It's Not You

How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People

By: Ramani Durvasula

Narrated by: Ramani Durvasula

Brought to you by Penguin.

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From clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships Dr Ramani Durvasula, discover the inspiring guide to protecting and healing yourself from the daily harms of narcissism.

REDISCOVER WHO YOU ARE AFTER YEARS OF INVALIDATION

Dealing with a narcissist is hard.

One day their confidence and charisma pull you in, the next day they gaslight, wreck your self-confidence and leave you wondering what you could have done differently. Clinical psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani is here to help.

Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching and helping people navigate the challenging landscape of narcissism, It’s Not You will show you how to:

• Spot the tell-tale signs of a narcissist
• Confront toxic cycles
• Protect your energy
• Create realistic boundaries
• Reclaim and embrace your true self

Packed with expert tips and detailed advice, this book will equip you with the tools to stop blaming yourself, regain your power, heal and take back your life.

'A compassionate road map and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships' Jay Shetty, bestselling author of Think Like a Monk and The 8 Rules of Love
‘A must read. Dr Ramani will teach you how to heal from any toxic relationship’ Mel Robbins, bestselling author of The Let Them Theory

©2024 Ramani Durvasula (P)2024 Penguin Audio

©2024 Ramani Durvasula (P)2024 Penguin Audio

Critic reviews

“A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships, helping them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships.” - Jay Shetty

It's Not You!!!

Powerful and informative. I loved the deep insight and examples of it in detailed explanation.

Amazing!!!

For the first two hours I had goosebumps as I could point every sentence to my story…, Amazing amazing amazing!!!!
She is brilliant… and I pray this book reaches every single person in a narcissistic relationship!!! Thank you Dr Ramini!

Best Book on healing from narcissistic abuse

Perfect sequence and excellent explanations .
it all makes sense now!

Thank you Dr Ramani! You’re the best!

Very insightful

Such an informative and insightful book for navigating relationships with narcissistic individuals. Definitely would recommend.

Insights and practical tools

Understands the reality of narcissistic abuse and lived experience better than anyone I’ve ever heard.