Everybody Fights

So Why Not Get Better at It?

By: Kim Holderness, Penn Holderness

Narrated by: Kim Holderness, Penn Holderness

A USA Today and Wall Street Journal bestseller!

Learn how to fight better and end your arguments with your partner feeling closer, more loved, and better understood.

We take our cars in for oil changes. We mow our lawns and pull weeds. Why don't we do maintenance on our marriages? This relationship is the most important one we will ever have, so why not get better at it?

For the last several years, Penn and Kim Holderness of The Holderness Family have done the hard maintenance and the research to learn how to fight better. With the help of their marriage coach Dr. Christopher Edmonston, they break down their biggest (and in some cases, funniest) fights. How did a question about chicken wings turn into a bra fight (no, not a bar fight or a bra fight)? How did a roll of toilet paper lead to tears, resentment, and a stint in the guest bedroom?

With their trademark sense of humor and complete vulnerability, Penn and Kim share their 10 most common Fight Fails and how to combat them. Throughout the book, they offer scripts for how to start, continue, and successfully close hard conversations. Couples will emerge equipped to engage and understand, not do battle—and maybe laugh a little more along the way.

In Everybody Fights, couples will learn how to:

• Use "magic words" for healthy conflict resolution
• Address unspoken and unrealistic expectations
• Banish the three Ds of unhealthy communication—distraction, denial, and delay
• Carry individual baggage while helping your partner deal with theirs

Penn and Kim want you to know you're not alone. Everybody fights. Marriage is messy. Marriage is work. But marriage is worth it. Fight for it!

Great for all marriages and relationships!

No matter how long you've been married or in a relationship, this book has something for you. From real-life stories that are so easy to relate to, you can get help on a variety of relationship problems from people who have messed up and learned to do it better. I love the audio version because you can feel how personal the advice is and know it's okay because your not the only one with fights like these, and it can get better!

Excellent!

I initially purchased this book, because I love the Holderness family and their videos, so I thought it would be a fun read/listen. It did not disappoint! Not only was it highly entertaining, but it was full of practical information based on scientific research (my background is in Psychology and human development, so I can say all that they discussed is sound). My husband and I have been together for nearly 20 years and are typically in a good place, but I’ll be recommending this to him and everyone else, it’s truly wonderful! :)

Devoured it whole!

I listened while vacationing and when I reached the end I was sad for not listening more slowly! I loved every word. I loved every time you broke the fourth wall and spoke to me and to each other. I loved the lessons in the everyday fights. I love how you keep returning to each other and the love you’ve built. Thank you for writing this book. I’ll be listening again. ❤️

Thank you!

A must read or listen. Holderness humor softens some tough conversations. Magic words are key!

I really enjoyed the parts that I could hear

The biggest problem was the equipment they're using to record their voice. Apparently, they're using a microphone that goes to sleep every time they stop talking for a millisecond because the 1st consonant of every sentence is cut off. It was very difficult to enjoy and understand because of that.