Come As You Are: Revised and Updated

The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life

By: Emily Nagoski Ph.D. Ph.D., Nicholas Boulton

Narrated by: Emily Nagoski Ph.D. Ph.D.

A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski’s game-changing New York Times bestseller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life.

For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart.

That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it—and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible.

Excellent revisions

Dr. Nagoski's revisions were necessary, due to some partners' incomprehension of the difference between desire and pleasure. Thanks to Dr. Nagoski for recognizing this issue publicly and addressing it with this new edition. I am in academia myself and am aware of the fragility of some egos in this domain. Dr. Nabisco handled the communicative shortcomings in the previous book with utter professionalism and with an eye to collaborative and affirming communication, most especially toward men in heterosexual partnerships. Good communication is important in partnerships between people of any gender identity and sexual orientation!

OH my WOW mind BLOWN

Hi Emily, that feeling of gratitude that you described at the end of the book. Where you’re so thankful your heart is swollen and you want to get on your knees with tears in your eyes in front of a person. Well, that’s how I feel after finishing this book. My life is changed forever. Thank you. EVERY human on this planet needs to read this book. Here’s to sexual and emotional healing and freedom for every person on this spinning floating rock we call earth.

Passionate and knowledgeable - an excellent combination.

Dr. Nagoski knows about the challenges women face, and cares deeply for their happiness. I’m a huge fan, and rather ashamed to belong to such a mysogynistic gender. Because, patriarchy. I learned a lot, and my admiration for women everywhere continues to grow. All men need to read this.

Love the book; the music is the bad part for audio

This book was very insightful and even challenged my own bias. There's a lot of metaphors which while helpful gets overwhelming. I also feel this book is heavily targeted towards women who are in relationships and yet fails to address some issues regarding the other person. Mostly anyways. this is also more targeted to women with high brakes and low accelerators (but does mention the opposite).

The reader was good. The music is what really annoyed me. It was weird listening about sexual education when its jarred with church piano. It felt like she was gonna bust a hymn as soon as the piano started.

Great book for women, even better book for men!

I think this book would be great for women but, as a man reading this, it was incredibly eye opening and helped me understand what my partner might be going through and how to help us develop our relationship instead of getting frustrated.