Controlling People

How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try to Control You

By: Patricia Evans

Narrated by: Xe Sands

Does this sound like someone you know?

• Always needs to be right. Tells you who you are and what you think.
• Implies that you're wrong or inadequate when you don't agree.
• Is threatened by people who are "different".
• Feels attacked when questioned.
• Doesn't seem to really hear or see you.

If any of the above traits sounds familiar, help is on the way! In Controlling People, best-selling author Patricia Evans tackles the "controlling personality" and reveals how and why these people try to run other people's lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavior - even as they alienate others and often lose those they love.

Controlling People helps you unravel the senseless behavior that plagues both the controller and the victim. Can the pattern, or spell, be broken? Yes! says the author. By understanding the compelling force involved, you can be a catalyst for change and actually become a spell-breaker. Once the spell is broken and the controller sees others as they really are, a genuine connection can be forged and healing can occur.

Should you ever find yourself in the thrall of someone close to you, Controlling People is here to give you the wisdom, power, and comfort you need to be a stronger, happier, and more independent person.

©2003 Patricia Evans (P)2012 Tantor

Critic reviews

"A timely book that not only helps readers free themselves from controlling types but also seeks to explain the occurrence of verbal abuse, battering, stalking, harassment, hate crimes, gang violence, tyranny, terrorism, and territorial invasion." ( Library Journal)

Insightful

I am going to listen to this book again. It was very eye opening and helped me to grow in understanding of people that control others.
The book offers me information that I need so as to be able to make hard decisions of divorce.
I listened to "verbal abusers, can he change" and I gave my spouse "The Agreement" 3 days ago. I appreciate the strength that comes with the lessons learned in listening to Patricia Evan's audiobooks.

Eye opening

Narrator was excellent. Kept me interested throughout. This is my second time listening to it with a totally different attitude and it came alive in my mind the need to break the spell of being in control. Thoroughly worth the money to purchase this book.

ABSOLUTE "MUST READ"

This information needs to be implemented as a Freshman Orientation Program.
Everyone should have this knowledge, before beginning to establish adult​ relationships.
Patricia presents how & why people control others at a personal level.
She reveals how to recognize controlling people, control techniques, the motives that drive the control and how to overcome this control.
Patricia presents this in a manner that is empathetic toward the controller, as well as the controllee.
If you recognize yourself as a controller, you too will find a way out of this destructive behavior.
Group control is touched on toward the end.

The info is great, the narrator needs some coffee

I have been dealing with controlling people all my life. This book really helped me understand why/what/how was happening in them, as opposed to feeling like I was part of the problem.
I highly recommend the book.
That said, I had to fight to listen to it to the end because the narrator is a bit bland.

good book

the surprise that came with this book is the realization that I have been a controller myself treating my kids as my teddies. for that I give the book 5 stars as I came to learn how to deal with controllers not noticing I was one.