Married to Distraction

Restoring Intimacy and Strengthening Your Marriage in an Age of Interruption

By: Edward Hallowell, Sue Hallowell, Melissa Orlov

Narrated by: Edward Hallowell, Sue Hallowell

Modern marriage is busy, distracted, and overloaded to extremes, with ever-increasing lists of things to do, superficial electronic connections, and interrupted moments. Now Edward M. Hallowell, the bestselling co-author of Driven to Distraction and Delivered from Distraction, teams up with his wife, Sue George Hallowell, a couples’ therapist, to explain the subtle but dangerous toll today’s overstretched, undernurtured lifestyle takes on our most intimate relationship. The good news is that there are straightforward and effective ways to maneuver your marriage out of the destructive roadblocks created by the avalanche of busy living.
• Observe the natural sequence of sustaining love: attention, time, connection, and play.
• Develop and nurture empathy—the essential building block to healthy communication.
• Carve out small moments of uninterrupted attention for each other.
• Identify the pressures that our crazybusy lifestyles put on love and marriage, and fight back with tenderness and appreciation.
All of us who have been part of a couple for more than a few years will recognize ourselves in this reassuring book. Married to Distraction will set couples on a course of understanding, healing, and love.

Excellent!

I had just finished listening to this by myself, and will be listening to it with my husband this week as we are traveling. So many times, I could relate to exactly how the authors were describing the problems between couples. I have hope for us, finally!

Great book!

I recommend anyone who wants to improve their marriage, whether it is failing or thriving.

Great book

Loved it! many good insights that I personally do not believe every wife reading this book will follow.

Better than I expected!

As I read the poor reviews on this book I can't help but notice that most of them probably only listened to the first 1 or 2 chapters and then stopped listening. As an adult with ADHD, this book has been a godsend to helping restore and strengthen my marriage. I love its approach of not blaming or pointing fingers. I love how it doesn't even mention ADHD. Before my husband listened to this book he was sure that all of our marital issues were because of "my ADHD". After listening to this book, he saw for the first time, how his actions were also contributing to our poor relationship.
This is not a book about how to manage your spouses ADHD symptoms, nor should it be. It is a book about how to react to your spouse and show them that you still care about them. It is a book about working as a team and utilizing each other for your strengths. It is a book about reconnecting with your spouse to get back to that place where you both loved and respected each other. It is a book about being heard and listening to strengthen your relationship with each other.
This book is a great prelude to "The ADHD Effect on Marriage"

Not so much for dealing with ADHD as I hoped

I thought this might be more about helping couples deal with a partner with ADHD but it really doesn’t address that at all sadly, and the other thing that scored this book down for me was the often negative tone of the book. That the world was grinding us down and that things seemed so bleak. I just don’t feel that way, so coming at it from that perspective just didn’t resonate with me and didn’t seem to really connect for me. There are some good pointers in there, but I feel this might be a better book for couples on the brink than for couples just looking for tools to strengthen their bonds.