I Need Your Love - Is That True?

How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead

By: Byron Katie

Narrated by: Byron Katie

In Loving What Is, bestselling author Byron Katie introduced thousands of people to her simple and profound method of finding happiness through questioning the mind. Now, I Need Your Love—Is That True? examines a universal, age-old source of anxiety: our relationships with others. In this groundbreaking book, Katie helps you question everything you have been taught to do to gain love and approval. In doing this, you discover how to find genuine love and connection.

The usual advice offered in self-help books and reinforced by our culture advocates a stressful, all-consuming quest for love and approval. We are advised to learn self-marketing and manipulative skills—how to attract, impress, seduce, and often pretend to be something we aren’t. This approach doesn’t work. It leaves millions of walking wounded—those who, having failed to find love or appreciation, blame themselves and conclude that they are unworthy of love.

I Need Your Love—Is That True? helps you illuminate every area in your life where you seem to lack what you long for most—the love of your spouse, the respect of your child, a lover’s tenderness, or the esteem of your boss. Through its penetrating inquiry, you will quickly discover the falseness of the accepted ways of seeking love and approval, and also of the mythology that equates love with need. Using the method in this book, you will inquire into painful beliefs that you’ve based your whole life on—and be delighted to see them evaporate. Katie shows you how unraveling the knots in the search for love, approval, and appreciation brings real love and puts you in charge of your own happiness.


“Everyone agrees that love is wonderful, except when it’s terrible. People spend their whole lives tantalized by love—seeking it, trying to hold on to it, or trying to get over it. Not far behind love, as major preoccupations, come approval and appreciation. From childhood on, most people spend much of their energy in a relentless pursuit of these things, trying out different methods to be noticed, to please, to impress, and to win other people’s love, thinking that’s just the way life is. This effort can become so constant and unquestioned that we barely notice it anymore.

This book takes a close look at what works and what doesn’t in the quest for love and approval. It will help you find a way to be happier in love and more effective in all your relationships. What you learn here will bring fulfillment to all kinds of relationships, including romantic love, dating, marriage, work, and friendship.” —Byron Katie©2005 Byron Katie; (P)2005 Random House, Inc. Random House Audio, a division of Random House, Inc.

Love to consume what what Katie says.

Where does I Need Your Love, Is That True? rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

I listen to this and A Thousand names for Joy over and over. I love to listen to Katie.

Who was your favorite character and why?

Most helpful in thinking differently, to see all things as for you, not against you.

Life changing

To know that my thinking is what separates me from peace also gives me the solution to any struggle. This book shares a way to discover the truth behind any stressful thought. Thank you !

Lifesaving

Katie’s clear and original thinking are soothing and freeing. Just to hear her prayer, God spare me from the desire for love and approval, started a process of internal work reversing a lifetime of approval seeking that has blinded me to the love that’s already in my life in favor of something unattainable and inappropriate. Freedom.

Life-changing

If you could sum up I Need Your Love, Is That True? in three words, what would they be?

Her work is very thought-provoking. I never thought to look at my negative thoughts like that. This is about approval-seeking, but it can be used in all areas of our lives. I wish it was longer and gave out more examples, because her techniques are quite difficult to understand.

Any additional comments?

Her narration is excellent, but the others were robotic.

One of the most helpful books I've ever listened t

Especially the first half of this book is so deep, beautiful and profound that I nearly had a second awakening because of it. The best so far out of all of Byron Katie's amazingly transformative works.