In this episode, I’m back with part two of my very candid conversation with my bestie, Kristine, who interviewed me for her podcast, Crystal Clear.

We go deep into romantic relationships, self-love, and the difference between living as your Authentic Self versus your Strategic Self. I open up about old dating patterns, emotional unavailability, deep shame, and the ways I once hid parts of myself to feel more lovable.

We unpack what it really takes to break painful patterns, find the courage to tell the truth, and how to stop abandoning yourself in relationships. In true best friend fashion, Kristine hits on the heavy and vulnerable topics with me, pulling out the real experience behind the scenes. While this healing work can bring you to your knees - it’s in the breakdown of personal posturing where the rewards are found.

Highlights:

(02:16) Friendships as a testing ground for intimacy and vulnerability in romantic relationships

(05:58) My personal escapism in dating born out of shame

(09:00) How an image consultation called me out and woke me up to the unserving identity I was projecting

(17:17) The catalyst that led to unwavering self-commitment, breaking deep patterns

(21:02) The inner battle between self-abandonment and inner devotion

(22:30) Why the person who exposes your wounds is your perfect match (for a reason or a season)

(24:35) How romantic partnerships are a mirror for your relationship with yourself

(27:55) The point at which a relationship will always implode

Listen to Kristine Munro’s podcast, Crystal Clear:

On Apple

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Learn more about Shine Image Consulting HERE

Resources:

Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO

1. Follow SJ on Instagram
2. Download the Free Identity Workbook
3. Grab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here.
4. Buy The Less Effect on Amazon
5. Follow Landon Hail Press on Instagram
6. Download the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring Authors
7. Book A Free Consultation with Landon Hail Press

This Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

In this episode, I take you behind the curtain with a very open and honest chat with my bestie, Kristine Munro about the friendship we have built over the years that has truly healed and changed me.

We talk about what it means to choose your authentic self over the strategic self: the one that stays quiet, plays small, and tries to keep everything “safe” - and how platonic intimacy is the gateway to understanding and healing relationship dynamics.

We touch on vulnerability, emotional safety, and triggers in friendships, and the importance of understanding your attachment style in the context of nurturing connections, both platonically and romantically. This conversation is a deep reminder that we are all mirrors to one another and that the relationship you have with yourself shapes every other relationship in your life.

It’s about healing in real time, being seen more fully, and letting love challenge you into growth.

Highlights:

(02:10) - Strategic Self vs Authentic Self and knowing the difference in relationships

(9:00) - Where Kristine triggers me and how it reflects in my romantic relationship

(16:30) - Love as a threat when it comes to attachment styles

(20:05) - Healing through giving love in the way we didn’t receive growing up

(22:15) - Why Kristine pulled away in our friendship and what it actually meant

(26:30) - Conscious friendships as a testing ground for romantic relationships & challenge as love

(30:35) - Building safety to expand your capacity for intimacy

(34:20) - How my friendship with Kristine has continued building my secure attachment in relationship

Listen to Kristine Munro’s podcast, Crystal Clear:

On Apple

On Spotify

Resources:

Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO

1. Follow SJ on Instagram
2. Download the Free Identity Workbook
3. Grab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here.
4. Buy The Less Effect on Amazon
5. Follow Landon Hail Press on Instagram
6. Download the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring Authors
7. Book A Free Consultation with Landon Hail Press

This Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

This is part two of how to survive a breakup, and we’re going deeper. If part one was about feeling the pain, this episode is about rebuilding yourself inside of it.

I’m sharing what’s helping me in real time, from redefining rejection and protecting my self-worth, to creating routines and rituals that anchor me when everything feels unstable.

We talk about self-care as self-respect, breaking patterns instead of repeating them, and why this season is not a setback but a setup for what’s waiting for you.

If you’re in the thick of it, I want you to know this is not the end of your love story. It’s the part where you come home to yourself and rise.

Highlights:

(03:10) Only you can reject you

(07:40) Self-care as self-respect, and why your habits matter more than ever

(10:05) Routine and ritual to create stability in emotional chaos

(13:20) Positive self talk versus shame spirals

(18:10) Date yourself first

(23:45) How forgiveness, compassion, and keeping your heart open are your superhighway to lasting love

Some Helpful Links For This Episode:

Cord cutting meditation

YouTube channel: Neville Goddard

YouTube channel: Abraham Hicks

Read “Wired for Love: How Undertstanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship” by Stan Tatkin

DETACHED Episode 57: The Profound (and Psychological) Impact of Ritual on Mental Health:

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Resources:

Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO

1. Follow SJ on Instagram
2. Download the Free Identity Workbook
3. Grab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here.
4. Buy The Less Effect on Amazon
5. Follow Landon Hail Press on Instagram
6. Download the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring Authors
7. Book A Free Consultation with Landon Hail Press

This Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

If you’re in heartbreak right now, adjusting to a new normal overnight, I want you to know you are not alone - in fact I’m right there with you.

In this episode, I share what’s helping me move through the pain in a grounded way, from feeling your emotions instead of stuffing them down, to cutting energetic cords, protecting your mental health, and choosing yourself even when it hurts.

This is about detachment - not as avoidance, but as self-respect. If you’re walking through a breakup, consider this your reminder that you were brave enough to love, and that still matters.

And I want to remind you: you will get through this and it won’t hurt like this forever.

Highlights:

(02:15) The courage it takes to love, and why shame doesn’t belong here

(05:40) Why relationships don’t always fail, but succeed because you broke the pattern

(09:10) Stop hyper focusing on them, and reclaim your power

(14:30) Feeling your emotions instead of numbing or replacing them

(19:05) Blocking, boundaries, and protecting your healing

(21:40) Gratitude, social media detox, and rebuilding your inner stability

Some Helpful Links For This Episode:

Cord cutting meditation

YouTube channel: Neville Goddard

YouTube channel: Abraham Hicks

Read “Wired for Love: How Undertstanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship” by Stan Tatkin

DETACHED Episode 57: The Profound (and Psychological) Impact of Ritual on Mental Health:

Listen on Apple

Listen on Spotify

Resources:

Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO

1. Follow SJ on Instagram
2. Download the Free Identity Workbook
3. Grab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here.
4. Buy The Less Effect on Amazon
5. Follow Landon Hail Press on Instagram
6. Download the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring Authors
7. Book A Free Consultation with Landon Hail Press

This Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

“Mindset”: the buzzword that, in my opinion, is wildly overused in personal development. For years, I was convinced this was where it all started. So many books, podcasts, and videos out there will convince you that if you just work harder on your thoughts, push through another challenge, or stay disciplined long enough, you’ll finally become the version of you that you’ve been striving for. But then without fail, you snap back to old patterns. Sound familiar?

In this episode, I’m sharing the missing link that changed everything for me; the precursor to Mindset. We dive deep into the foundational piece of Identity, how your environment quietly reinforces it, and why decluttering is one of the most powerful personal development tools out there. This is about unlearning who you thought you should be and getting back to who you actually are.

Highlights:

(02:14) Why mindset work alone keeps pulling you back to square one

(04:52) The “identity code” and how your story shapes your entire life

(08:03) The self-sabotage myth, and what’s really happening underneath

(11:27) Why most personal development programs miss the root cause

(14:36) Decluttering as identity work, not just cleaning your house

(17:58) Micro shifts that completely change how you see yourself

Resources:

Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO

1. Follow SJ on Instagram
2. Download the Free Identity Workbook
3. Grab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here.
4. Buy The Less Effect on Amazon
5. Follow Landon Hail Press on Instagram
6. Download the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring Authors
7. Book A Free Consultation with Landon Hail Press

This Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

This week I’m sharing something deeply personal that has radically shifted my mental health and spiritual connection, ritual.

Not routine. Not productivity hacks. Ritual. The kind that grounds you when anxiety spikes, helps you let go when attachment tightens, and recalibrates you when overwhelm takes over.

After a season of intense growth, emotional release, and deep spiritual awakening, I realized how powerful intentional rituals have been in regulating my nervous system and anchoring me back into myself. We touch on the actual science that proves its ability to improve mental health, self-confidence, and overall wellness.

In this episode, I break down the psychology behind ritual and walk you through three specific rituals I use to ground, release, and reset so you can design your own to enhance your mental state and bring ease and flow into your life.

Highlights:

(03:45) Why ritual is wired into the human brain

(06:51) How rituals lower anxiety and regulate your nervous system

(12:30) The difference between habits, routines, and rituals

(18:40) Why symbolic meaning makes rituals so powerful

(24:15) My grounding ritual for anxiety and self doubt

(29:50) Letting go and recalibrating rituals that shift everything

Resources:

Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO

1. Follow SJ on Instagram
2. Download the Free Identity Workbook
3. Grab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here.
4. Buy The Less Effect on Amazon
5. Follow Landon Hail Press on Instagram
6. Download the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring Authors
7. Book A Free Consultation with Landon Hail Press

This Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

Trigger Warning: Mentions of sexual assault and r*pe

This is one of the most vulnerable and necessary conversations I’ve ever shared.

In this episode, I speak openly about women’s safety, the patriarchal system we live in, and how deeply normalized harm towards women truly is. I reflect on my own lived experience of sexual assault and harassment, collective trauma through these horrific times, and the moment that forced me to see these systems more clearly than ever before.

This episode is not about attacking men. It’s about accountability, awareness, and the opportunity and responsibility men have to create real safety. I invite men listening to lean into discomfort, notice defensiveness, and practice listening without fragility.

And most importantly: Healing does not happen in silence, and safety begins when women are believed.

Highlights:

(01:37) Trigger warning, my Kundalini Awakening, and breaking out in hives

(04:30) The male ego and fragility in patriarchy

(6:20) “Boys will be boys”

(08:10) The hidden ways women assess safety every day

(12:40) Why silence and complicity cause harm

(16:05) What actually makes a man feel safe to a woman

(19:00) The responsibility men have beyond resisting assault

Resources:

Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO

1. Follow SJ on Instagram
2. Download the Free Identity Workbook
3. Grab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here.
4. Buy The Less Effect on Amazon
5. Follow Landon Hail Press on Instagram
6. Download the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring Authors
7. Book A Free Consultation with Landon Hail Press

This Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio

This episode is deep, personal, and very close to my heart. I’m sharing a live teaching on detachment, identity, and why learning to feel safe being seen changes everything.

We talk about the stories we tell ourselves to stay small, the shame many of us carry quietly, and how often we outsource safety instead of building it within ourselves.

I share my own journey through writing, storytelling, and self expression, including how owning my story became one of the most healing experiences of my life. This conversation is about choosing yourself, forgiving who you’ve been, and stepping into your truth without needing permission.

If you’ve felt the pull to be more visible but scared of the consequences, this episode is for you.

Highlights:

(04:55) Why staying small can feel safer than being seen

(12:30) How storytelling builds confidence and self trust

(23:10) Identity, shame, and the fear of judgment

(34:50) Creating safety within yourself instead of outsourcing it

(47:20) Detachment, magnetism, and personal power

(01:05:40) Choosing yourself without burning everything dow

Resources:

Join SJ’s Spring Writing Retreat: WRITE THE DAMN BOOK! 5/7-5/9 in Denver, CO

1. Follow SJ on Instagram
2. Download the Free Identity Workbook
3. Grab my SLAY YOUR STORY⚔🔥 Storytelling Masterclass here.
4. Buy The Less Effect on Amazon
5. Follow Landon Hail Press on Instagram
6. Download the Free Writing Guide for Aspiring Authors
7. Book A Free Consultation with Landon Hail Press

This Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio