Parenting teens today isn’t just challenging—it’s a completely different landscape than what we grew up in. In this episode, Colette explores what it really looks like to raise teenagers in a world shaped by social media, constant comparison, and higher stakes than ever before alongside parenting expert Keesha Scott. From body image struggles to the pressure of being “always on,” this conversation reveals why today’s teens are navigating an intensity many of us never experienced.

Colette and Keesha also dig into what it takes to parent effectively in this climate—letting go of one-size-fits-all approaches, meeting your child where they are, and knowing when to bring in outside support. It’s an honest, eye-opening conversation filled with practical insight and a powerful reminder that even the most challenging teens can grow into strong, resilient adults.

Episode Highlights

[00:03] - Introducing the episode and why parenting teens can feel harder than ever

[01:23] - Keesha’s story and how her teenage years shaped her path

[06:41] - The modern teen experience: social media, body image, nonstop pressure

[10:02] - Why teens today never fully “escape” stress like past generations

[12:15] - Substance use today vs. the past—and why parents must stay alert

[13:09] - Warning signs a teen may be struggling beyond typical behavior

[14:13] - Why outsourcing support can be a game-changer for families

[17:15] - Fear-based parenting and how it creates distance, not connection

[21:47] - The myth of the “perfect” parenting style—and why flexibility matters

[24:41] - Giving teens freedom with boundaries—and letting them earn trust

[27:35] - Strong-willed vs. compliant kids: completely different approaches

[28:18] - Growing challenges for teen boys: isolation and digital addiction

[30:25] - Collaboration over control: how to better connect with your teen

[31:36] - Speaking your teen’s language to build trust and understanding

[32:41] - Reframing “difficult” teens as confident, resilient adults

Links & Resources

· Website: https://www.keeshascott.com

· Instagram:

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Health anxiety is one of those things that can quietly take over your mind—and before you know it, you’re stuck in a loop of symptoms, spiraling thoughts, and constant checking. We’re unpacking what this actually looks like in real life, from those sudden “something’s wrong with me” moments to the deeper patterns that keep the cycle going.

We also get into the why behind it all—the underlying fears, life stressors, and emotional experiences that can trigger health anxiety in the first place. Along the way, we talk about what actually helps, how to break out of the loop, and how to find your way back to feeling grounded in your body and your life.

Episode Highlights

[0:00] - Welcome back + introducing health anxiety

[1:00] - Laura shares her personal experience with health anxiety

[2:30] - What health anxiety is (and what it’s not)

[3:45] - Health anxiety vs. hypochondriasis

[6:30] - How physical symptoms turn into obsessive focus

[9:30] - The reassurance trap: doctors, Google, and ChatGPT

[11:15] - The feedback loop between anxiety and body sensations

[15:45] - The deeper roots: core fears, grief, and life stressors

[18:00] - Why reassurance-seeking keeps the cycle going

[20:45] - Intuition vs. anxiety—how to tell the difference

[24:30] - Avoidance, fixation, and how anxiety pulls us out of life

[25:30] - The role of boredom and ADHD in anxiety patterns

[28:00] - Why health anxiety connects to existential fear

[29:15] - What actually helps: breaking cycles and shifting focus

[31:00] - Engagement and healthy distraction as a way out

[32:00] - Normalizing health anxiety and learning to navigate it

If you saw yourself in any part of this conversation, you’re not alone—this is such a human experience, even when it feels overwhelming. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and be gentle with yourself as you navigate it.

And if this episode supported you in any way, don’t forget to rate, follow, share, and leave a review—it means so much to us and helps others find their way to these conversations.

Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

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In this episode, we sit down with writer, producer, and longtime friend Maylen Dominguez to talk about what it really looks like to pursue creativity in midlife. From leaving a stable career to producing her independent film Ethan Bloom, Maylen shares what it means to listen to that inner creative voice—even when the path forward feels uncertain.

Together, we explore the messy middle of reinvention, the courage it takes to follow a creative calling, and how small daily commitments can lead to extraordinary outcomes. If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s too late to pursue something meaningful or creative, this conversation is the reminder you didn’t know you needed. Press play and join us as we talk about fear, commitment, creativity, and trusting the process.

Episode Highlights

[00:39] – We introduce our guest, Maylen Dominguez, and her impressive journey as a writer, producer, and educator.

[03:32] – Maylen opens up about being in the “messy middle” of a career transition and choosing to fully commit to her creative work.

[07:38] – The simple habit that changed everything: writing three screenplay pages a day and how small commitments create big results.

[10:31] – Why “done is better than perfect” and how letting the work be messy helped move the creative process forward.

[18:40] – Maylen shares how she’s embracing uncertainty, writing a novel, and learning to trust the natural seasons of life and creativity.

[28:55] – The behind-the-scenes journey of turning a screenplay into an independent film—and how the right creative partnership made it possible.

[32:32] – The power of commitment: pushing through obstacles, raising funds, and refusing to give up on bringing the film to life.

[37:14] – Why it’s never too late to create, pivot, or pursue something meaningful—and the importance of supporting independent film.

Links & Resources

• Maylen Dominguez: https://instagram.com/maylendo
• Follow Ethan Bloom: https://instagram.com/ethanbloom

Ethan Bloom will be at the Enzian Theater on March 25th (now sold out!). Maylen Dominguez and the film’s director, Herschel Faber, will return for another screening on April 6th, and the film will begin playing at Regal Winter Park Village on April 17th.

• Enzian Theater tickets: https://enzian.org/film/ethan-bloom
• Future Screenings: https://w

Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you!

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Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode, we sit down with trauma psychotherapist Dr. Janie Lacy to talk about a topic many women quietly struggle with—toxic relationships and love addiction. As therapists and women who’ve navigated our own relationship journeys, this conversation hits close to home as we unpack what truly defines a toxic relationship and why these dynamics can be so hard to recognize or leave.

We also explore the roots of love addiction, trauma bonds, and attachment wounds—and why even strong, successful women can get stuck in painful relationship cycles. Dr. Lacy shares insights into the healing process and how women can rebuild self-worth, break unhealthy patterns, and move toward healthier relationships.

Episode Highlights

[0:00] – We welcome Dr. Janie Lacy and introduce today’s conversation on toxic relationships, love addiction, and healing.

[2:28] – Dr. Lacy explains what defines a toxic relationship—and why unhealthy behaviors often become normalized.

[8:30] – We explore where the line is between normal relationship struggles and toxic patterns.

[11:50] – A discussion on power imbalance and how attachment styles shape relationship dynamics.

[15:04] – We discuss financial dependence, traditional roles, and whether economic imbalance creates unhealthy relationships.

[21:21] – What love addiction is, why it’s not in the DSM, and how obsessive thinking and fear of abandonment appear in relationships.

[26:59] – Why we mistake intensity for intimacy—and how it keeps people stuck in painful cycles.

[31:22] – The impact of gaslighting and how it makes people question their reality.

[36:40] – Trauma bonds and why toxic relationships can feel chemically addictive.

[37:22] – Dr. Lacy explains the difference between self-worth and self-esteem.

[39:20] – Inside the Women Redeemed program and how group work and deep healing support recovery.

Links & Resources

Dr. Janie Lacy Website

Dr. Janie Lacy Instagram

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Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you!

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Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode, we dive into a conversation that feels deeply personal—especially if you’re in a season of striving, questioning, or quietly wondering, Is this it? Inspired by Colette’s recent reading of A Million Miles in a Thousand Years, we reflect on success, purpose, and why even the seasons that look “good” from the outside can feel surprisingly disorienting and exhausting.

We lean into the uncomfortable middle—the stretch where you’ve worked hard for something but still feel unsure of what’s next. We talk about the younger parts of ourselves that flare up when plans don’t unfold as expected, the urge to pull back when it all feels like too much, and the realization that joy may not come from avoiding struggle—but from staying in it long enough to be changed.

Episode Highlights:

[0:03] – We’re back on the mic and jumping straight into existential midlife questions.

[1:01] – Colette shares how reading A Million Miles in a Thousand Years sparked a deeper reflection on what makes a life “well lived.”

[5:13] – The power of story: Are we meant to attain something—or be transformed by the search?

[8:59] – Familiarity as the greatest seducer: Why we stay stuck even in “comfortable” unhappiness.

[10:56] – Laura opens up about meeting a young, entitled part of herself when life doesn’t go according to plan.

[15:02] – Coaching yourself through emotional overwhelm: movement, naming feelings, and creating space.

[18:30] – The fear of making the wrong choice—and why meaning matters more than accolades.

[24:40] – Forcing yourself into growth: committing before you feel ready (TEDx talks, book deals, Machu Picchu).

[27:13] – The marathon as metaphor: Laura’s renewed commitment to the New York City Marathon and doing hard things differently.

[31:35] – Why suffering may actually be the pathway to joy.

[33:49] – When you want to quit everything: the difference between discernment and hiding.

[35:30] – Our closing thesis: Happiness isn’t eliminating obstacles—it’s being willing to stay in the game.

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🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you!

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Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

This week on Insights from the Couch, we sit down with the fierce and unapologetic Valerie Jones to talk about her powerful book, The Selfish Year. And yes—we mean selfish in the most revolutionary way possible. Together, we unpack what it really means to stop abandoning yourself, to take radical responsibility for your life, and to choose your freedom—even when it disappoints other people.

We dive into divorce, people-pleasing, inner child work, emotional abuse, and what Valerie calls “First Girl” and “Hurt Girl.” This conversation is about midlife awakening, reclaiming your voice, and learning how to sit in the fire of discomfort without losing yourself. If you’ve ever felt stuck, resentful, lost, or like you’re living someone else’s version of your life… this episode will hit home. Press play. This is the work.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] – Welcome back! We introduce Valerie and why The Selfish Year moved us so deeply.

[02:45] – Redefining “selfish”: why selflessness has been conditioning women to self-abandon—and what it means to be “full of self.”

[05:22] – Laura shares her own rescuer pattern and what it took to hit the wall.

[08:42] – Valerie opens up about childhood sexual abuse, people-pleasing, and her first marriage marked by bipolar disorder and addiction.

[13:12] – Divorce as transformation—not failure—and why we should be applauding women who walk through it.

[16:11] – “First Girl” and “Hurt Girl”: how we exile our authentic self to survive—and how to bring her back.

[21:05] – Sitting still with yourself: why there is no shortcut to healing and why everything is data.

[25:56] – The “villain era”: disappointing others, standing in the fire of disapproval, and building resilience.

[33:35] – Playing the game of your life instead of sitting on the sidelines.

[38:42] – Radical responsibility: moving from victimhood to sovereignty and reclaiming your power of choice.

[44:00] – The woman dancing in the surf: the moment that symbolizes the freedom we’re all craving.

[48:17] – How to connect with Valerie and get your copy of The Selfish Year.

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Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you!

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Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode, we sit down with the brilliant Fran Houser for a conversation that feels especially relevant if you’re trying to be successful at work without losing yourself along the way. We talk about ambition, empathy, boundaries, and the exhausting double bind women still face in the workplace—where you’re expected to be both warm and bulletproof. Fran brings such grounded wisdom from her decades in corporate leadership, startup investing, and now her portfolio career, and we found ourselves nodding along the entire time.

Together, we explore what it really means to lead with kindness and strength, why empathy is not a weakness but a strategic advantage, and how women can rethink networking, ambition, and career pivots in a way that actually fits real life—especially at midlife. This conversation is honest, practical, and deeply validating. You’ll walk away feeling both seen and energized to rethink how you show up at work and beyond.

Episode Highlights:

[0:00] – Welcome to Insights from the Couch and why this conversation matters at midlife
[2:10] – Fran’s upbringing, immigrant parents, and early lessons about work and responsibility
[6:45] – The origin of The Myth of the Nice Girl and redefining leadership for women
[10:40] – How empathy creates trust, influence, and better outcomes at work
[15:30] – The fine line between kindness, people-pleasing, and setting boundaries
[19:50] – A real workplace story that shows how “being nice” can backfire—and how to repair it
[26:30] – Ambition, likability, and the double bind women still face
[31:00] – Why women still hesitate to speak up and how perfectionism gets in the way
[34:00] – Networking at midlife: why it matters and how to do it in a way that fits you
[39:00] – Portfolio careers, career pivots, and designing work that supports your life
[47:30] – Fran’s upcoming book on time, perfectionism, and doing less better

Links and Resources:

Fran’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/franhauser/

Fran’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fran_hauser/

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🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you!

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Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

In this episode, we sit down to talk about Colette's new book, The Cost of Quiet, and the patterns we see over and over again in couples therapy. We’ve watched brilliant, capable women slowly lose their voices in relationships, convincing themselves that staying quiet will keep the peace, all while resentment quietly builds. We unpack what really happens when conflict gets avoided, needs go unnamed, and emotional intimacy starts to erode. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “It’s not worth bringing up,” this conversation will challenge you to reconsider what that silence is actually costing you.

Episode Highlights

[00:48] Why writing The Cost of Quiet became a three-year mission
[02:41] The common pattern we see in high-achieving women who stop speaking up
[04:44] How conflict avoidance turns into self-abandonment
[05:18] Introducing self-connected communication and what it actually means
[08:22] The hidden cost of indirect communication in marriage
[11:53] A real-life example of addressing a small hurt before it hardens
[14:25] The 10 avoidant behaviors that quietly undermine connection
[16:17] What “quiet quitting” a relationship really looks like
[18:42] Emotional layaway and why avoidance never truly works
[22:54] How attachment patterns shape the way we handle conflict
[27:44] What to do when your partner responds with defensiveness or distance
[28:19] The “3 D’s and an F” communication report card explained
[35:18] When self-compassion becomes essential in hard conversations
[37:49] How assertiveness can create a virtuous cycle in relationships
[38:56] The difference between a surface marriage and emotional intimacy
[41:00] Resources, tools, and what’s next as the book launches

Links & Resources

The Cost of Quiet, available now: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

Ever stayed quiet to keep the peace and felt yourself disappear? The Cost of Quiet is for anyone who avoids conflict and pays the price. Reclaim your voice, strengthen your relationships, and experience real peace. Order your copy and join the movement: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

🎙️ Love the podcast? Come talk about episodes with us inside The Midlife Chat. It’s a free, private community just for women at midlife who want to keep these conversations going. We’ve created this space for real talk, fresh resources, and honest connection—where you can share ideas and resources, ask questions, and get support from women navigating the same season. Come join us—we’d love to have you!

👉 Join The Midlife Chat here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/795863256460970/

Order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette’s new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launched February 3rd. Order your copy today: https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book