Loving Someone Who Has Sexual Trauma

A Compassionate Guide to Supporting Your Partner and Improving Your Relationship

By: Megan Lara Negendank LMFT CST, Stephanie Buehler PsyD CST-S - foreword

Narrated by: Sara Sheckells

If your partner is a survivor of sexual trauma, they may experience anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression, or feel triggered by intimate situations. And you may feel confused or unsure of how to support them. This gentle guide will give you the tools you need to help nurture intimacy and trust, and cultivate a secure relationship.

In Loving Someone Who Has Sexual Trauma, marriage, family, and sex therapist Megan Lara Negendank offers self-compassion and attachment-based communication skills to support your partner. You'll also learn powerful, trauma-informed techniques and strategies to help you understand the full impact of your partner's past experience, increase feelings of safety and connection, and ultimately improve your relationship in the here and now.

In this gentle guide, you'll discover:

- Communication skills to help promote trust

- How to avoid or deescalate from common triggers

- How to identify attachment styles and soothe conflict patterns

If you're ready to move beyond fear, anger, and disconnection to a thriving intimate relationship where you both can feel loved, safe, and connected, this book can help you get started.

©2023 Megan Negendank (P)2023 Tantor

Great Book

This book is helpful and insightful, written in a way that was engaging. The tools are accessible and easy to implement.

Helpful guide

As a clinician, I listened to this book to find a resource for partners of individuals who have experienced sexual trauma. It offers valuable insights and practical advice for partners, making it a helpful resource in that regard. While the content didn’t present new information for me as a clinician, I believe it could be very beneficial for those seeking to understand and provide support in these challenging circumstances.

Not for the Autistic

From my lens as an autistic person, the book does everything opposite from what we need. It’s vague, infantilizing, the self love and the introspective questions don’t function the same way with us Neuro-Superior folk as it would with the neurotypical. I would always suggest “Come as You Are”, Dr. Nagoski herself is a fellow autist and she conveys a lot of this information way better. A lot of the time I was asking why and who would think this way. Maybe it could be for men who don’t actually think about women or women’s issues? I was told a lot of what I was thinking, but it was always the complete opposite. This didn’t fit my experience or the way my brain is wired, so any other autistic person having trouble with this just know you’re not alone.