You, Your Husband, and His Mother

Create a Healthy Relationship with Your Mother-in-Law--and Your Spouse--in Five Simple Steps

By: Tracy Dalgleish

Narrated by: Tracy Dalgleish

Break unhealthy patterns, set boundaries, and resolve conflicts with your mother-in-law, for a stronger marriage and a happier life

"Dr. Tracy shows you how to set boundaries without starting a war—and how to stay kind without getting steamrolled.”—Jefferson Fisher

You don’t just marry your spouse, you marry their family—and dealing with your in-laws isn’t always easy. Women in particular often find themselves trapped in a toxic cycle with their mothers-in-law, doomed to feel like either a victim or a villain no matter what they do. In this indispensable resource, clinical psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish helps women step outside the victim/villain binary and forge a healthy relationship with their mother-in-law that aligns with and prioritizes their marriage and overall well-being. Using Dr. Tracy’s tried-and-true, five-step VAULT method, readers will learn the type of MIL they have, help develop mutual respect for boundaries, and most of all, feel like they’re on the same team, with their partner and with the larger family. Reclaim your power, strengthen your relationship, and solve your in-law problems once and for all with You, Your Husband, and His Mother.


* This audiobook edition includes a downloadable PDF with information from the book.

Critic reviews

“Navigating in-law relationships is one of the most underacknowledged yet emotionally loaded parts of partnership. With clarity, compassion, and the expertise of years in the therapy room, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish gives women the tools to stop feeling like they’re walking on eggshells and start building relationships that protect their peace—and their marriage.”
—Dr. Shefali Tsabary, New York Times bestselling author of The Conscious Parent

“As a psychotherapist, I’ve worked with countless women carrying the silent weight of in-law stress and feeling like they’re the problem for struggling with it. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish brilliantly offers both a reframe and a roadmap. Her VAULT method is the missing language many couples need to finally get on the same team and protect what matters most: their relationship.”
—Terri Cole, psychotherapist, author of Boundary Boss and Too Much, host of The Terri Cole Show

“This is the book for you if you have ever felt like you have to choose between being a ‘good daughter-in-law’ and being true to yourself.”
—Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play

“Dr. Tracy gets it. Some of the toughest conversations aren’t only with your partner, but also with the people around them. Dr. Tracy shows you how to set boundaries without starting a war—and how to stay kind without getting steamrolled.”
—Jefferson Fisher, New York Times bestselling author of The Next Conversation

“With her signature blend of relatable insight and research-backed guidance, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish tackles one of the most timeless and persistent challenges in early motherhood and marriage. Offering practical strategies and grounded perspectives, she aims to reshape this dynamic for generations to come.”
— Neha Ruch, USA Today bestselling author of The Power Pause

“A magical combination of relatable, illuminating, and legitimately helpful. An inspiring guide to the incredibly complex emotional terrain that women so often navigate.”
—Eli Harwood, MA, LPC, therapist and author of Securely Attached and Raising Securely Attached Kids

“The book every daughter-in-law needs. You, Your Husband, and His Mother delivers clear, easy-to-apply tools for a variety of mother-in-law dynamics, empowering couples to set healthy boundaries and foster harmony with confidence.”
—Whitney Goodman, author of Toxic Positivity and host of Calling Home

This was a waste of money and unhelpful.

If you really want to have a healthy relationship with your husband and mother in law. Do not read this book. This book is full of words. The words are negative towards all three in the family system. This book is not helpful. The tone of the reader is annoying. I can hear her negative tone while she reads about her mother in law. Although some of the information is good, the good information is nestled between a lot of negative remarks. The tone of this book sounds like a uppity brat that does not have any humility only ego. This was a waste of money and unhelpful.