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Come Together

The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections

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Come Together

By: Emily Nagoski PhD
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From the New York Times bestselling author of Come as You Are and co-author of Burnout comes an illuminating exploration of how to maintain a happy sex life in a long-term relationship.

“Emily Nagoski is a national treasure—helping us all understand how to finally build true, joyful, confident sex lives.”—Glennon Doyle, author of Untamed

In Come as You Are, Emily Nagoski, PhD, revolutionized the way we think about women’s sexuality. Now, in Come Together, Nagoski takes on a fundamentally misunderstood subject: sex in long-term relationships.

Most of us struggle at some point to maintain a sexual connection with our partner/s or spouse. And many of us are given not-very-good advice on what to do about it. In this book, Nagoski dispels the myths we’ve been taught about sex—for instance, the belief that sexual satisfaction and desire are highest at the beginning of a relationship and that they inevitably decline the longer that relationship lasts. Nagoski assures us that’s not true.

So, what is true? Come Together isn’t about how much we want sex, or how often we’re having it; it’s about whether we like the sex we’re having. Nagoski breaks down the obstacles that impede us from enjoying sex—from stress and body image to relationship difficulties and gendered beliefs about how sex “should” be—and presents the best ways to overcome them. You’ll learn:

• that “spontaneous desire” is not the kind of desire to strive for if you want to have great sex for decades
• vocabulary for talking with partners about ways to get in “the mood” and how to not take it personally when “the mood” is nowhere to be found
• how to understand your own and your partner’s “emotional floorplan,” so that you have a blueprint for how to get to a sexy state of mind

Written with scientific rigor, humor, and compassion, Nagoski shows us what great sex can look like, how to create it in our own lives, and what to do when struggles arise.


* This audiobook edition includes a downloadable PDF of visuals and resources from the book. Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Personal Development Relationships

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“Come Together is wise and deeply comforting. Once again, Emily Nagoski is dismantling myths about sexuality and giving everyone permission to discover what is already true and love what they discover.”—Angela Chen, author of Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex
Comprehensive Relationship Advice • Inclusive Approach • Valuable Life Insights • Approachable Complex Topics

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This was a suggested read for me and now I will have to go to the first book (referenced multiple times in this book) and collect a deeper and fuller picture of sexuality. This book helped me to understand myself as well as my partners needs and hurdles. My partner is about to listen also and I believe this will help us to become an even stronger couple and have a deeper more intimate relationship.

Eye opening and informative.

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This is a must-read for everyone. Dr. Emily is extremely articulate and delivers complex and fraught topics in a way that is approachable, compassionate and humorous. I
Love how inclusive the book is as well.

Everyone should read this.

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Nogoski’s style and depth of compassion with information make this another winner. I would have liked to see a little less focus on “everyone is normal” because we now well understand that. Let’s go deeper on long term marriage challenges with sexuality. And what about this trend toward EDM?

Excellence in sexual education, now for couples.

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Nice balance of research and explanation. It was easy to listen to, and the information is so well presented. It gives me a lot to think about and consider for myself. I appreciate the inclusivity.

Very Informative and an Easy Listen

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What an incredible journey this book takes you on. The science is insightful and well researched. my favorite part about all of her books is that she's her authentic self in regards to own experiences no bullishit fooder in order to fill her books. she includes other resources such as other great authors as well.

Soul and Body Freeing

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