Health anxiety is one of those things that can quietly take over your mind—and before you know it, you’re stuck in a loop of symptoms, spiraling thoughts, and constant checking. We’re unpacking what this actually looks like in real life, from those sudden “something’s wrong with me” moments to the deeper patterns that keep the cycle going.

We also get into the why behind it all—the underlying fears, life stressors, and emotional experiences that can trigger health anxiety in the first place. Along the way, we talk about what actually helps, how to break out of the loop, and how to find your way back to feeling grounded in your body and your life.

Episode Highlights

[0:00] - Welcome back + introducing health anxiety

[1:00] - Laura shares her personal experience with health anxiety

[2:30] - What health anxiety is (and what it’s not)

[3:45] - Health anxiety vs. hypochondriasis

[6:30] - How physical symptoms turn into obsessive focus

[9:30] - The reassurance trap: doctors, Google, and ChatGPT

[11:15] - The feedback loop between anxiety and body sensations

[15:45] - The deeper roots: core fears, grief, and life stressors

[18:00] - Why reassurance-seeking keeps the cycle going

[20:45] - Intuition vs. anxiety—how to tell the difference

[24:30] - Avoidance, fixation, and how anxiety pulls us out of life

[25:30] - The role of boredom and ADHD in anxiety patterns

[28:00] - Why health anxiety connects to existential fear

[29:15] - What actually helps: breaking cycles and shifting focus

[31:00] - Engagement and healthy distraction as a way out

[32:00] - Normalizing health anxiety and learning to navigate it

If you saw yourself in any part of this conversation, you’re not alone—this is such a human experience, even when it feels overwhelming. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and be gentle with yourself as you navigate it.

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In this episode, we sit down with writer, producer, and longtime friend Maylen Dominguez to talk about what it really looks like to pursue creativity in midlife. From leaving a stable career to producing her independent film Ethan Bloom, Maylen shares what it means to listen to that inner creative voice—even when the path forward feels uncertain.

Together, we explore the messy middle of reinvention, the courage it takes to follow a creative calling, and how small daily commitments can lead to extraordinary outcomes. If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s too late to pursue something meaningful or creative, this conversation is the reminder you didn’t know you needed. Press play and join us as we talk about fear, commitment, creativity, and trusting the process.

Episode Highlights

[00:39] – We introduce our guest, Maylen Dominguez, and her impressive journey as a writer, producer, and educator.

[03:32] – Maylen opens up about being in the “messy middle” of a career transition and choosing to fully commit to her creative work.

[07:38] – The simple habit that changed everything: writing three screenplay pages a day and how small commitments create big results.

[10:31] – Why “done is better than perfect” and how letting the work be messy helped move the creative process forward.

[18:40] – Maylen shares how she’s embracing uncertainty, writing a novel, and learning to trust the natural seasons of life and creativity.

[28:55] – The behind-the-scenes journey of turning a screenplay into an independent film—and how the right creative partnership made it possible.

[32:32] – The power of commitment: pushing through obstacles, raising funds, and refusing to give up on bringing the film to life.

[37:14] – Why it’s never too late to create, pivot, or pursue something meaningful—and the importance of supporting independent film.

Links & Resources

• Maylen Dominguez: https://instagram.com/maylendo
• Follow Ethan Bloom: https://instagram.com/ethanbloom

Ethan Bloom will be at the Enzian Theater on March 25th (now sold out!). Maylen Dominguez and the film’s director, Herschel Faber, will return for another screening on April 6th, and the film will begin playing at Regal Winter Park Village on April 17th.

• Enzian Theater tickets: https://enzian.org/film/ethan-bloom
• Future Screenings: https://w

Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you!

👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/

Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode, we sit down with trauma psychotherapist Dr. Janie Lacy to talk about a topic many women quietly struggle with—toxic relationships and love addiction. As therapists and women who’ve navigated our own relationship journeys, this conversation hits close to home as we unpack what truly defines a toxic relationship and why these dynamics can be so hard to recognize or leave.

We also explore the roots of love addiction, trauma bonds, and attachment wounds—and why even strong, successful women can get stuck in painful relationship cycles. Dr. Lacy shares insights into the healing process and how women can rebuild self-worth, break unhealthy patterns, and move toward healthier relationships.

Episode Highlights

[0:00] – We welcome Dr. Janie Lacy and introduce today’s conversation on toxic relationships, love addiction, and healing.

[2:28] – Dr. Lacy explains what defines a toxic relationship—and why unhealthy behaviors often become normalized.

[8:30] – We explore where the line is between normal relationship struggles and toxic patterns.

[11:50] – A discussion on power imbalance and how attachment styles shape relationship dynamics.

[15:04] – We discuss financial dependence, traditional roles, and whether economic imbalance creates unhealthy relationships.

[21:21] – What love addiction is, why it’s not in the DSM, and how obsessive thinking and fear of abandonment appear in relationships.

[26:59] – Why we mistake intensity for intimacy—and how it keeps people stuck in painful cycles.

[31:22] – The impact of gaslighting and how it makes people question their reality.

[36:40] – Trauma bonds and why toxic relationships can feel chemically addictive.

[37:22] – Dr. Lacy explains the difference between self-worth and self-esteem.

[39:20] – Inside the Women Redeemed program and how group work and deep healing support recovery.

Links & Resources

Dr. Janie Lacy Website

Dr. Janie Lacy Instagram

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Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you!

👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/

Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book