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  • The Attachment Truth Every Parent Needs to Know

    The Attachment Truth Every Parent Needs to Know
    Mar 20 2026
    If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions please connect with us.Book Your Call →⁠ https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call⁠The Attachment Truth Every Parent Needs to KnowWhat if the moment your child seems "totally fine" without you is actually the most important sign to pay attention to?In this solo episode, Courtney — attachment therapist, somatic therapist, and mama — shares the developmental science that changed everything about how she parents her son Cedar. It's the information she wishes she'd had from day one. And it's something most parents have never heard.You'll Learn:What "defensive attachment" is — and why a happy, unbothered child may actually be in distressThe age children can actually hold connection while you're away (most parents are shocked)Why our culture gaslights mothers about their own instinctsHow to repair attachment ruptures — even ones that have already happenedThe 4 principles to anchor you as a conscious parent right nowTimestamps:[0:00] — Introduction from Mike[1:30] — Sacred We community update: almost 100 five-star ratings![3:00] — The gem Courtney wishes she'd known as a new mama[4:30] — How to receive this without shame[8:00] — What attachment really is: the GPS system for connection[11:00] — The retreat story: Courtney leaves at 6am and what her body said[16:30] — The sacred developmental sequence of attachment explained[18:00] — The 4-hour rule: what age can kids hold connection with distance?[20:00] — Defensive attachment: why your child looks "totally fine"[26:00] — Watching defensive attachment unfold in real time[29:00] — The repair: what Cedar finally said ("You left me. I thought you were gone forever.")[35:00] — Cultural myths that get in the way of this landing[38:00] — The real sacrifices — and the real rewards[45:00] — What it looks like when a child IS ready to be away[47:00] — 4 key principles to anchor you[49:00] — Free PDF download + Gordon Neufeld Institute recommendationResources:📥 Free PDF Guide — https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HIDD6eC6_9fdVbE8UFmBtwvzAhuOZqDy/view?usp=drive_link📖 Gordon Neufeld Institute — Power to Parent online course - https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/📅 Book a free call with Mike or Courtney — https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call⁠⁠💫 Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation — https://www.sacredrelating.com/Loved this episode? We're SO close to 100 five-star ratings on Spotify — screenshot your review and email it to us so we can celebrate with you! 💛If you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation.👉 Learn more here:⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐If this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelating**MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: **⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15
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    52 mins
  • The Great Change - Navigating the Chaos with Grace

    The Great Change - Navigating the Chaos with Grace
    Mar 13 2026
    If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but have some questions, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call →⁠ https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call⁠Are you feeling like the world is spinning faster than ever — and wondering how to keep up without burning out?In this episode, Mike and Courtney dive deep into what ancient prophecies, astrology, and spiritual teachers have long called The Great Change — a cosmic shift that's accelerating everything: technology, relationships, consciousness, and the structures of society itself.From the Hopi prophecy to Gene Keys, from Peru's ancient stone portals to Richard Rudd's teachings on the new human, Mike and Courtney weave together timeless wisdom and modern insight to help you understand why the world feels so chaotic right now — and what you can do to not just survive it, but thrive within it.In this episode, you'll discover:Why time is speeding up — and what ancient cultures predicted about this exact moment in historyThe difference between the electromagnetic energy system (old) and crystalline energy (new) — and how this shift is affecting your nervous systemThe Hopi prophecy's powerful metaphor of "getting in the canoe" and letting go of the banksHow the ego tries to keep you gripping for certainty — and why letting go actually feels betterWhy your intimate relationships are your greatest resource for navigating collective chaosThe Gene Keys concept of your vocation key — and how your deepest wound is actually your greatest gift to the worldWhat Richard Rudd revealed at his 2024 London talk about the "new human" and the significance of 2027Why interdependence — not hyper-independence — is where we truly thriveWhether you're navigating uncertainty in your relationship, your career, or your inner world — this episode is an invitation to stop fighting the current and start riding it.Hit play, get in the canoe, and let's go.Timestamps:00:00 — Introduction02:00 — About Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation04:30 — Ancient prophecies & Peru07:00 — Crystalline energy vs. electromagnetic energy09:30 — The Hopi prophecy11:00 — The ego's grip: Certainty vs. trust13:00 — Splitting into two dimensions of experience20:00 — Gene Keys & Richard Rudd22:00 — Your vocation key31:00 — Why the great change will strain relationships35:00 — The initiation: Tools AND transformationResources & References Mentioned:Gene Keys by Richard Rudd — genkeys.comThe Hopi Prophecy — search 'Hopi Blue Star Prophecy' to read the full teachingIf you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation.👉 Learn more here:⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐If this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15
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    38 mins
  • Jealousy, Partnership, and the ‘Not Enough’ Wound — Healing Side by Side

    Jealousy, Partnership, and the ‘Not Enough’ Wound — Healing Side by Side
    Mar 5 2026
    If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions, or want to know more, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-callJealousy in relationships isn’t just about insecurity — it often reveals a deeper wound of feeling “not enough.”In this episode of the Together Podcast, Mike and Courtney explore how jealousy, comparison, and fear of replacement arise inside intimate partnerships. Beneath the surface reactions of control, accusation, or emotional withdrawal often lives a deeper story: the not-enough wound.Drawing from their own relationship experiences and years of working with couples, Mike and Courtney unpack how jealousy can become either destructive or transformative depending on how partners meet it.In this conversation you’ll learn:What jealousy is really trying to reveal in relationshipsHow the “not enough” wound shows up in both partnersWhy comparison creates distance and disconnectionHow couples can turn jealousy into deeper intimacyWhat it means to heal side by side rather than aloneRather than seeing jealousy as something to eliminate, Mike and Courtney explore how it can become a doorway into vulnerability, truth, and deeper partnership.Chapters: 00:00 Jealousy Is Not The Threat00:30 Three Part Roadmap01:43 Postpartum Insecurity Story08:48 Naming Needs And Safety10:55 The Cabin Reassurance Moment19:51 Why Being Fine Disconnects24:59 Thirds And Paper Cuts29:26 Polyamory And Capacity31:24 Social Settings Coping Pattern32:40 Coping With Jealousy34:11 Reaching For Vulnerability36:42 Love Is Tender37:47 Creating Safety Together39:22 Support And Practice43:17 Self Responsibility And Growth48:02 Jealousy Versus Disconnection51:12 Mike’s Temple Trigger57:42 Needs Under The Jealousy01:05:05 Program Invitation And ClosingIf you’re ready to practice these tools inside a community of couples doing the work, we invite you to join us inside Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation.👉 Learn more here: ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐ If this episode supported you, please leave a 5-star review.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15
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    1 hr and 9 mins
  • Frustrated By A Partner Who Is Angry and Demanding — Understand Anxious Attachment So You Can Invite Real Connection

    Frustrated By A Partner Who Is Angry and Demanding — Understand Anxious Attachment So You Can Invite Real Connection
    Feb 26 2026
    Are you in a relationship where your partner feels angry, demanding, or never satisfied — yet underneath it all, you know they just want connection?In this episode, we unpack anxious attachment in relationships — and why it often doesn’t look like anxiety at all. Instead, it shows up as rage, ambivalence, push-pull dynamics, emotional outbursts, and demands for connection that paradoxically push intimacy away.We explore:The “rage–ambivalence loop” of anxious attachmentWhy anxious partners can look avoidant at timesThe illusion of presence (“I’m the only one showing up”)The demand stage vs. self-initiationHow to soothe anxious attachment without losing yourselfWhether you identify as anxious, avoidant, or secure, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening beneath conflict — and how to move from blame into embodied partnership.Chapters:00:00 When Love Feels Repetitive01:08 Program Invitation The Initiation02:24 Rate And Share Request02:57 Anxious Avoidant Setup05:32 Anxious Looks Like Anger06:54 Rage Ambivalence Loop10:10 Anxious Versus Avoidant12:35 Working With Inner Anger18:22 How To Stay Present21:38 Parenting Tantrum Parallel24:33 Hard Work For Everyone25:41 Only One Showing Up26:16 Anxious Presence Illusion28:28 Embodied Connection Skills31:37 Hyperfocus Isn’t Attunement33:18 True Presence Breakthroughs35:33 Demanding vs Self Initiating38:36 Reaching Through Old Wounds44:33 What Anxious Partners Need46:04 Relational Authority Framework48:26 Invitation to Go Deeper52:34 Closing Love and SupportIf you’re ready to stop looping the same pattern and actually transform it, our signature couples program Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation is where this work becomes lived practice.👉 Join the program or book a call via the link below.For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions, or want to know more, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15
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    54 mins
  • Masculine Shame: The Part of You That Pushes Love Away

    Masculine Shame: The Part of You That Pushes Love Away
    Feb 19 2026
    What if the part of you that feels weak is actually the key to emotional maturity, intimacy, and relational freedom?In this deeply personal solo episode, Mike explores how avoiding weakness, shame, and shadow parts of ourselves creates projection, defensiveness, and disconnection in relationships. Many of us try to build confidence, strength, discipline, and success to outrun the parts of ourselves that feel inadequate — but the more we resist weakness, the more it quietly shapes our behaviour.Drawing from personal stories, including childhood trauma, overcompensation, addiction patterns, masculine identity, and relational conflict, Mike introduces a powerful three-part framework inspired by Gene Keys shadow work: Allow. Accept. Embrace.He unpacks how unintegrated weakness leads to projection, criticism, gaslighting, emotional defensiveness, and the inability to attune in partnership — and why true intimacy begins when we stop fighting the parts of ourselves that feel small.This episode is about masculine vulnerability, shadow integration, relational accountability, and how loving your weakest parts increases your capacity to love others.For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship but also have some specific questions, let's hop on a no pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout⁠💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15
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    40 mins
  • Why Mature Love is Actually Conditional (And Why That's Safer)

    Why Mature Love is Actually Conditional (And Why That's Safer)
    Feb 12 2026
    Most of us have been told that unconditional love is the highest expression of a spiritual relationship. But what if that belief is actually killing your chance at true intimacy?In this episode, Mike and Courtney challenge the cultural narrative around unconditional love and propose something radical: that mature, evolutionary love is actually conditional. And here's what they discovered—this understanding creates MORE love, not less.If you've been feeling drained, unseen, or losing yourself in the name of love, this episode is for you.What You'll Learn:Why unconditional love often masks neglect, enabling, and soul deathThe difference between love as a feeling vs. love as an actionHow the lack of conditions actually makes us MORE selfish and less lovingThe moment Mike realized unconditional love was hurting his relationshipHow "fierce love" and clear conditions transformed their partnershipWhy boundaries and conditions are actually deeply lovingHow to identify YOUR conditions for feeling truly lovedReal examples: parenting, marriage, and supporting clients through this shiftKey Moment: Mike shares the powerful realization of honoring his own inner child and the vow he made to never abandon his own needs for love again—and how this actually deepened intimacy with Courtney.For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation. Early bird pricing available until February 19th—$2,000 savings. https://www.sacredrelating.com/Timestamps:0:01 The problem with unconditional love2:11 Introducing the radical idea: love is conditional5:01 Bell Hooks changed everything: "Love is an action"7:04 Why this matters in relationships11:47 The story: How Mike's unconditional love was actually hurting them14:47 Courtney's fierce love and what shifted15:49 The river needs banks: why conditions create safety17:34 Parenting example: How boundaries created more love19:40 Client example: How clarity on conditions changed everything20:28 Gordon Neufeld's insight: No boundaries = neglect21:52 True mature love has limits24:05 The paradox: Love as action + unconditional self-love27:42 Why knowing your conditions attracts the right partner28:27 The Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation programIf you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions, or want to know more, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: https://mindfulmeds.io/Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15
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    33 mins
  • Why Self Regulation Is Killing Your Intimacy

    Why Self Regulation Is Killing Your Intimacy
    Feb 5 2026
    🌱 If you’re feeling called to practice this work in real time, our flagship offering Evolutionary Relationship - The Initiation, price is increasing in two weeks—join at the current rate here. → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-weIf you’ve been told to take space, go into another room, and self-regulate before reconnecting with your partner, this episode may completely change how you understand intimacy.In the conscious relationship and nervous-system world, self-regulation is often treated as the gold standard for healing conflict. But what if focusing on self-regulation alone is actually creating more separation, loneliness, and disconnection in your relationship?In this deeply embodied episode, Mike & Courtney challenge the self-regulation myth and introduce a radically different approach: co-regulation as the foundation of intimacy. Drawing from attachment science, developmental psychology, and real moments from their own relationship, they explain why humans learn regulation through connection — not isolation — and why intimacy deepens fastest when partners become regulation buddies.They share how ruptures that once lasted days now resolve in minutes, why taking space too soon can reinforce attachment wounds, and how learning to stay together in dysregulation builds trust, safety, polarity, and desire.✨ In this episode:Why self-regulation alone can deepen separationHow co-regulation actually builds nervous-system resilienceWhy taking space too quickly can backfireThe concept of becoming “regulation buddies”The golden rule: connection before communicationChapters:00:00 Introduction to the Self-Regulation Myth00:51 Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation01:23 Special Offer Announcement02:13 Challenging Relationship Myths03:00 The Self-Regulation Myth Explained04:01 The Power of Co-Regulation05:11 Personal Experiences and Insights08:00 The Sacred We Space23:29 Practical Applications and Success Stories42:24 Conclusion and Invitation🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: https://mindfulmeds.io/Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15
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    45 mins
  • Loving vs Fixing: The Fine Line That Breaks Relationships

    Loving vs Fixing: The Fine Line That Breaks Relationships
    Jan 22 2026

    Do you find yourself constantly trying to help, coach, or fix your partner — and still feeling disconnected, resentful, or exhausted?In this powerful episode of the Together Podcast, Mike & Courtney explore the subtle but destructive line between loving someone and trying to fix them. While fixing often looks like care, support, or problem-solving, it frequently masks anxiety, control, and an avoidance of our own inner work — and it quietly erodes intimacy, polarity, and trust.

    Drawing from deeply personal stories from their past relationships and their current marriage, Mike & Courtney unpack the fixer–fixee dynamic, why it’s so common among helpers, coaches, and healers, and how it creates codependence rather than connection. They introduce practical frameworks like the sticky note theory, the Go First principle, and their sacred no-coaching rule — tools that help couples move out of resentment and back into true partnership.


    ✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:

    • Why fixing feels helpful but damages intimacy

    • The hidden anxiety underneath the fixer role

    • How fixing kills polarity and desire

    • The difference between reflection, vulnerability, and fixing

    • How to reclaim your own seat in relationship

    Chapters:

    00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

    01:07 The Fixer Dynamic in Relationships

    03:06 Personal Stories of Fixing

    07:10 Realizations and Shifts

    12:44 The Sticky Note Theory

    14:02 Mike's Experience with Fixing

    18:25 The Impact of Fixing on Relationships

    26:13 Personal Growth and Responsibility

    29:09 Discovering Self in Relationships

    30:30 Embodying Your Desires

    32:50 The Sacred We: A Partnership Approach

    33:57 The Mirror of Relationships

    35:53 Navigating Fixer Tendencies

    38:48 Setting Boundaries and Seeking Support

    41:54 The Power of Vulnerability

    44:19 Rules for Healthy Relationships

    46:30 Trusting the Process

    51:15 Final Thoughts and Call to Action


    🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout

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    📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast

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    53 mins