Have you ever felt completely hijacked by a porn urge with no idea what to do in that moment except white knuckle your way through it or give in?

What if there was a simple, research backed experiment you could try with your very next urge that takes just a few seconds?

In this episode, you're going to walk away with a practical experiment you can begin using immediately — talking directly to your urge.

It sounds unconventional, but it is backed by research and proven to reduce urge intensity, engage your thinking brain, decrease shame, and keep you in the driver's seat when temptation hits.

You're going to get three specific, easy phrases to try with your next urge, plus a bonus hack that takes this approach even further.

Ready to take the next step? Download the free PATH Plan at heisfree.me/plan and start practicing with your very next urge.

Do you feel like your biggest problem on the freedom journey is that you just don't have enough willpower or self control? Have you ever white knuckled your way through an urge, only to eventually give in anyway and wonder what is wrong with you?

In this episode, we're flipping the script on one of the most common beliefs in the porn struggle — that freedom requires more willpower and self control. We're going to break down why fighting against an urge is like trying to push back against a powerful ocean wave. You're going to learn about concept of urge surfing, and most importantly, discover the one ingredient you actually need to handle urges effectively. Spoiler: it has nothing to do with being stronger or more disciplined.

After listening to this episode, you'll walk away understanding why willpower has been working against you, and the clarity about what to begin doing instead. Freedom does not have to be a struggle!

Ready to stop fighting and start surfing? Download the free PATH Plan at heisfree.me/plan and begin practicing with your very next urge.

Do you measure your progress on the freedom journey by how many days you've gone without porn? Have you ever felt the crushing pressure of a long streak — terrified to lose it — only to slip, hit zero, and binge for days before starting over again?

In this episode, we're diving into one of the most common and counterproductive things almost every guy does on the freedom journey — tracking his streak — and why it's actually making it harder to get free. You're going to hear 3 reasons why streak tracking is keeping you stuck, and most importantly, what to track instead that will actually move the needle toward lasting freedom.

After listening to this episode, you'll never look at your streak the same way again. You'll walk away with a completely new way to measure your progress — one that removes the pressure, survives a slip without sending you back to zero, and builds real momentum over time. This is one of those mindset shifts that changes everything.

Want to know EXACTLY what to do when the urge hits? Download the free PATH Plan at heisfree.me/plan — your clear, practical, go-to plan for every urge. Start accumulating wins and building exciting momentum!

Do you ever feel like the freedom journey is nothing more than white-knuckling your way through urges, saying no, and just trying not to look? Are you tired of freedom feeling like nothing more than abstaining from something — and longing for it to mean so much more than that?

In this episode, we're diving into one of the most energizing and practical sides of the freedom journey — what you're pursuing freedom for. Dan breaks down three powerful categories of positive porn replacements: your relationships, your health and fitness, and your dreams. These aren't just nice ideas — they're what becomes possible when porn loses its grip on your time, your mental bandwidth, and your confidence.

After listening to this episode, you'll walk away with a fresh sense of inspiration and a clear, practical direction for what to pursue as porn decreases in your life. Instead of just saying no to something harmful, you'll start saying yes to something life-giving — and that shift will fuel your freedom journey for the long haul.

If you want to take the next step on your freedom journey, head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Heisfree.me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and download the free Missing Piece Guide. It gives you the simple tools you need so you can stop feeling blindsided by urges and start feeling confident and in control.

What if battling porn urges is actually keeping you stuck?

What if the urge isn't your enemy, but a part of you actually just trying to help?

What if freedom isn't won through fighting, but through befriending?

In this episode, I sit down with Jenna Riemersma, bestselling author, licensed therapist, and Internal Family Systems (IFS) expert.

I was so excited to have Jenna on the podcast, as her work has had a huge impact on me and my life. Her book, Altogether You was life-changing for me, and we also discuss her new book, Move Toward, which takes revolutionary IFS principles and distills them into a simple, but radical 3-step tool anyone can use to completely change the way we approach our urges.

What you'll learn:

• Why the parts inside you that drive porn use are actually good (even though the behavior isn't)
• The difference between being the "conductor" vs. letting parts "drive the bus"
• How to turn toward the urge with curiosity and compassion instead of battling and judgment
• The 3-step practice begin befriending your urges instead of battling them
• Why the next time you feel the urge, you should hold it in your hand

If you're tired of fighting and ready for a different approach, this episode is for you.

Order Jenna's new book, Move Toward

Jenna's website:

https://jennariemersma.com/

Jenna's free guided exercises

https://insighttimer.com/jennariemersma

If you want to take the next step on your freedom journey, head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NewPaths.me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and download the free Missing Piece Guide. It gives you the simple tools you need so you can stop feeling blindsided by urges and start feeling confident and in control.

Ever wish you could feel more in control when the temptation hits you to view porn?

Do you ever wonder if you could get to a place where you have mastery over your urges?

What if there were a few practical steps you could take starting today, that would begin training you to handle your urges like a Jedi Master?

In this episode, I'm breaking down 3 Jedi-like skills to handle intense porn urges without giving in—skills you can start practicing today.

What you'll learn:

• Why taking a deep breath is the most powerful first step when urges hit
• How to "turn inward" and process feelings before they drive your actions
• The practice of "calmly feeling" urges without letting them sit in the driver's seat
• Why a Jedi Master feels just as intensely as anyone else (but responds differently)
• How to stay grounded when cravings spike instead of spiraling

This is a fun episode with serious, practical tools you can use immediately.

No, you don't need to be a Star Wars fan to benefit. But if you are, you may enjoy the references!

If you want to take the next step on your freedom journey, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠NewPaths.me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and download the free Missing Piece Guide. It gives you the simple tools you need so you can stop feeling blindsided by urges and start feeling confident and in control.

You slipped. You watched porn again.

Now you're stuck in shame and guilt, wondering: What's wrong with me? Why can't I stop?

Here's the truth: The freedom journey isn't perfect. You will slip.

And that's okay.

But what you do after a slip determines whether you spiral down or bounce back stronger.

In this episode, I'm giving you The Three Checkpoints—a simple, shame-free way to analyze every slip, figure out what was missing, and get back up more prepared than before.

What you'll learn:

• What to do immediately after watching porn (no shame, just next steps)
• The 3 questions to ask after every relapse that turn slips into growth
• How to know exactly what needs to be reinforced for next time
• Why slips are actually part of learning the skill of handling urges
• How to show yourself compassion instead of beating yourself up

This is a practical tool you can use every time you slip to get back on track faster and stronger.

Never again let a slip become wasted. Begin using each slip as an opportunity to learn!

If you want to take the next step on your freedom journey, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠NewPaths.me⁠⁠⁠⁠ and download the free Missing Piece Guide. It gives you the simple tools you need so you can stop feeling blindsided by urges and start feeling confident and in control.

Ever feel like the urge to watch porn is just too intense to handle?

Like you can't just sit with the craving without giving in?

You're not broken. You just need the right tool for that moment.

In this episode, I'm giving you the Urge Anchors—simple, powerful sentences you can say to yourself when porn cravings spike and feel overwhelming.

What you'll learn:

• What to do when the urge to watch porn gets really strong
• Why your thoughts during intense cravings determine whether you give in
• Specific phrases that keep you grounded instead of spiraling
• How to handle urges without fighting them (which makes them worse)

This is a practical tool you can use immediately so you never have to wonder what to do when the temptation feels overwhelming.

If you want to take the next step on your freedom journey, go to ⁠⁠⁠NewPaths.me⁠⁠⁠ and download the free Missing Piece Guide. It gives you the simple tools you need so you can stop feeling blindsided by urges and start feeling confident and in control.