Conflict Without Casualties

A Field Guide for Leading with Compassionate Accountability

By: Nate Regier

Narrated by: Jeff Hoyt

Most organizations are terrified of conflict, seeing it as a sign of trouble. But clinical psychologist and transformative communication expert Dr. Nate Regier says conflict is really just a kind of energy that can be used for good or ill. With the concepts and tools he shares in this book, you can turn conflict into a partner for positive change.

Handled incorrectly, conflict becomes drama - people struggle against themselves or each other to feel justified about their negative behavior. It's immensely costly to companies, teams, and relationships at all levels. Regier illustrates the interpersonal dynamics that perpetuate drama through a concept called the Drama Triangle and offers an alternative: compassionate accountability.

Compassionate accountability is the engine that turns conflict into a creative force. It's a process of holding people accountable while preserving their dignity. It balances caring, concern, empathy, and transparency with boundaries, goals, aspirations, and standards. Regier shows how the destructive dynamics of the Drama Triangle can be transformed using its constructive counterpart: the Compassion Cycle. Provocative and illuminating, this book helps us replace the unrealistic, sometimes punishing, even crushing demands we exact on both our colleagues and our loved ones with openness, resourcefulness, and persistence.

©2017 Nate Regier, PhD (P)2017 Nate Regier, PhD

The myths we agree to

This was very thought-provoking and the questions I had while listening we soon answered in the reading

Great information delivered in an easily digestible way.

I will be able to take these methods and apply them to my work as a leader within my company. This was a suggested book by my manager and it is very helpful in showing the psychology of conflict. not only will I be able to use these methods at work but I will do my best to apply them in my home with my wife and kids.

for any, and everyone!

I found myself humbled AND encouraged. This is something you can listen to over and over again, and still learn something!

Insightful

So many great insights on how to limit drama in the workplace and in my personal life. Looking forward to applying these lessons in how I respond to conflict to help limit the drama in my life. I recommend this book for those who find themselves surrounded by drama.

Great read!

There are so many connections with this content and others dealing with creating culture. Excellent practical strategies.