Healing Your Attachment Wounds

How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships

By: Diane Poole Heller PhD

Narrated by: Diane Poole Heller PhD

Why do we experience recurring struggles in our relationships? And why do traumatic events—such as a physical injury, emotional threat, loss of a loved one, or other life crisis—so often awaken or amplify our sense of fear, anger, isolation, or helplessness?

From our earliest years, teaches Diane Poole Heller, we develop an attachment style that follows us through life, replaying in our intimate relationships, with our children, and at work. And traumatic events can deeply affect that core relational blueprint.

With Healing Your Attachment Wounds, a pioneer in attachment theory and trauma resolution brings together these two fields to help us understand and benefit from their complementary principles and methods.

This in-depth audio learning program sheds light on the three styles of insecure attachment—Avoidant, Ambivalent, and Disorganized—and the ideal fourth style of Secure attachment, where we enjoy a foundation of safety, adaptability, and intimacy with others.

The good news is that we can change, regardless of our early or current life experiences.

“As we heal and move toward Secure attachment,” teaches Heller, “we become aware of triggers and patterns in our relationships. Our nervous system learns to be more regulated. Things don't throw us off so easily. And we open our capacity to love and experience greater compassion.”

Through key principles, examples, and practical exercises, this program invites you to begin your own healing journey toward healthy vulnerability, wholeness, and connection with others.

If you are reading this, just get it!!!

The most amazing and useful summary of attachment styles I have ever come across!! I have listened to this book twice in one week because I wanted to soak it alllllll in! I have extremely dismissive parents and have dismissive tendencies myself. My partner is 100% ambivalent and we have fought through our triggers as best as we know how for almost 15 years. We have a 2 year old now, and it is so evident that our attachment styles are no longer serving us, so much so that we were on the brink of divorce after the holidays. This book (along with therapy) saved our relationship and my daughter’s future. I can’t thank the author enough!

For me, this explains the demise of my marriage!

For me, this explained why my husband and I had such a hard time trying to make connections with one another. It might be too late to save our marriage but at least now I have some more knowledge on ways to heal attachment wounds and how to move forward in other relationships.

Very Useful, concrete information

Loved this book! You simply must just read it! Diane Poole Heller, PhD is very knowledgeable and helpful. As I listened, I felt like she was sitting here, in front of me, like my own therapist, working with me. She is insightful and delivers her message with grace, compassion, and humor. Thank you for sharing your research and knowledge with the world!

Incredible! And Essential

Helps you understand yourself and your relationship patterns in a way you never imagined. An essential handbook to life.

Trauma struggles

This book has given me a start to heal my insecure attachment wounds. I learned about topics that I didn’t know I was struggling with myself. I would highly recommend