Awareness 1: I feel very nervous asking a question on the radio because I stutter; I can speak easily with family, but with strangers it’s an ongoing struggle— I want to create an awareness to not let your disability hold you back.

Question 2: Feedback to a caller about IFS journaling: she shared that she started at a very low place about two years ago and has seen growth; Q: I see progress in the children I teach because of my effort and less about their motivation, so why does my therapist say that I deserve the credit for my own growth in therapy?

Question 3: Over the past four years I’ve had four different therapists and haven’t felt a strong connection or that they bring out the best in me; I now have a life coach I really like—should I continue trying with a therapist or stick with the life coach?

Question 4: I was told that an ASD diagnosis is not from the DSM—is that accurate?

Question 5: I stopped seeing my therapist about 4.5 years ago, but I still feel like I haven’t fully moved on and often think about how much I miss her—is this normal, and how can I move forward?

Question 1: How do you deal with being bullied, or if a child is being bullied?

Question 2: I am trying to understand the process of transference therapy; it is very difficult, and I am having a hard time with it.

Positive Feedback 3: This program has changed my life—I now understand people better, even those I previously struggled to get along with.

Question 4: I am a retired bubby, and due to health issues I cannot make Pesach in my own home. I will be going to my children, but I am taking it very hard and feel like an extra. How can I still feel happy?

Question 4B: When my children and grandchildren follow minhagim that are different from mine, I am sometimes able to stay quiet, but at other times I speak up and it ends up bothering both them and me—how should I handle this?

Question 5: How can I support a frum relative of the opposite gender who is going through a difficult time?

Question 6: I asked a rov a question and feel uneasy with the answer—how can I process that?

Question 1 – In IFS, does the process always require tuning into bodily sensations?

Question 2 – How would you explain vulnerability, and how can a person learn to express it?

Question 3 – Last year before Pesach, MW mentioned the three F’s—fight, flight, and freeze. How might those responses show up during the stress of Pesach cleaning?

Question 4 – Many people say it is healthy to be vulnerable and share openly. Why is that encouraged instead of keeping things private?

Comment 5 – I believe it is very important to share with others and not keep everything inside. I also want to share that I was in an IOP, and in my experience it seemed designed more for people who are relatively healthy.

Question 1 – I went through a situation 26 years ago, and now many of those feelings are resurfacing. I feel an urge to speak to that person again. I recently married off my youngest child three weeks ago and became a widow at a young age. Why might these old feelings be coming up now?

Question 2 – When I am in relationships with people who are complicated or struggling, I often resent them and think, “Why can’t they just be healthy and present?” But when I shift my focus to myself—my needs and what I can control—it suddenly feels easier. Why does that work?

Question 3 – With IFS, I sometimes have a hard time tuning in to my parts. Can a live demonstration help someone learn how to access their parts more easily?

Question 4 – In IFS, when I acknowledged a part, it actually made the feelings stronger and the situation feel scarier. Can this happen in therapy?

Question 5 – Someone told me that every therapy modality is perfect, and if it doesn’t work, the problem must be with the patient. Is that accurate, or can it be that a modality simply does not work well for a particular client?

Question 6 – I have a strong fear of getting haircuts. (special needs person asking).

Question 1 – What type of therapy is most effective for someone struggling with misophonia?

Question 2 – I see a therapist who has not been consistent with keeping the scheduled session times. She does not offer a make-up time when the cancellation is inconvenient for her. I feel hurt and unimportant. How should I approach this situation with her?

Question 3 – I went through a major crisis and relied heavily on a close friend for support. She later told me she wants to remain my friend but cannot be my therapist. After I continued reaching out and shared that I ended up in the emergency room, she felt I was putting guilt on her and became upset. How can I repair the relationship and rebuild the friendship?

Question 1 – I have been reading the IFS journaling over the past few weeks (Date 2/16/25 program 2 (1297) question 3). The first time I called in, it was very difficult. That same part came up again, and it required a lot of work. I feel like I need quiet and at least two to three hours in order to really do the work properly. Is that normal?

Question 2 – I have a question about attachment theory. I have a baby, and sometimes I do not always have the patience I would like to have with him, or I may leave him with a babysitter. Could that create attachment problems?

Question 3 – I would like to share that after 15 years of dating, I finally got engaged. There were many ups and downs along the way, but sometimes those challenges are part of what shapes remarkable people.

Question 4 – I am a mother of several children. I had an acquaintance who used to babysit for us for money. She often asks for money and makes many requests. How can I set a boundary without hurting her feelings? I am also concerned that if I need her help again in the future, she may say no.

Question 5 – I come from a large family with many sisters, and I am naturally closer with some than with others. I tend to be a pacifist and a people-pleaser, especially with family members. How can I maintain emotional connection while also protecting my energy? Some family members resent that I am not equally close with everyone.

Question 1 – If someone is afraid of an authority figure, could that fear stem from a painful attachment relationship earlier in life?

Question 2 – How can a person heal attachment wounds? Some people around me say that I may be afraid to go out on my own in business because of attachment-related fears.

Question 3 – I have a son who is 13–14 years old and is more sensitive. I have always tried not to “rock the boat” and to speak to him gently. How do I know when it is appropriate to be more assertive with him?

Question 4 – Regarding the IFS journaling from last week’s program (2/9/25, Program #1295): now more parts are showing up in the journaling, including a macho part, a pushy part, and a worry part that are all speaking and sharing. Is this a normal part of the process?

Question 5 – What is my role in this situation? I am close with someone who shares her shalom bayis struggles with me, but I am concerned about her adult daughter who has engaged in self-harm. When I raise the concern, she denies or minimizes it and says it was only for attention. How should I respond?

Question 5B- Another issue is that the husband is not bringing in enough income and has approached my husband to borrow money. Is it advisable for us to lend him money?

Feedback 6 – I listened again to the IFS journaling segment from the previous program, and it felt very helpful. I find it difficult to practice journaling on my own, and hearing it explained like this is teaching me how to do it.

Question 1 – My husband and my mother have a very complicated relationship, and for years they have gone back and forth between speaking and not speaking. I am in therapy and learning not to get involved between them. Recently my mother said she would only try to work things out if there is a mediator. Should I find someone?

Question 2 – If a person struggles with bitachon and it may be connected to attachment wounds, can therapy help with that? Does a rov need to be involved as well?

Question 3 – If someone has been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, can they ever heal or improve?

Question 4 – Can therapists at Serenity Center teach someone how to let go of expectations that another person will change?