Have you ever heard a voice so loud in your head that it stopped you in your tracks?
Or have you ignored subtle signals from your body… until they became impossible to ignore?
This episode is for you.
Today I'm sharing my personal story of going from 15 years in corporate to building my own business, and the pivotal moments when I realized I wasn't living in alignment. From the voice in the hallway that said "Is this all there is?" to the day I woke up grinding my teeth from stress, I walk through what it actually looks like to undo other people's expectations and get back to YOUR operating manual.
If you're a leader going through a transition, feeling the rub between who you are and what you're doing, or wondering why you feel burnt out even though you're "doing everything right" then this episode is for you.
Key Takeaways:
1. Your body will tell you when you're out of alignment
The first signals are quiet (a voice, a feeling, a sense something's off). Then they get louder. Then your body makes sure you hear them—stress, burnout, physical symptoms. When I felt like my teeth were falling out, my body was screaming: this isn't in alignment.
2. We all have our own operating manual—but we've absorbed everyone else's
We came here with our own blueprint for how we want to work and live. But over time we absorbed our parents' expectations, our teachers' beliefs, corporate culture, societal standards. Until one day you realize your manual is a patchwork of other people's ideas about who you should be.
3. Living in alignment is about undoing the conditioning
It's not about blowing up your life or leaving your job. It's about checking in: where am I in alignment? Where am I not? What's actually mine vs. what I absorbed from others? This process can feel disorienting and scary—but it's about honoring who you are.
4. This shows up differently for everyone
Business owners building based on what they think will work instead of what feels aligned. Leaders taking on their team's emotions instead of checking "is this mine?" Offering done-for-you when you're meant to hold space. Getting lost in what you think you should do instead of what really feels aligned for you.
5. The "midlife crisis" is just waking up to misalignment
I personally believe that what we call a midlife crisis is really just people recognizing they're not in alignment and searching for more meaning or purpose. It's that disconnect within them. And then they say, well, now it's time.

Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is? Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart


Ready to understand your unique operating manual?
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What if some people aren't meant to make quick decisions?
Not because they're indecisive. But because they're designed to move through a full 28-day cycle before deciding.
This is lunar authority in Human Design. The rarest decision-making style. Only found in reflectors.
If you're a reflector, your entire chart is white. All nine centers are undefined. You're completely open.
And because of this, you need time. A full lunar cycle. 28 days.
During those 28 days, you move through every gate in the Human Design chart. You experience different energies. You have conversations. You observe. You reflect.
And by the end of the cycle, clarity comes.
This is the FINALE of our Decision Making Series!
Key Takeaways:
Lunar authority is only for reflectors (completely open charts)
You need a full 28-day cycle for big life decisions
The moon moves through all 64 gates, you sample each energy
This is for BIG decisions (moving, career, business) not daily choices
Environment matters, you're highly sensitive, must clear energy regularly
Talk to trusted advisors who support without imposing
It's not just waiting, it's actively observing, reflecting, building awareness


Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is? Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator

Want the full mind-body connection journey?
My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/book

Let's connect:
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Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Thanks for being here. I'm grateful for you. ❤️

Have you ever tried to make an important decision and your mind just felt foggy?

You analyzed. You made lists. But clarity wouldn't come.

And then you went somewhere else… took a walk, found a quiet room, and suddenly it dropped in.

If this sounds familiar, you might have environmental decision-making style (also called mental or environmental authority in Human Design).

This is a rare style. And it's all about one thing: your environment matters.

You can't make clear decisions just anywhere. You need the right space. The right energy. And you need to be clear from other people's energy first.

Key Takeaways:

Environmental authority is rare; only found in projectors with specific charts
Your environment directly affects your decision-making clarity
You need to clear your energy from others before deciding
Speak it out loud, then let clarity drop in (don't force it)
Find spaces that feel aligned to you… that's where you decide


Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is? Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator

Want the full mind-body connection journey?
My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/book

Let's connect:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres
Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Thanks for being here. I'm grateful for you. ❤️

Have you ever finally said something out loud... and suddenly everything clicked?

You weren't looking for advice. You just needed to hear yourself say it.

If this sounds familiar, you might have self-projected decision-making style (also called self-projected authority or G-center authority in Human Design).

This episode is all about making sound decisions by talking them out loud.

Because here's the thing: If you have this style, thinking your way through a decision won't work. You need to hear yourself speak.

It's not about what you say… it's about how it sounds and feels when you say it.

Key Takeaways:

1. Self-projected decision-making is about speaking and hearing, not thinking
2. Three methods you can use: soundboarding with someone, recording yourself, or talking to yourself
3. You need to build a relationship with your voice to recognize clarity
4. You don't have to decide instantly… take time until you feel clear
5. Where does it show up in your body when you speak? Pay attention to that.


Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is? Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator

Want the full mind-body connection journey?
My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/book

Let's connect:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres
Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Thanks for being here. I'm grateful for you. ❤️

Do you ever make decisions because you think you should... not because you actually want to?

This episode is for you.

Today we're diving into heart decision-making (also called ego authority in Human Design), the style that's all about one question: Is my heart in this?

Not "Is this the smart choice?" Not "What will people think?" But... do I actually want this?

If you've ever:
• Said yes to something because it seemed responsible, not because you wanted it
• Felt guilty for wanting things for yourself
• Struggled to separate what you want from what you think you should want

This episode will help you understand how to tune into your heart's desires and make decisions that actually feel aligned.

Key Takeaways:

1. Heart authority operates on "hell yes or no": if your heart's in it, it's a yes

2. Watch for the word "should": it's a red flag that you're overriding what you want

3. Guilt often shows up: give yourself permission to put yourself first

4. Following your heart isn't selfish: it's aligned, and that benefits everyone

5. Tune into your body: where does a "yes" feel like? What about a "no"?


Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is? Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator

Want the full mind-body connection journey?
My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/book

Let's connect:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres
Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Thanks for being here. I'm grateful for you. ❤️

Do you ever get a split-second knowing about something and then talk yourself out of it?

Or have you ever ignored that quiet inner voice and later thought, "I should have listened"?

This episode is for you.

Today we're diving into splenic decision-making (also called splenic authority in Human Design)—the style that's all about real-time intuition and split-second instinct.

If you've ever dismissed a gut feeling in the moment, or you're someone who needs to trust your body's immediate wisdom, you'll want to hear this.

I share how splenic authority works, why the spleen "whispers" only once, and a powerful story from my dad about honoring that split-second knowing—even when it doesn't make logical sense.


Key Takeaways:

1. It operates in real-time—split-second instinct for safety
Splenic authority is about in-the-moment intuition. Your spleen is constantly scanning: what's safe for me right now? What's healthy for me? It's your body's real-time protection system.

2. The spleen whispers—don't dismiss it
You might hear a voice, get a flash of knowing, or feel a subtle nudge. It's quiet. It won't shout. And if you ignore it, it can go silent. But you can bring it back through presence.

3. You won't always know why in the moment
The reason usually reveals itself later. Trust the information even when your mind can't explain it. That's how the spleen works.

4. Everyone's signals are different
Some hear it as a voice outside themselves. Some hear it as their own voice. Some get a flash or image. Discover how YOUR spleen communicates with you.

5. Practice presence to strengthen the connection
The more you slow down, tune in, and honor those subtle nudges in daily life, the stronger your connection becomes. Build the muscle with small decisions so you trust it for big ones.


Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is? Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator

Want the full mind-body connection journey?
My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/book

Let's connect:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres
Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Thanks for being here. I'm grateful for you. ❤️

Do you ever say "yes" when your body is screaming "no"? Or feel like you're overthinking every decision because you don't trust your gut? This episode is for you.

Today we're diving into sacral decision making (also called sacral authority in Human Design), the style that's all about trusting your body's immediate gut response. If you've been told to "think it through" when your body already knows the answer, or if you've ignored your gut and regretted it later, you'll want to hear this.

I share how sacral authority works, why it's not about what you SAY but how your body responds before you speak, and how to discover your unique body signals. Plus, I tell the story of how I was unknowingly asking my daughter to respond twice—and what changed when I learned about her decision-making style.

Key Takeaways:

1. It's not about what you say—it's how your body responds first
Sacral decision making is about your body's response BEFORE you speak it out loud. If you're explaining or reasoning, you've already moved into your mind. Your body knows immediately.

2. Ask specific, time-bound yes/no questions
Not "Do you want to travel?" but "Do you want to travel this summer for two weeks?" The more specific the question, the clearer your body's response. Vague questions create vague answers.

3. Your body speaks its own language
Some people lean forward (yes) or backward (no). Others make sounds like "uh-huh" or "mm-mm." Some nod or shake their heads before they realize they're doing it. Everyone's signals are different—discover yours.

4. Follow what lights you up
This decision-making style is about joy and energy. What makes you feel expansive and alive? That's your yes. What makes you contract or feel heavy? That's your no. Trust it.

5. You can practice this all the time

While sacral authority is powerful for big decisions, you can practice it daily. The more you tune into your body's responses, the stronger your connection becomes. It's a game changer.

Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is? Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator

Want the full mind-body connection journey?
My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.
https://www.maryclavieres.com/book

Let's connect:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres
Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Thanks for being here. I'm grateful for you. ❤️

If you've ever been told you take too long to make decisions, this episode will change everything. Today we're diving into emotional decision making (also called emotional authority in Human Design)—the style that roughly 50% of the population has.

If you need time to process big decisions, if you've learned the hard way what happens when you decide from an emotional high or low, or if you've been pressured to "just decide already" when you know you're not ready—this episode is for you.

I share the core principle of emotional decision making: riding the highs and lows of your emotions until you reach neutrality. I break down what neutrality actually feels like, why 80% clarity is enough, and how to navigate pressure from others who want faster answers.

Key Takeaways:

1. Ride the waves, wait for neutral

You must ride the highs and lows of your emotions before making a decision. Don't decide when you're feeling on top of the world OR in the depths. Wait until you feel neutral—a felt sense of detachment in your body.

2. Neutrality is a felt sense, not a thought

Neutrality means you don't feel polarized in either direction. It's like having an observer lens—you can step back and say, "Okay, I can decide on that now." This happens in your BODY, not your mind.

3. Clarity comes over time, not in the moment

If you have emotional authority, you are not meant to make decisions in the moment. Anyone pushing you to decide right now is asking you to decide against your design. Permission to take the time you need.

4. 80% certainty is your green light

You won't ever feel 100% sure, even when you reach neutrality. If you feel 80% or more that this is a yes, then it's a yes. Waiting for 100% certainty will keep you stuck forever.

5. Not all decisions need this process

Use emotional authority for "tattoo-level" decisions—big life choices like career changes, major moves, business decisions, significant relationships. For everyday "outfit" decisions, you can move faster.

Resources and Next Steps:

Not sure what your decision-making style is?

Get your free Human Design chart in 2 minutes. https://www.maryclavieres.com/getyourchart

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself?

Book a Decision Making Accelerator session and we'll dive into YOUR specific style, with practical next steps you can use immediately.

https://www.maryclavieres.com/decision-making-accelerator

Want the full mind-body connection journey?

My book, Mind Body Connection Unlocked, takes you deeper into how alignment changes everything.

https://www.maryclavieres.com/book

Let's connect:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-clavieres-19917a7/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/mary.clavieres
Voxer: @ maryclavieres

Thanks for being here. I'm grateful for you. ❤️