Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder

Communication Skills to Manage Intense Emotions, Set Boundaries, and Reduce Conflict

By: Jerold J. Kreisman MD, Randi Kreger - foreword

Narrated by: Rebecca Roberts

In this compassionate guide, Jerold Kreisman—author of I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me—offers a powerful set of tools to help you express yourself, set boundaries, and cultivate healthy communication with a loved one who is diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD).

If you have a loved one with BPD, you need real, proven-effective strategies to help you navigate the intense emotions and conflict that can arise in daily interactions and conversations. People with BPD often feel anger, pain, and hurt from a history of invalidation and disappointment, and their difficulty in regulating emotions can lead to moments of lashing out that can confuse and upset those around them.

Written by a psychiatrist with more than 40 years of experience in treating BPD, Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder offers a breakthrough, compassionate approach to communicating with a loved one who has BPD. The SET (support, empathy, truth) method outlined in this audiobook is a powerful and simple tool that will allow you to honestly address your loved one’s demands, assertions, and feelings while still maintaining appropriate boundaries. Each step builds on the last, helping you build up a consistent and reliable communication process.

In this audiobook, you’ll find a review of BPD and the common communication problems inherent in the disorder. You’ll learn how SET can address these issues. And finally, you’ll find detailed examples of specific scenarios that can arise when talking to a loved one with BPD.

Remember—validation isn’t the same as agreement. You can help your loved one feel validated while still maintaining your own boundaries. This essential guide will show you how.

©2018 Jerold J. Kreisman (P)2020 New Harbinger Publications

Super helpful

I have read all of the 'recommended reading' and this has been by far the most helpful for the day to day dealings. The example situations and conversations were eerily accurate and provided great insight and examples of how to best handle specific challenges.

Relief!

I’m so excited about this book. It has already proved helpful in managing discussions with my BP spouse, who is currently working through a BPD workbook in tandem with therapy. It was great to hear word-for-word conversations we have had! It is a daunting task and definitely a difficult relationship. I’m happy to have some strategies and feel less alone in this struggle.

Very, very good and practical!

Very practical with lots of examples. This technique is very useful for communications with any difficult personality whether that is from BPD, psychotic disorders, PTSD or just stressful situations. Very helpful!