Maybe it’s better called “Big Relationship Energy” because it walks you through all the stages from meeting to the honeymoon phase to when-to-call-it-quits and how to get back out there.

If you know Therapy Jeff and are a fan, you recognize the title and know what a wild ride you’re getting into. The authors voice and humor is clear and consistent throughout.

10/10 and I’m going to be listening to this one again.