Remaining You While Raising Them

The Secret Art of Confident Motherhood

By: Alli Worthington

Narrated by: Alli Worthington

Read by the author with audiobook exclusive exercises to help lighten the mental load in categories such as decision-making, household chores, and parenting/emotional labor.

A guilt-free guide that strips away the myths you've believed about motherhood and offers you a new way to think--about your kids, yourself, and being the mom you've always wanted to be.

A recent Barna study stated that 80 percent of mothers are stressed out, 70 percent are tired, and 56 percent are overcommitted. This book is for them: every mom who feels overwhelmed, worried, stressed, overstimulated, tired, and strung out by all the demands of taking care of little--or not-so-little--humans.

Bestselling author, life and business coach, and mom of five boys Alli Worthington believes too many moms have neglected to take care of arguably the one person who matters most: themselves. In Remaining You While Raising Them, Alli shares guilt-free, often hilarious, empowering, and research-informed advice to help you:

• Intentionally care for yourself--spiritually, emotionally, and physically--amidst the demands of motherhood
• Drop the "good mom" myths that have been stealing your happiness
• Take back your own identity by discovering the unique type of mom you are
• Let go of social pressure, conquer mom guilt, and stop toxic comparison once and for all
• Discover easy tools for building your confidence and developing a healthy mom mindset

Raising children who are spiritually, emotionally, and physically healthy is essential, but to accomplish that heroic feat, mothers also need to be healthy in those areas. It's time to rediscover the beauty, the joy, and the sacred and secret art of confident motherhood together.

Journal and discussion questions, images, flowcharts, and QR codes are included in the audiobook companion PDF download.

Practical, positive advice for moms

This book provides research based, practical advice for moms in a positive and helpful way. Whatever your stage of parenting, you’re bound to glean something useful.

The book you need more than you know!!

This book will make you laugh and cry and let out that breath you didn’t realize you were holding. You won’t know just how badly you needed it until you crack open the cover and find that Alli can literally read your mind—and show you a better, freer way to live.

It’s a permission slip to turn down the volume on mom guilt. Let go of your bossy to-do list. Value the way God made YOU (and stop comparing yourself to what you’re not). Invest in your marriage, your friendships, your mental health. Unshackle yourself from myths about motherhood that steal your energy, your joy, even your ability to mother well.

great for a Bible study

Better suited for a Bible study than a mom group. I was thinking this was going to be helpful to provide support as a mom but really the only repeated message is "in God we trust" which is fine but it really shouldn't be about "remaining you" in so much as "find wholeness in God" (aka another entity, which is oddly ironic).
It's basically using faith to address issues of becoming a mother and loss of identity, which is fine if your identity is your religion instead of who you are as a person who has faith.

Life changing

So helpful. So many of my fears of parenting were just taken off my shoulders. Like Alli says, “if you’re reading this book, you’re a good mom.” The world has a way of making us think it’s all up to us. That’s a big burden to bear. Research shows we only have to get it right 50 percent of the time. I think most of us can hold on to the hope we’ve gotten it right at least 50 percent. With mom math that tells me, even if we are technically failing in motherhood, we are still winning!

An important message I didn’t realize I needed

Yet another exceptional book by Alli Worthington! As much as I love everything she puts out there, I hadn't planned on reading this one because my "to read" list is already too long, and I thought, "Eh, I'm feeling pretty good and don't really need this one." Well, I read it anyway (because, again, everything from Alli is gold), and it turns out I DID need it!

I love how Alli doesn't shy away from hard topics or being vulnerable, and her messages are always TEEMING with encouragement, love, and humble sincerity. Listening to her podcast and reading her books always make me feel like she's a close, personal friend giving me loving insight that is just what I needed to hear.

Here are a couple of my favorite snippets:

"Mothering yourself allows you to mother others well." (So simple, but I've never thought of it that way!)

"When we make mistakes, we're teaching our children how to deal with other imperfect people they'll run into in their lives." (As a perfectionist, I need to hear that my mistakes are actually GOOD for my kid.)

"The culture of anxiety over every little thing that infects moms is infecting kids, too. Worried moms raise worried kids." (Well yikes, I don't want to do that.)

"Mental load + motherhood = mother load" (More explanation in chapter 8, but a very astute observation!)

Encouraging, eye-opening, honest, sincere, vulnerable, hope-filled, and practical – This book is all that and more. So glad I decided to read this one, and I'll be coming back to it often for continued reminders and encouragement.

I would recommend this book to all moms everywhere!

As a side note, Alli’s voice is like dairy free honey butter (gentle, smooth, and sweet) to listen to, and I’m so glad she narrates!