IT'S NOT “HIGH CONFLICT” IT’S POST-SEPARATION ABUSE

When Abusers Weaponize the Courts as a Form of Retaliation

By: Kaytlyn Gillis

Narrated by: Virtual Voice

The family court system is meant to protect domestic violence victims, yet too often, it becomes an endless labyrinth that traps them inside. Abusers weaponize our judicial system to instill their revenge, from long, drawn-out divorces and custody battles to forcing their victims to spend thousands of dollars and endless time in court. In her new book, Kaytee Gillis tells the story of those victims trying to defend themselves against the revenge of post-separation abuse while navigating that legal labyrinth. When our judicial system fails to protect victims from this abuse, they give abusers the freedom to continue it. Legally.

Combining elements from real-life experiences that victims deal with every day in our court system, and drawing conclusions from her work as a psychotherapist and consultant, Gillis provides information and workbook tips for survivors navigating the court system, to help decrease the risk of retraumatization of post-separation abuse.

Authenticity.

There are great examples of what the abuse is. It is a great mental health provider resource for clients. The AI read was interesting at time, but nothing too distracting.

Great book, bad AI reading

This AI reader literally cut off the last 24 minutes of the book. I have no idea how it ended!

This book validates and helps start the healing journey

So grateful I found this book. It was incredibly helpful to get a better understanding and insight into this very real struggle. It is easy to feel alone and trapped in these experiences. I am grateful for the professional perspective and guidance. Thank you for the work you do,Kaytee, for victims of post separation abuse. You give voice to what can feel like a silent, isolated suffering. My gosh, if there could be change on the judicial level! I have said many times that the courts protect the bullies, even if they don’t intend to. And yes, the use of the phrase “high conflict divorce/separation” tossed out in the courtroom feels like further victimization for the person simply trying to handle the abuse, so out of their control, that is thrown at them. The helpless, hopeless, stuck emotions are real and deeply understandable. Finding this book was a gift. As for the AI reader… I am not a fan of AI narration. So much is lost in the telling of poignant writing. Nonetheless, this AI reader was more tolerable than others I have heard, and furthermore, the content of the book is worth the effort it takes to get beyond the AI narration.