When a child says, “This is who I am,” what does a supportive parent do next?

In this episode of Parents of the Year, Andrew and Caroline take on a topic many families are trying to understand with more care and less fear: gender identity, sexual orientation, pronouns, transition, and the language kids and teens may be using right now.

This conversation starts the way real parenting conversations often do — with jokes, peanut butter confessions, hummingbirds, and everyday life — then moves into something many parents are quietly wrestling with: how to respond when a child, teen, friend, teacher, or family member shares something personal about who they are.

Caroline walks through key terms like cisgender, transgender, gender identity, gender expression, agender, bisexual, pansexual, Two-Spirit, transition, and more, using a resource called the Gender Unicorn and materials from Trans Student Educational Resources. Andrew brings the parent lens many listeners will relate to: wanting to be respectful, wanting to understand, and wanting to get it right without pretending to know everything.

This episode is a reminder that kids do not need a perfect speech from us. They need openness. They need respect. They need adults who can pause, stay curious, and listen without shutting them down.

If you’ve been trying to support a child or teen through questions around identity, or you want better language for conversations at home, this episode will help you start.

In this episode:

• the difference between gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation
• why validation matters so much for kids and teens
• how parents can respond with curiosity instead of panic
• why respect matters even when a parent is still learning
• resources that can help families keep the conversation going

Homework activities for adults

1. Practise the pause

When your child says something surprising, don’t rush to correct, debate, or explain. Take a breath and answer with calm interest.

Try saying:

• “Thanks for telling me.”
• “I want to understand.”
• “Tell me more about that.”
• “What would feel supportive from me right now?”

Resource needed:
A short list of go-to response lines saved in your phone or written on a note in the kitchen.

2. Learn the basic language

Pick 10 terms from this episode and learn what they mean. Not to sound polished. Just to be less reactive and more informed.

Start with:
gender identity, gender expression, sex assigned at birth, cisgender, transgender, transition, agender, bisexual, pansexual, Two-Spirit

Resource needed:

• Gender Unicorn
• Trans Student Educational Resources (TSER) glossary or terminology page

3. Ask your child what respect looks like to them

Not every child wants the same kind of support. Some want privacy. Some want language to help them talk. Some want you to use a different name or pronouns. Some just want you not to panic.

Try asking:

• “What would help you feel supported by me?”
• “Is there anything you want me to say differently?”
• “Who knows, and who would

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How do parents build a village when they’re raising kids far from family?
In this episode of Parents of the Year, Andrew and Caroline dig into one of the hardest parts of modern parenting: feeling alone while trying to raise connected, confident kids.

From neighbours and school families to sports teams, gyms, dog parks, and simple daily routines, they talk about how community is built in real life — not through grand gestures, but through small repeated moments. A wave across the street. A favour for a neighbour. A shared ride to practice. A standing dinner with friends. The kind of connection that grows slowly, then suddenly feels solid.

They also get honest about how much family life has changed in Canada: smaller households, more distance from grandparents, more seniors living alone, and more parents trying to do it all without the built-in support previous generations often had.

This episode is for parents who have moved away from home, feel isolated, or want to create stronger ties for their children and teens. It’s a grounded conversation about rebuilding community, modelling connection, and giving kids something every family needs: people they can count on.

Listen in for practical ideas on:

• how to build a village when you’re starting from scratch
• why neighbours still matter
• how sports, school, and local routines can create real connection
• why online connection doesn’t fully replace in-person community
• how parents can model belonging for children and teens

Perfect for: parents of kids, tweens, and teens; families new to a city; parents dealing with loneliness; anyone trying to raise children with stronger community ties.

Homework activities for adults to support children and teens, plus resources needed

1. Learn the names of five neighbours

What to do:
Over the next two weeks, make a point of learning the names of at least five people who live nearby. Say hello when you see them. Keep it simple and warm.

Why it helps kids and teens:
Children notice who their adults trust, greet, and feel comfortable around. That helps them feel safer and more rooted where they live.

Resources needed:

• phone notes app or small notebook
• ten minutes during walks, school drop-off, or after work

2. Start one repeat family routine in the community

What to do:
Pick one regular outing at the same time each week: dog park, local café, library, rec centre, walking route, skating rink, gym, farmers’ market.

Why it helps kids and teens:
Familiar faces turn into friendly faces. Repetition builds comfort, and comfort makes connection easier.

Resources needed:

• calendar
• one local spot
• a realistic time you can keep most weeks

3. Offer one small favour to another family

What to do:
Send a message or say in person: “If you ever need mail picked up, a quick school pickup, or someone to check on the house, let us know.”

Why it helps kids and teens:
Kids grow up seeing support as something people give and receive, not somethi

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A jar of peanut butter almost ends a marriage… and somehow becomes the perfect opener for a conversation about what’s happening to adolescence right now.

In this episode of Parents of the Year, Andrew and Caroline unpack what ADHD expert Dr. Russell Barkley calls “early arrival, late departure”: kids hitting adult ideas sooner (thanks, screens) while independence shows up later (thanks, anxiety, money, and over-helping). They talk milestones that are fading (driving, first jobs, even babysitting), why “checklist parenting” can quietly shrink confidence, and what it looks like to raise teens who can handle inconvenience, criticism, and disappointment without melting down.

You’ll leave with practical ways to step back without checking out: handing over real-life tasks (appointments, banking, transit), modelling purposeful phone use, and trying Stephen Covey’s “Green and Clean” method to build responsibility at home—without turning your house into a nag-fest.

Keywords: parenting teens, adolescence, Gen Z, Gen Alpha, screen time, executive function, independence, ADHD, Russell Barkley, life skills, overparenting, helicopter parenting, snowplow parenting, “curling” parenting, rites of passage, resilience.

Homework activities for adults (to support kids/teens) + resources

Homework 1: The “Say it out loud” phone habit (7 days)

Every time you pick up your phone near your kids, narrate your purpose in one sentence:
“I’m checking the weather.” “I’m texting Grandma back.” “I’m doing Duolingo.”
Kids copy what they think we’re doing—this makes your use visible and intentional.

Resource: create a note on your phone titled “Why I’m on my phone” with 6–8 common reasons so it’s easy to stick with.

Homework 2: Hand over one real-world task this week

Pick one:

• book a dentist/doctor appointment
• call the bank about a card issue
• plan a transit route to the mall/friend’s house
• order their own replacement item online (with a budget)

Your job: be nearby, don’t do the talking, don’t grab the phone “to speed it up.”

Resource: a simple script card in Notes:

• “Hi, my name is ___.”
• “I need to ___.”
• “My availability is ___.”
• “Can you repeat that?”
• “Thanks, have a good day.”

Homework 3: Build frustration tolerance on purpose (tiny reps)

Once this week, don’t rescue a minor inconvenience:

• let them re-pack the forgotten item
• let them email the teacher about a missed deadline
• let them solve the “wrong bus / wrong stop” problem with you on standby

Aim for small stakes. The win is practice, not perfection.

Resource: family phrase to repeat: “Try three ways, then ask.”

Homework 4: “Green and Clean” at home (one job, one standard)

Give one household job with a clear finish line.
No step-by-step coaching. Let them decide how to do it.

Resource: Stephen Covey “Green and Clean” — search YouTube: “Green and Clean Stephen Covey”.

Homework 5: Create a rite of passage (low drama, high meaning)

Pick a milestone you can bring back:

• solo transit to a familiar place
• managing a monthly bu

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In this episode of Parents of the Year, Andrew and Caroline sit down with Mashood Ahmed, founder and CEO of GigabitIQ (the UK’s safest broadband provider) and a dad of five, to talk about what’s really happening online: strangers in game chats, disappearing messages, school-issued devices that come home unfiltered, and why a bedroom can be riskier than the park.

Mashood breaks down where parents get stuck—too many devices, too many apps, too many settings—and shares a simpler way to think about protection: start with a conversation, then add controls that actually work for real life. You’ll also hear about Parentline (parentline.ai), a free, multilingual tool built to help parents quickly figure out things like blocking TikTok, tightening Roblox settings, and creating safer home Wi-Fi rules without spending hours searching.

If you want a practical reset for your family’s digital life—without panic, guilt, or tech overwhelm—press play.

About Mashood Ahmad

Mashood Ahmad is the founder and CEO of Gigabit IQ, a broadband innovator dedicated to creating safer digital homes for children and families. As a father of five, he understands the real and growing challenges parents face in navigating big tech, social media, and hidden online harms. He is a recognised champion for online safety within the UK broadband sector and works closely with policymakers to push for stronger national protections. Mashood also created ParentLine, an AI-powered guidance tool that helps parents understand and manage online risks with clarity and confidence. His work bridges technology, parenting, and public policy to ensure families are better supported in today’s hyperconnected world.

“Homework” activities for adults + resources

Homework 1: The 10-minute “Today Online” check-in (no interrogation)

Do it: Ask one question at dinner or bedtime:
“What did you do online today that was fun… and what felt weird or uncomfortable?”
Goal: Make “tell me early” normal.

Homework 2: Device + app inventory (15 minutes, one page)

Do it: Write down every connected device your child uses (phone/tablet/laptop/console/smart TV). Under each: top 5 apps/games.
Goal: You can’t protect what you can’t name.

Homework 3: One privacy reset together

Do it: Pick one high-risk area and do it side-by-side (no surprise lock-downs).
Choose one:

• Roblox chat + friend settings
• Snapchat privacy + location
• YouTube restricted mode + watch history
• Console voice chat defaults
  Goal: Shared responsibility, less sneakiness.

Homework 4: Bedroom Wi-Fi rules (simple, clear)

Do it: Decide your “where + when” rules for devices (charging station overnight, no headphones behind closed doors, door open during multiplayer, etc.).
Goal: Reduce private access points without shame.

Homework 5: Use Parentline when you get stuck

Do it: Ask Parentline a real question you’ve been avoiding:
“How do I block TikTok on an iPhone?” / “How do I tighten Roblox?” / “What should I do about WhatsApp groups?”
Resource: parentline.ai (free, multilingual)

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Peanut butter crumbs, a surprise lap dog, and a teen who’s meeting new people at bars… this episode starts like a sitcom and lands on a real parenting pressure point: when kids start wearing diagnoses like usernames.

Andrew and Caroline talk about the “sick role” trend online—especially on short-form video—where teens self-diagnose, compare who has it worse, and sometimes copy symptoms they’ve seen on their feeds. They unpack what gets missed when labels become identity: loneliness, shaky self-worth, and a craving to feel noticed. You’ll hear why this trend can hurt kids who truly need support, why parents can’t treat siblings the same way, and what to say when your teen comes home convinced they have a specific disorder.

There’s also a reminder worth writing on the fridge: some kids are just quirky. They don’t need a label—they need their people. And, in the meantime, you’re their people.

Homework activities for adults

1. The “Two-Minute Mirror” check-in
   Ask: “What felt heavy today?” and “What felt good today?”
   Reflect back what you heard—no fixing.
2. Swap the label for the need
   “What part of that feels true—feeling overwhelmed, lonely, wired, numb, stuck, left out?”
3. Sibling spotlight audit
   Identify what each child gets attention for—and what gets missed.
4. Feed clean-up plan (together)
   Unfollow one account that fuels distress. Replace it with one that supports skill-building, humour, or learning.
5. Build a ‘their people’ map
   Home / School / Outside. Strengthen one connection this month.

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Tracking your kids can feel like “good parenting”… until it turns your home into a control room. In this Parents of the Year episode, Andrew and Caroline talk about why location-sharing and constant check-ins often backfire—especially as kids become teens and young adults.

They unpack the real driver underneath most tracking habits: adult discomfort with uncertainty. You’ll hear how “just nice to know” can quietly turn into stress, distrust, and sneaky workarounds (hello, leaving the phone somewhere “safe”). Along the way, they share what actually keeps teens talking: conversations that aren’t about school, letting kids teach you their world (yes, even Formula 1), remembering the “small” details that matter to them, and owning it when you mess up.

If you want more openness, less policing, and a relationship your teen actually uses (calls in the car, debriefs after school, mall trips by choice), this one’s for you.

“Homework” activities for adults (to support kids + teens)

1) The “Not School” Daily Check-In (7 minutes)

Once a day, ask one question that has nothing to do with grades, homework, or performance. Keep it light.
Prompt ideas: “What was the funniest thing today?” “Who made your day better?” “What’s your current obsession?”

Resource: print/write a small stack of dinner questions (they mention using a question box). Use index cards or a notes app.

2) Let Them Teach You Something (15 minutes, once a week)

Pick one of their interests and let them lead. Your job is to be curious, not clever.
Easy starters: music playlist tour, game/YouTube trend explainer, sport update, hobby demo.

Resource: a shared note called “Things I’m learning from you” where you jot down names, teams, inside jokes, friends, upcoming events.

3) The “Remember One Detail” Practice

When they mention something that matters to them (a friend issue, a teacher they can’t stand, a social moment), write one line somewhere. Bring it up later.
Goal: they feel noticed without being managed.

Resource: phone note with headings: Friends / School People / Interests / Upcoming.

4) Replace Tracking With a Simple Family Plan

Instead of location monitoring, agree on a basic rhythm:

• where you plan to be
• what time you expect to be back
• what to do if plans change
• one check-in rule for late nights (short text is enough)

Resource: a shared family note or whiteboard titled “Today’s Plan.”

5) The Clean Apology (30 seconds)

When you misread them, embarrass them, overreact, or “torpedo” your partner in front of the kids—own it fast.
Script: “I got that wrong. I’m sorry. You didn’t deserve that.”
No sermon. No courtroom defence.

Resource: keep a reminder on your phone lock screen for a week: “Repair beats being right.”

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What happens when a child feels invisible—and how can adults respond in a way that builds confidence, connection, and kindness?

In this episode of Parents of the Year, Andrew and Caroline sit down with Mark Perloe, a retired infertility physician turned children’s book author and grandfather, to talk about modern parenting through a grandparent’s lens. Mark shares the real family moments that inspired Milo’s Superpower, including sibling dynamics, screen struggles, emotional outbursts, and the quiet strengths that kids often carry unnoticed.

This conversation covers raising children across generations, respecting parenting boundaries as grandparents, supporting kids with big emotions, and using humour as a lifelong skill. You’ll hear honest stories about neurodiversity questions, screen time tension, emotional regulation, and how shared experiences—not stuff—shape children long after childhood.

Perfect for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone raising or supporting kids today.

About Mark Perloe

Mark Perloe worked as a doctor specializing in IVF for 32 years. Now retired, Mark’s favorite thing to do is spend time with his two grandsons. He also enjoys spending time with his therapy dog, Andrew. The two of them travel all over to put smiles on people’s faces. He is thrilled to be writing his first children’s book!

Homework Activities for Adults (Parents, Grandparents, Caregivers)

1. The Superpower Conversation
Ask your child or teen:
“What do you think you’re really good at?”
Follow up with where they’ve seen it help others.

Resource: Paper, markers, or notes app to write or draw their “superpower.”

2. Screen Swap Challenge (One Evening)
Replace one screen session with a shared activity: cooking, walking, storytelling, or fixing something together.

Resource: A simple activity you already enjoy—no prep required.

3. Sibling Spotlight
Spend 10 uninterrupted minutes with each child separately in the same week. No correcting, no teaching—just attention.

Resource: Timer on your phone.

4. Humour Reset
When tension rises, ask:
“How could we make this moment lighter without ignoring feelings?”

Resource: Model it yourself first.

5. Memory Over Stuff Check-In
Before buying a gift, ask:
“Would a shared experience mean more here?”

Resource: Calendar for planning time together.

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Andrew and Caroline start this episode the same way many parents start a “normal” day: northern lights, a bank visit that ate two hours, and a reminder that adulting is its own full-time job. Then they try something parents are doing more and more—asking AI for parenting advice.

They put a “nice British voice” to the test on real-life sticking points: kids refusing chores, screen-time blowups, bedtime anxiety, and the constant tug-of-war between boundaries and burnout. The advice isn’t wild… but the tone is the story. Why does AI feel so comforting? When does reassurance turn into a crutch? And what happens when “helpful” starts replacing your village?

If you’ve ever Googled a parenting question at 2 a.m., this one will hit. Expect laughs, some blunt truth about consistency, and a practical way to use AI without handing it the keys to your home.

“Homework” ideas!

Homework 1: Pick one non-negotiable and make it boring

• Choose one daily expectation (dishes in sink, teeth brushed, screen off at X).
• Say it once, neutrally.
• Follow through with a consequence you’ll actually do (pause screens, delay dessert, Wi-Fi off).
  Resource: a one-sentence script you can print:
  “When ___ is done, then ___ happens.”

Homework 2: Build a screen-time runway (no surprises)

• Give a two-step warning: “10 minutes” + “2 minutes.”
• Add a simple handoff action: “screen off → device charges here → we move.”
  Resource: set two phone alarms labeled “10” and “2,” or use a visible kitchen timer.

Homework 3: Write your “calm plan” for when you feel yourself boiling

• Pick a pattern interrupt you’ll use every time: step into hallway, cold water on wrists, 10-count down, slow exhale.
• Practice it once when you’re not mad, so it’s there when you are.
  Resource: a note on your phone lock screen: “Pause. Breathe out longer than you breathe in.”

Homework 4: Bedtime anxiety ladder (reduce reassurance over time)

• Keep routine steps in the same order nightly.
• Decide on a “stay time” (3 minutes), then shorten it every few nights.
• Use one consistent line at the door: “I’m nearby. You can do this.”
  Resource: a simple bedtime checklist your child can tick off (paper on the wall works great).

Homework 5: Use AI without letting it “parent for you”

Try a prompt that forces clarity and reduces the cheerleading:

• “Give me 3 options for handling screen-off meltdowns for a child aged __. Include exact words to say, one consequence I can enforce, and what not to do. Keep it short. No pep talk.”

Resource: save that prompt as a note called “Parenting Prompt” so you don’t spiral-scroll when you’re stressed.

Bonus Homework (from the bank + Manulife moment): Make a 30-minute “family admin” file

• One page: mortgage info, insurance contact, school logins, emergency contacts.
• Put it in a folder labeled “If I get hit by a bus.”
  Resource: shared note app doc + one printed copy.

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